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Guilt over telling OH 'no' to his new name idea?

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cleopatracomingatya · 15/10/2018 12:18

We have had a name chosen for so long for our impending arrival – now suddenly last minute, OH has come up with a new name that I’m not 100% keen on, I’ve told him this, but he really loves it.

We both loved our previous name and the new one is a bit different… I’m trying to learn to love it but I can’t and I feel terrible!

Anyone got any tips on this? I don’t like dictating yes or no on something like this, but he really loves it and everyone else he mentions it to loves it as well?? (I just need someone to tell him it’s not a good name hahaha!)

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SoyDora · 15/10/2018 14:54

Just tell him you don’t like it! We’re currently in the process of coming up for a name for our third. Over the course of the three children I’ve suggested multiple names that I love and he’s vetoed, and vice versa. No hard feelings.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 15/10/2018 14:55

Hunter is a gladiator or a welly. You need to put your foot down.

Cosmoa · 15/10/2018 14:57

Lol.. I love the name Hunter! It joined the top 100 names chart this year so lots of other people obviously do.

But if you don't like it, you don't like it!

matley · 15/10/2018 15:11

If you don't like it then you can't use it, you have to both love it.

But IMO Hunter has entered the top 100 for a reason this year, it's a lovely name!

hungryhippie · 15/10/2018 15:14

God no, horrible name. Just reminds me of the wellies!

Shadow1234 · 15/10/2018 15:14

You cannot choose a name that only one of you likes! It has to be a joint decision. (No ifs and buts about it).

ree348 · 15/10/2018 15:32

Maybe propose to have hunter as the middle name instead?

You have BOTH got to like the name, me and my husband couldn't decide on a name for a while but we eventually got to one that we both liked.

NicePieceOfPlaid · 15/10/2018 15:32

Hunter is a surname. Don't like it at all.

finallychangedmyusername · 15/10/2018 15:55

Hunter is terrible. My DH had some terrible suggestions. That's all they were: suggestions. Only names we both loved/liked/thought were ok made it to our mutual shortlist.

Belindabauer · 15/10/2018 16:25

No don't use it if you don't like it.

OlennasWimple · 15/10/2018 16:27

We both had absolute right of veto over name suggestions: I think that's the only sensible way to make a big decision like this TBH (assuming that you are in a stable relationship with the baby's DF)

Go back to the previous name that you both agreed on and buy the baby a teddy bear called Hunter

CaptSkippy · 15/10/2018 16:28

It also rhymes with punter. I would not love this name either.

Ontopofthesunset · 15/10/2018 16:33

There is no objectively 'lovely' name. Hunter hasn't entered the top 100 because it's 'lovely', any more than Darren or Kevin or Brian are 'lovely' or were 'lovely' when they were popular. Names become popular for a variety of reasons, but it's often because of famous people or their children (Harper, Jonah, Ethan), and then they get traction because you hear the name a lot and think how nice it is.

For what it's worth I think Hunter at best is a surname and at worst is a word that means a killer of animals. It also rhymes with munter and chunter and punter. And Hunt/Hunter are such common surnames - I can't help thinking of Jeremy Hunt and his common nicknames. Tell your husband you couldn't name your child after someone who chases and kills animals for fun. That should be enough.

simbobs · 15/10/2018 16:37

You didn't specify that you were naming a child. If it is a dog, fine, but for a child, nope.

Andtheresaw · 15/10/2018 16:42

Hunter the profession or Hunter the hobbyist?
If the former, also consider Fisher, Angler, Poacher, Farmer,
If the latter, also consider Cricketer, Swimmer, Philatelist.

But seriously, it doesn't matter what I or anyone else thinks of it. If you don't like it then don't name your child that.

saganorenscarandcoat · 15/10/2018 16:44

It's a surname and it's my surname. I love it but as a surname.

OutPinked · 15/10/2018 17:53

I don’t understand your guilt. You both agreed on a name, he has now decided he prefers another last minute but you don’t like it. Use the name you both agreed on, have that as a middle name if needs be.

UntilTheVeryEnd · 15/10/2018 18:19

There was something like 97 Hunters born in Scotland last year so it’s not so out there. I know a 2 year old Hunter and it suits him well.
I’m afraid it’s my mums dogs name tho hahaha!
Naming a baby is a compromise and if you don’t love it then you have to be honest. good luck x

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 15/10/2018 19:19

Could you suggest it would make a great middle name ?

nocluenoidea · 19/10/2018 00:03

Oh no please not another Hunter! I just don't get the appeal at all, wasn't that a Gladiator back in the 90s?

Pemba · 19/10/2018 01:01

Hunter urgggh. Yes it does seem to be quite popular now, but not with anybody with any taste.

thighofrelief · 19/10/2018 22:17

Oh no. I just don't like surnames as first names on purpose. It's too Beckham.

Grimbles · 20/10/2018 19:54

Hunter is a particularly annoying character on eastenders

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