Surname as a middle name?

[mothertobe789]

What are peoples thoughts on using a surname as a middle name? I want to give my baby girl my maiden name as her middle name. My dad passed away last week, this is my first baby and i am devastated that he won't meet her. I really want to honour him in her name but obviously can't use his first name as she is a girl. I only have sisters and we are married now so noone to carry on my wonderful dads name.

I absolutely love this idea!

That sounds lovely.

My nephew has his mums (and my) surname as a middle name, and he loves it.

I did it with dd.

Very common in Scotland to do this. I did this too as i am the last Slippers and the name would die with me.

Strong tradition in my family over several generations - typically mixed British, and it appears in all parts of the family tree

By which I mean "yes, do it, I think it's lovely"

Yes as pp said - VERY common in Scotland. Both my parents had a traditional last name as their middle names, I have a last name as my middle name and I gave both of my children my last name as one of their middle names (for reasons similar to yours).

I'm so sorry about your father 

Very common in the North of England too, and not just after a dead grandad, but as a way to preserve the mother's name (if she's changed it). And a lovely thing to do.

I wish I'd done this for DD. A question though, when a form asks for 'forename(s)' do you put it there, or do you put it with 'surname'?

So sorry for your loss OP. My DF never got to meet his grandchildren either - DS has DF's first name as a middle name. As a second middle name he has the maiden name of DH's DM, who died a long time ago. Surnames A's first names are very usual now so it's not strange at all.

I love telling my DC about my dad, and the things he would have loved to do with them if he were here.

Thank you everyone. Its such a hard time if only he got 11 more weeks 💔 it was an unexpected death aswell.

Answer to PP i would put it in forename section probably as its not a double barrled surname

I have with my DS1. It’s a middle name not a double barrelled surname (personally hated my maiden name and couldn’t wait to get shot of it! I think DS might feel the same way!)

All the fantail sisters have done this. I like it.

My husband has this, I love it

My dad had his mother's maiden name as his middle name, so its not a new thing. He was born in 1916.

A lovely idea. Sorry for your loss.

Lovely idea!

All my children have my surname as one of their fornames, it’s quite common on my husband’s side of the family too. My FIL is known by his second name which was his mother’s maiden name (it is more common as a forename than a surname).

So sorry about your dad . I did exactly what you are proposing - gave both my DC my surname as their 2nd middle name so it's on their passports and other official documentation. They both like it and I feel glad that they have my name in there. I didn't want to double-barrel.

DS has MIL maiden name as a middle name as all other family names are represented and I wanted to recognise her side of the family before she was married.

I took DH's name but miss my maiden name sometimes...

Completely normal, very common practice.

Good plan. One of my daughters has one of the family names - Cameron - as a middle name and one of my sons has another - Stewart. As you can tell, we're Scottish, but the idea carries well south of the border too.

I love the idea, my mum wanted me to use my maiden name as my sins middle name, I shied away from the idea so never dud it. My mum has since unexpectedly dude and I regret so badly not doing it. As this was my mums long awaited 1st grandchild who she doted on for (sadly only ) 5 months.

Do it, do it. Do it 😊😊😊

My niece has my mother’s maiden name which is a popular Irish first name but as spelt differently. We all love it- in fact I sometimes wish I had got there first.