Help a new mummy out !!!

[Abbiegriffiths]

So I'm really struggling with names !!!

My surname is ( griffiths )
My boyfriends surname is ( Barclay-evely )

Hence why we can't double barrel our surnames. 😢

So we decided our little boy would have my surname but we would change his surname when/ if we get married so our boys name needs to go with both our surnames .

We both originally liked the name max 🥰
That's really stuck with my boyfriend but me being me I keep changing my mind .
I would happily have max as his name but I normally like unusual names so we thought of having a name I originally like as his middle name but struggling to find one that fits both our surnames . I really like the names :

Finley
Harley
Cody
Leo
Flynn
Iv been trying to persuade my boyfriend to have max as a middle name but he's having none of it 😂😂

But I'm so stuck on what to use . Help me out 😴😴 would consider any other/new suggestions xoxox Tia xxx

I'm with your boyfriend, Max is the best of that bunch. Also calling yourself mummy is a bit twee along the "hun" lines. Parents, mother, mum, is less so.

Max is definitely the best option for a first name out of your choices - it's lovely, go with that. Plus it works well with both surname possibilities.

Max Finlay flows best I think of your choices and is the classiest option. Lovely.

Great that you are giving baby your surname, Griffiths is a nice surname too.

I think Max is a great name and should definitely stay on the shortlist because it's your partner's favourite.

Why not pick another name you both like and then wait and see which one suits baby best when he is born?

If you go with Max you could always pick a more unusual middle name.

Btw, I think it would be a shame to change his surname later but if you do eventually change it to Barclay-Evely I would avoid names ending in -y such as Finley, Harley and Cody.

Have you considered combining just one of your partner's surnames with yours, eg
Barclay-Griffiths
Griffiths-Barclay
Evely-Griffiths
Griffiths-Evely

Then if the two of you get married you could either both keep your surnames or both change your surnames to match your DS.

I'd seriously consider calling him Max short for Maxwell, Maximillion, Maximus, Maxim, (? any others) which might satisfy your yearning for more unusual names and gives him a choice when he grows up, depending on personality and so on.

Good suggestion, my favourite is Maxim.
If he's going to have a double barrelled surname it would ideally be something short like Maxim or Maxwell, nothing too long like Maximus or Maximilian.

I like Max.

Leo is really, really popular OP. It just seems unusual as you never really meet a Leo in their 20s, 30s, 40s but amongst babies now it’s the opposite of unusual. And with Finley.

Max is lovely and you can always use Maxwell or Maximilian to make it more unusual.

Griffly is a combo of both surnames

Also calling yourself mummy is a bit twee along the "hun" lines. Parents, mother, mum, is less so

How bloody patronising!

I love Leo.

Love Maxwell! Max is a cute, cheeky chappy name too. It’s my favourite from all the names you’ve put forward-sorry OP!

Griffly :D

My friends little boy is Max and he is the only one I know. It's such a lovely name and I think it is unusual nowadays.

@Bluntness100 what a pointless comment.

I don’t understand why you are giving him your surname with the idea of changing it later. Why not give him the surname he will eventually have. My DD has OH’s surname which is different to mine and we have no problems.

"I don’t understand why you are giving him your surname with the idea of changing it later. Why not give him the surname he will eventually have."

I agree about not changing it but I think he should have and keep his mother's surname

Max Griffiths-Evely is nice.
Rufus Griffiths-Evely
Luca Griffiths-Evely
Jude Griffiths-Evely

Max or Maxim Griffiths
Max Maxim Barclay-Evely

Both sound great. I only know of one Max so while it’s not unusual, I don’t think it’s super popular everywhere and I always think it’s a name that sounds like a cool kids name at any age.

Doesn’t sound like your engaged or actually planning to marry (maybe hoping to) so you’re absolutely right for baby to keep your surname (it’s the name he’ll have at birth as the hospital will put baby griffiths).

But the suggestion of Griffiths-Evely is a good one or you could call him Max middle name - Barclay surname - Griffiths.

Oh and one final thing @Bluntness100 Who are you, the name police? OP from one mummy to another, ignore that comment

Pleased others commented on the completely pointless & patronising comment above

Love Max- and adore Maxwell! I think the Names ending in 'Ly' wont work- Finley Barclay- Everly sounds like a name Sacha Baron Cohen would create for an over-exaggerated toff character.

I find Max quite a meh name, and, if this bothers you, it’s everywhere.

I like Cody, Leo and Flynn from your list.

Thank you everyone for your ideas . The reason why I would be giving him my surname with the idea of changing it later on is bc I'm only 17 atm so the idea of getting married wouldn't be happening anytime soon but my partner really wants our little one to have his surname but I don't want to do that not meaning to sound mean but you don't know why can happen in the future.

And for the petty comment about me calling myself a mummy . I am a mummy so what exactly is your problem??

I do really like the name max I think I'm just going to find a more unusual name for his middle name that doesn't end in 'y' and look at using one of my partners surnames and double barrel it with my surname xox

Thank you everyone for your ideas and help it means a lot xxx

@Bluntness100 I'm guessing this is one our recent transfers from the "other" place.

@Abbiegriffiths I think you're being really smart and showing some wisdom by giving your LO your surname. You are right that who knows what the future holds and so much changes so quickly when you are young. Absolutely give your DS your surname and it can be changed later if necessary. If you want, you could give one of your BF's surnames as a middle name. I do really like the name Max. Barclay or Evely would be quite an unusual middle name. Of course, you might choose to have two midddle names. Funnily enough, the more unusual names for children these days are ones you'll probably find boring - John, Alistair, David, Richard, Arron, etc. Congratulations on being a mummy!

Wouldn’t necessarily fit your brief, but have you considered having Griffiths as Max’s middle name?

Incidentally, I realise we don’t ‘choose’ our surnames, but your boyfriend’s is a bit of a mouthful isn’t it?! Are they his parents’ names together? They really could have done him a favour and given him one or t’other! 😂

Congratulations, mummy.

I think max is a really nice name. Maximilian is a bit more unusual so you could go with that with the nickname max.