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Did a name just come to you when baby arrived?

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 11:12

Currently 36wks pregnant with a baby girl due to be delivered by planned section next week.

Dp and i have never really settled on a name throughout pregnancy. We do have two in mind but DP isn't keen on the one i prefer and although i do like the other name too i feel like i can't commit to it.

I've been stuck in hospital for three weeks and we have now both come to the conclusion that neither of us are bothered what we call her.

Will i be on here when baby is three weeks old with a nameless baby? Or will we see her and just know?

Fwiw its been a long road here. This is my 4th pregnancy with 2mmcs and a stillbirth in between so i think that's probably why we've never really commited to a name.

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DwangelaForever · 01/01/2019 11:26

With both my daughter and my son the name that stood out the list during pregnancy was the name I ended up giving them. Charlotte for my daughter and Lewis for my son. Other names were considered for my daughter but I hated every other name with my son!

needanappp · 01/01/2019 11:26

Also 36 weeks with a girl and in exactly the same position!

I think if you have a couple of names in mind, you'll find that when you look at her one will "feel" right. That's just my experience though.

With DS we only had one boys name we liked. I panicked trying to think of alternatives incase he didn't "look like his name". When he came out he definitely did - it felt right! That being said we were very set on it whereas this time around it's all very "meh" as it sounds like it is with yourself! Maybe when she's here and you have her little face to put the name to, you'll like the name a lot more!

DwangelaForever · 01/01/2019 11:28

Charlotte was nameless for a day and a half as I didn't want to be saddled with royal connotations.

With Lewis I was in hospital for 2 weeks before he was born, knowing the date he would be born and not really caring about his name. When he was born I told my husband he would be called Lewis and that was that 😂

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 01/01/2019 11:30

I always knew what I would call a DS (first name) but I didn't have a middle name picked out. When he was born he suited the first name, and DH suggested his middle name, which i loved.

Didn't have a firm idea what I would name a girl, so I'm happy I had a boy!

lorisparkle · 01/01/2019 11:33

With all of my ds we had not decided on a name. We had a short list and when they were born we made a final decision as certain names just seemed to suit them. I would not worry, as long as you have a couple in mind it will all come together in the end.

LokiDokiArtichoki · 01/01/2019 11:34

With dd and ds1 I’d hd their names picked out since I was about 8 so had no trouble!

With Ds2 I knew what I wanted to call him it was just a case of convincing dp, which I finally did the night before I went in to be induced.

Dd2 is due in May and I have a few names floating around my head and I’m hoping that tactic works again!

ineedaholidaynow · 01/01/2019 11:40

We had a shortlist of names, but when DS was born, we decided he didn't really suit any of the boys names we had on the list. We came up with another name whilst still in the delivery room, which we had not considered before and went with that one.

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 11:53

Ahh phew. I was starting to panic i would be here in a few months saying i regret my babys name.

I think when you say a name and other people comment its so easy to put you off. Dp originally liked the name i did but his family don't and i think slowly it has made him go off it.

Then people chip in with their suggestions as well which really doesn't help.

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halcyondays · 01/01/2019 11:55

Both times we had a few names in mind and when they were born, they looked like their names, so it was quite easy.

KittyLikesMagic · 01/01/2019 12:06

With 1 it was ex h's choice. He decided while I was pregnant and that was that. I have never liked the name but by the time I was away from him it was too late to change it!

2 was decided by both me and now DH while I was pregnant. Baby arrived and it suited so we kept it. Not as keen now but again, too late to change!

3 we weren't sure on at all, we had several choices during the pregnancy but none seemed right when he arrived. We chose when he was a few hours old. It's the one I feel happiest about!

INeedNewShoes · 01/01/2019 12:10

DD's name didn't leap out at me. I chose one from a shortlist of 6. I'm going to admit now that her name has never felt 'right' but I'm posting here to tell you that it doesn't matter one jot as long as I choose not to obsess about it. I adore DD and she is thriving and happy - her name has no impact on any of that. As long as you don't saddle your child with a truly awful name, it'll be fine

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 13:14

Thank you everyone. I think i have too much time to think in here so am over thinking it.

The name i liked and have liked from quite early on is Kendal eith middle name Louise. Louise is quite common in the family on both sides and goes nice with Kendal and our surname.

Dp likes Billie. We have both liked Billie for either a boy or girl and have done through each pregnancy. A granddad on both sides also had the nickname Bill so it sits right with that but when i go to say it it kind of sticks in my mouth.

I already know Kendal is rated highly on mn from previous threads.

Fil keeps saying everyone would call her minty and his contribution is Miley which i don't like at all. My dm would pick something that she considers 'out there' but quite liked Kendal and likes Billie too.

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 13:16

I meant not rater highly lol. Not sure if it's the Kardashian link or just that people think it's an awful name.

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needanappp · 01/01/2019 13:54

I actually really like the name Kendall too but find a lot of people judge it based on the Kardashians.

If you like it, go for it! You're not naming your baby after a Kardashian, you're giving her a name you like :)

Roomba · 01/01/2019 14:09

No, I have two boys, had girls names picked out early on but just couldn't decide on boys names either time. With DS2 I had one boys name that I loved. His father detested it. So it took me a week after he was born to say well xxx is a nice name, it doesn't jump out at me as I'd hoped, but it's the only name we both agree is 'okay'. Can't imagine him being called anything else now and I adore it. With DS1 we both agreed on a name but my ex wanted the longer version which I dont like as v v old fashioned. I gave in, DS is never known by his full name at all and intends to change it at 18 to the short version. I feel sad I didn't stand up for myself more but love his actual 'used' name to bits.

MumUnderTheMoon · 01/01/2019 15:03

I came up with my daughters name the night before I went into labour totally out of the blue it wasn't like anything on my list at all.

Thesearmsofmine · 01/01/2019 15:05

With my dc we had a few names each time and decided once they were born. I know most people now pick a name before baby is born but I could never do that.

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 15:54

Thanks @needanappp.

That's my thoughts exactly, whatever people associate it with whether that be a kardashian or mint cake surely when somone close to you is named that thats what that name becomes to you?

I am just hoping when we see her it is as clear as day she is a Kendal or a Billie or something else just comes to us. I do think you kind of need to see them first.

It's great to hear so many people who have had doubts but no real regrets later down the line. That helps me not feel too stressed about it. I wondered if we were just becoming a bit too blase about something that is fairly important.

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Honeybee79 · 01/01/2019 18:00

Also having a baby girl by section next week and undecided on a name. We have a shortlist and will take a day or so after she has arrived to make sure our choice feels right for her. We did the same for our previous two and it was pretty clear once the babies were here what we wanted to name them!

All the best for next week.

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 18:40

Thanks @Honeybee79 you too! Starting to feel real now.

Been in since 13 December and tje midwife on today just popped in to say she wont see me now. She's not due back in till day after section. Eeekk!

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Honeybee79 · 01/01/2019 20:36

Nearly there! Sorry to hear you've been in hospital. It will be wonderful to have your little one out and get back home, am sure.

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Rarfy · 01/01/2019 22:12

Yep on the home stretch now. Can't complain too much the staff have been absolutely fantastic. Cant wait to bring baby up to meet them all.

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bobstersmum · 02/01/2019 11:59

I could not think of a name for my dd when I was pregnant. I had a name I was thinking we'd use but wasn't happy with it. Then one day about a month before I was due I woke up and her name came to me it was so strange! We called her that and she suits it perfectly, she could not be called anything else.

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