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Help! Can you give her an English name?

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RDecember · 11/10/2018 13:11

Hi! I’m looking for an English name for one of my friend’s daughter. I’ll write down a description of her below, and if any names pop into your mind then feel free to tell me! :)

She’s Asian, very pale with black hair and black eyes. Extremely pretty with a small, elfin face shape. Looks a bit cold, but she’s a friendly type of person once you get to know her, and she's not the gossipy sort (just likes to mind her own business).
Overall she has a very elegant and calm demeanor, and we agreed that her name should probably be longer than one syllable. I think she looks like an “Olivia”, and some people say that she looks like an “Iris”, but we’re looking for a name that’ll suit her better.

If you guys have any recommendations, please let us know! We'd really appreciate it

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MsMotherOfDragons · 11/10/2018 21:31

Emily

Pebblespony · 11/10/2018 21:35

I had a Korean friend named Tiffany. I think Anna or Emma like a previous poster.

nocluenoidea · 11/10/2018 21:37

Christine
Lulu
Mae

tinyradish · 11/10/2018 21:39

Eva or Eve popped into my head with that description.

LuluJakey1 · 11/10/2018 21:39

Why are you choosing it? If she's a teenager can she not choose her own name?

tootwhistles · 11/10/2018 21:49

Amy, Vivian, Grace, and my favourite would be Mia

What about Hermione?

But she should surely be able to choose her own name...

KnickerBockerGlooooory · 11/10/2018 21:55

I am also hopping on to say Jasmine.
But Mia/Tia/Macy/Thea/Cathy are also cute

MollyHuaCha · 11/10/2018 21:58

Yasmine

HairyToity · 11/10/2018 22:28

All the girls from Hong Kong at my boarding school arrived with English names they'd picked. The Japanese girls used their Japanese names, rather than change.

I think the following would work:

Eva
Georgia
Tilly
Maria

RDecember · 11/10/2018 23:07

Hi! I’m currently writing down all of the names you guys provided, thank you so much! I’m looking forward to more ;)

However I did notice that some comments showed a certain amount of confusion, and it seemed like some people just didn’t understand my reasons for this post. So I’ll just try my best to answer all of your rhetorical and literal questions. This is probably going to be a looooong comment, so if you don’t feel like reading it then please just skip it!

Q: She’s in her teens! Surely she’s old enough to pick her own name?
A: Well yes, of course she is! I’m merely just widening the options for her. I’m not just picking one by myself and telling her to stick with it. But I hope you guys understand, it’s not always that easy for someone to pick a “foreign” name for themselves. There are many culture-and-language-related factors that can make a seemingly good name into a bad one in the actual country. I have a Chinese friend who is 27 years old, and until a few months ago her English name was Cherry. And don’t get me wrong, I am a strong believer/supporter in uncommon names, but my friend was a bit mortified when she found out that her name would definitely be “strange” and “unusual” in America. She just thought it was a bit cute and a not-that-rare name in the western areas, and I remember her telling me she felt really humiliated when her foreign colleagues looked at her strangely when she introduced herself. So I don’t think it’s weird for anyone to ask advice when it comes to new names; some people choose for themselves, and some people ask around just to be sure. There’s no wrong way to go with it.

Q: Shouldn’t you try to anglicize her actual name?
A: That’s actually a pretty good idea! Unfortunately her parents are uncomfortable with the whole name being revealed, but they said I could tell you guys the first alphabet of her Korean name, which is B :)

Q: Why should she give up her name to make a new one? Is it necessary?
A: I noticed that some people actually tried to explain this in the comments, which I am truly, immensely grateful for. It’s just like they said; we are not “giving up” our original names when we’re looking for a Western name. A majority of Asians (or at least Koreans) do this a lot, and we are not giving up on our identities. Personally, I don’t think identities are something that can be so easily thrown away by a name. I also think this is a big cultural difference. Getting a new foreign name doesn’t naturally delete the original name you had, it’s just another part of you that you identify yourself with. My Korean name is Min Young, and I have heard, countless times, the wrong pronunciation by westerners. I didn’t like how my name would naturally become “Minion“ when they call me, so I just used my English name (which is Ashley) from then on. It’s for simplicity’s sake, and nothing else.

So far, we love all of the names you gave us, even the hilarious ones. Thank you!

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WaxOnFeckOff · 11/10/2018 23:12

Beth?

Sohardtochooseausername · 11/10/2018 23:12

Betty
Bella
Brenda
Breda
Bettina
Bethan
Bethany
Bobbie
Bonnie

I have been working in Asia with lots of Asians who have anglicised names. Some of the above are names they have used.

MollyHuaCha · 11/10/2018 23:19

Bathsheba

DC18 · 11/10/2018 23:24

Brianna is a lovely name and she wouldnt need to change her initals X

PippilottaLongstocking · 11/10/2018 23:30

Perhaps just ‘Bea’

badg3r · 11/10/2018 23:39

How about (Re)Becca?

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 11/10/2018 23:48

Not strictly English, but easy to pronounce: Amelie.
Or Sophia.

explodingkitten · 11/10/2018 23:48

Not asian but I use Nina when abroed. The Ni sound is the same as the beginning of my name so I tend to react to it easier than any other name. It would be easier to find a common name that starts with the same sound as her own name. It makes it sound more like your own.

MrsFoxPlus4 · 11/10/2018 23:51

If she’s in her teens surely she can say her name herself to let people know how it’s pronounced? Or even pick a new one by herself. Doesn’t sound like an Olivia to me

Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 11/10/2018 23:52

I like the idea of Bea

StrumpersPlunkett · 11/10/2018 23:55

I understand this totally
My mother in law is Pui Li
She moved to Newcastle in the 60’s and everyone called her Pauline so that was that she still is Pauline even though Pui isn’t tricky to pronounce or remember.

StrumpersPlunkett · 11/10/2018 23:57

I also like the idea of Bea but please remember that this site is very European centered you may get different responses from a us based parenting site

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 12/10/2018 00:02

Bethany
Bethan
Becky
Betsy
Bella (Isabella)
Briony
Bertie (Alberta)
Bernadette / Bernie

TheWiseWomansFear · 12/10/2018 00:04

My Chinese friends chose Tiffany, Candy and Diamond so I wouldn't leave it finally up to her 😂
Lily?

Dontfeellikeamillenial · 12/10/2018 00:06

Brooke? Please?!

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