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Guilt over telling OH 'no' to his new name idea?

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cleopatracomingatya · 15/10/2018 12:18

We have had a name chosen for so long for our impending arrival – now suddenly last minute, OH has come up with a new name that I’m not 100% keen on, I’ve told him this, but he really loves it.

We both loved our previous name and the new one is a bit different… I’m trying to learn to love it but I can’t and I feel terrible!

Anyone got any tips on this? I don’t like dictating yes or no on something like this, but he really loves it and everyone else he mentions it to loves it as well?? (I just need someone to tell him it’s not a good name hahaha!)

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ZigZagZebras · 15/10/2018 12:20

If you don't like it then it can't be used.
Its not dictating, choosing a name needs to be something you both completely agree on regardless of how much he likes a name.

Me and DP both loved 2 different names, but didn't like the others choice and we ended up settling on a completely different name once we found one we both liked.

PennyMordauntsLadyBrain · 15/10/2018 12:22

Tell us what the name is and you can guarantee someone will be along to tell you why it’s not a good name Grin

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cleopatracomingatya · 15/10/2018 12:47

@PennyMordauntsLadyBrain

Hunter ...

nothing specifically wrong with it - i just think its a bit too different for my liking!

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PennyMordauntsLadyBrain · 15/10/2018 12:50

Like the wellie brand?

Or the star of 1990s gameshow Gladiators?

Wouldn’t be for me, but I like very traditional names.

If you don’t like it, that’s the end of it. Just tell him straight- a decent partner wouldn’t try and force a name choice without the other parents enthusiastic consent.

RoomWithALoon · 15/10/2018 13:20

Why on earth do you feel guilty? You both have to like it. If one of you doesn't, it's off the table.

halcyondays · 15/10/2018 13:22

Nothing to feel guilty about, you both have to like the name.

GummyGoddess · 15/10/2018 13:42

It's not a particularly different name, there are loads of toddlers with that name right now!

However I don't like it. It's an almost violent name and brings fox hunting to mind.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 15/10/2018 13:45

Oh god no, it's awful.

Joinourclub · 15/10/2018 13:47

Hunter is a bad name for so many reasons.

Hunter = basically a killer
Hunter = hunt rhymes with cunt

NoSquirrels · 15/10/2018 13:48

Just say you’ll think about it, and then say no when the baby’s here!

Bumpitybumper · 15/10/2018 13:51

If the situation was reversed and you loved a name that your OH didn't like, would you want him to force himself to like it or would you prefer it if you could agree on a name you both liked?

MollyHuaCha · 15/10/2018 13:55

Hunter is an appalling name.

Nesssie · 15/10/2018 13:57

I like it, but imo it kind of dictates who the child should be when he gets older, his personality etc. It seems to me to be an outgoing, loud kind of child, not really suited to a bookish child.

MyKingdomForBrie · 15/10/2018 13:58

There were lots of names that my DH or I loved and the other one vetoed, totally normal! Just say no, as long as you'd do the same for him (though you are doing all the work so frankly you should have a trump card!

NorthernRunner · 15/10/2018 13:59

Yes I don’t like that name at all- hunter isn’t something to be admired IMO.

LastOneDancing · 15/10/2018 14:02

Hunter is too try-hard for my liking. You'll have to give any subsequent kids names like 'Leaf', 'River' or 'Bumblebee' because you can't have a Hunter and a John, can you? (course you can but YKWIM).

When DS arrives just insist he doesn't look like a 'Hunter'.

MayFayner · 15/10/2018 14:02

If you had already agreed on a name and now your DP wants to change, why are you worried about disappointing him? It has to be a name you both like.

Wherearemycarkeys · 15/10/2018 14:09

I always feel guilty too! For some reason I find it really cute when DH gets excited about a name and I hate telling him I don't like it. I've considered some awful names because I didn't want to disappoint him!

Topseyt · 15/10/2018 14:11

Hunter is an awful name, except perhaps as a surname.

Hunter Killer!! Cunter, Cunt.

I would never normally say show someone the thread, but perhaps if he sees some of the reactions to it on here he will give his head a wobble and see how shit it is.

Anyway, you don't like it, so it should be out of the question as you both need to be on the same page here.

All of those people who have apparently told him that they love it may just be being polite.

TaurielTest · 15/10/2018 14:16

Hmm, nope. Hunter's chicken. Rhymes with "munter".
Use your power of veto!

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cleopatracomingatya · 15/10/2018 14:38

haha thank you all im glad im not just being silly, it is a difficult name isnt it!

i will stick to my guns !!

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EthelHallowsBroomstick · 15/10/2018 14:44

It's not great, but I've heard a lot worse. I wouldn't roll my eyes about it or anything.

Jaxtellerswife · 15/10/2018 14:46

I genuinely like it. But you do need to agree

Jaxtellerswife · 15/10/2018 14:46

With each other I mean

JosellaPlayton · 15/10/2018 14:48

You both have to love the name. If you feeling very generous it could be a middle name, but personally I think Hunter is awful and wouldn’t want to use it at all.