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Naming baby after a passed family member..

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Yelsgirl · 11/09/2018 20:32

So I’m expecting a little girl
I have 3 year old boy and when I was pregnant with him my mum took her own life- was an awful horrible time

She was called Ann.
I’m thinking of calling my baby Annie
But will this have negative associations ?
I think it’s different naming baby after someone older who passed but my mum was just 46- everyone I mention it to says it’s lovely but I think they’re saying it to appease me ! So please be honest
My other option is
Edie Ann

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ajcon · 11/09/2018 20:38

Annie is gorgeous ❤️

Meepmoop · 11/09/2018 20:45

My Dad died at 43 and my nephew has his first name and my DS has his middle name. I think it's lovely

MimiSunshine · 11/09/2018 20:45

Annie is a lovely name.

However if you knew you were named after someone lost to suicide how would it make you feel?

In all honesty for me that would be more significant than the fact she was my grandmother I never knew. BUT that doesn’t mean it’s how everyone would feel.

If you’re unsure (and you clearly have doubts) then how about as a middle name where it’s more personal but not your daughters actual name?

I don’t think there is anything wrong with Edie Annie (you’ll hardly ever say them together as she grows up) if you prefer it to Ann

scrivette · 11/09/2018 20:47

Annie is a lovely name and I like the idea behind it. You are not calling the baby the same name and yet you are clearly honouring her by naming your daughter after her, I say go for it.

MissTeye · 11/09/2018 20:49

Annie is beautiful . I also think it's really nice to name her after your mum. Obviously i know nothing about why she commit suicide and it must have been horrendous for you, but if you have happy memories of her from before that, then it's a beautiful gesture

Disfordarkchocolate · 11/09/2018 20:51

It's a beautiful name but I'd be more inclined to use it as a middle name due to the history.

Soontobe60 · 11/09/2018 20:55

I'd have it as a middle name TBH.

Shadow1234 · 11/09/2018 20:56

First off, congratulations!!

I think naming your daughter after your late mother is a wonderful idea. Ann is a timeless name that never seems to go out of
fashion either. As to whether it will have negative associations,
will probably depend on you. My sister named my nephew after
my late father, and for me it has very positive associations, because
It helps keep his memory alive, and i view it as a loving tribute
to my dad. Others on here may say different, but its how you
Will feel about it at the end of the day, that matters. Good luck.

hoping2018 · 11/09/2018 20:59

It's a lovely name. I don't think how your mum died should be relevant - stigmatising suicide does not help. We need to talk openly about mental health to help more people.

That said - you need to be happy with the decision and other posters are right that if you're not, then Ann as a middle name is also a lovely gesture to your mums memory.

PellyBay · 11/09/2018 20:59

Sorry for your loss.

I think it's a good idea, and a lovely name.

And presumably you have lots of good memories of your time with your mum which you will one day tell your children about, rather than emphasizing the way in which she passed.

DH's father passed in horrific circumstances while DH was a teenager. One of our sons has his name. DH was uncertain at first, because of the circumstances in which his father passed. Like you, he wasn't sure if it was appropriate. But when he got used to the idea he became very proud of using the name, because suddenly it had positive associations for him and through that made him think more of his father's life than his death.

Cbeebiesrehab · 11/09/2018 20:59

She was your mother and if it’s something you would like to do to honour her then bugger anyone else. I think it’s a lovely idea personally. And Annie is a gorgeous name x

purpleme12 · 11/09/2018 21:00

I think it's a lovely idea and name. Personally I don't think how she died is relevant to the naming. The fact is that you're naming her after your mum because she was your mum and that's what I'd be thinking of

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Yelsgirl · 11/09/2018 21:03

Thankyou everyone ! It’s nice just to hear people’s opinions because anyone I mention it to automatically says how lovely I think because they think I want to hear it

I personally am forever going to be proud of my mum, she was my best friend and everything I hope to be to my daughter. I just know I am very biased to how much I want to honour her so wanted opinions

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Cbeebiesrehab · 11/09/2018 21:42

RavenWings · 11/09/2018 21:52

This is one of those things where there is ni right answer, its so personal. I wouldn't personally, because I think by using the name it creates an expectation for that child to live up to. I'd rather use a new name (or one from further back in the family tree) for this new person.

Anne though is easy enough to incorporate into another name. Anneliese, Annabel, Anya? And it would make a lovely middle name.

SuperstarDJ · 12/09/2018 03:12

I personally am forever going to be proud of my mum, she was my best friend and everything I hope to be to my daughter

^ Based in this statement alone then naming your DD Annie is a lovely idea. Regardless of the sentiment I think Annie is a fab name anyway!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/09/2018 07:24

I think it'd be a wonderful honor to your lovely mum. I bet she'd be over moon.
Annie is fab name. Although would you not consider just Ann. There aren't many little Anns about these days.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/09/2018 07:25

Sorry for your loss

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/09/2018 07:26

Congratulations .
It must be a very bitter sweet time for you.x

stellabird · 12/09/2018 07:28

I named my son after my beloved Dad - it's a sweet way to remember someone you loved. Dad died in a horrible way, but his name just makes me smile because of all the great memories of him. I'd go for it - Annie is a beautiful name.

PinkAvocado · 12/09/2018 07:29

Congratulations and I’m so sorry your Mum died. I would use it as a middle name. I think I’d want my own name and not to be named after such a close family member.

Eddie Ann is lovely.

LuluBellaBlue · 12/09/2018 07:29

I think it’s a beautiful idea and beautiful name, your mum would be very proud I’m sure

Aria2015 · 12/09/2018 07:31

It's a lovely name and I think it's a positive and not a negative to keep names in families. It keeps the memory of them alive. While way your mum passed away is tragic, I'm sure there was lots about her and her life that was not. Try and think of the name as a celebration of that and not just the end of her life.

butlerswharf · 12/09/2018 07:34

I think it's lovely to use Annie. You'd be naming her after your mum not after the way she passed. I don't agree there are bad connotations to the name if you're naming her after your lovely mum.

ZebraKid71 · 12/09/2018 18:33

Just the fact that you're considering it suggests to me that you have good memories of your mom and who she was as a person. How she died is irrelevant. Baby will know she was named after her grandmother, which is lovely. Annie is gorgeous. Congratulations.

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