Would you?

[willlowthewisp]

So there's only 1 name that I'm absolutely in love with for our baby girl. The only thing stopping me from using is the fact a friend from school (not a close friend but someone who I've had on Facebook for years and years) has used this name for their baby girl who is now 6months old.

Since I've been pregnant we've spoke a few times on Facebook and she always comments on my scan photos and statuses to do with the baby. From time to time we'll message and she'll ask how the pregnancy is going and things like that. I am just so in love with the name and can't find anything I like more, I've always liked it, way before she used it for her baby girl...I just feel like she's bet me to it and I have no other option but to chose another name. We're not close but have lots of mutual friends and I think people will just assume I've copied her what would you do in this situation, would you just try and find another name?

Is it an unusual name? I think I’d use it if I really loved it. It sounds like someone you’d have lost touch with pre-Facebook days so you’d never have known her dds name.

She doesn't sound a close friend, use the name you love.

If you love it go for it. The fact that someone you know (who you're not even close to) has used it really doesn't matter.

Ooh I’m dying to know the name now!
Use it, you’ll regret it if you don’t

I'd definitely use it.

The name is Aria, I know it won't be to a lot of people's taste but I just love it. I suppose it is fairly uncommon which makes me feel even more scared to use it

That's very popular and rising so if she thinks it is very unusual she is wrong.

You could use maria nn aria if you really cant face telling her that u have use thecsame name.

Unless it’s a really unusually name I think you should just use it. Two of my school friends both have sons born a few months apart who the same name. As far as I know they’re not especially close anymore although were friends at school and are fb friends. The name is a popular one and they don’t live close to one another. It’s a nonissue.

I’d probably use the name.
It doesn’t sound like your kids are likely to be going to the same baby groups, primary school etc from what you say.

I certainly wouldn’t be put off by mutual friends thinking you’re copying. It’s unlikely they’ll give a duplicated baby name more than 5 minutes thought.

If it is something really unusual and distinctive like Phaedra or Sheherezade I would have reservations, but something more widely used like Mia, Olivia or Isabelle I would go for it. But consider that you might really regret it if you choose a second best name.

Ah crossed post.

I think I would use it in your situation.

I love Aria and wish I'd used it for my dd. People put me off it saying it's becoming too popular, it's too faddy etc. I'm not having any more babies so now resign myself to the fact I can't use it so I say if you love it use it!

Aria has rocketed in popularity in the last 10 years. It’s in the top 50 girls names in England and Wales in the last year there’s data for.

names.darkgreener.com/#aria

It’s not one that’s rare enough to worry about IMO.

Also I've only come across 2 Arias age 5 and one age 1!

I think I personally wouldn’t as it would feel a bit less special. Also, in her position I think I’d feel a bit put out (and yes I know nobody owns a name) - but people can be a bit funny about baby names and not always rational (I include myself in this!)

Also, Aria is going to be the next rapidly rising name I think....

Of course you should use it. It's quite a popular name now since Game of Thrones

This is my Aria....

There are loads of Aria's lately. I liked it but went off it once I realised how popular it was becoming

Go for it! If you want to you could always message her saying something like "BTW I absolutely love the name Aria, I've actually been planning on using it for my daughter for a while now! Just thought I'd give you a heads up incase you thought I was copying"

She’s lovely, Windy! What is she?

I had a feeling it was going to be Aria. There’s so many of them around recently!
I wouldn’t use the same name in this situation but that’s just me.

It's not that unusual. If you really love it I'd use it.

There are three Aria's at my daughter's nursery! So it's rapidly gaining in popularity, if that bothers you.

If it were me I'd probably message her and say, "hey, i just wanted to give you a heads up that we're going to call our daughter Aria, as its the only name we've loved for a long time. Thanks heaps for being so interested in the pregnancy and everything! We should get our girls together sometime!"

@willlowthewisp

I meet sooo many arias. It’s definitely not too unusual to be an issue. Definitely use it.