DH set on girls name - no discussion

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I thought I was initially expecting a boy - just a feeling - so had a few names in mind after first scan showed that everything looked ok. DH didn’t like my favourite boys name but we agreed on either Matthew or Aaron. He wasn’t that keen on Matthew either but was happy for me to choose if it was a boy.

We subsequently found out that we are having a girl. He liked the name Anna which I agreed was nice and could be added to our list. He now refers to bump as Anna and won’t even consider any other girls names. He says that we agreed on the name but I only recall agreeing to it being on the shortlist.

I feel like it is such a huge decision and we haven’t considered all options.

So just wanted to see what you guys think of Anna?

I’ve had three kids and had same issue each time!! One we did pick that name other two nlt exactly. Plus I liked the discussion!!

Too many Grace about, Anna is nice and classic.

Anna is a lovely name. But it's a bit off for him to think he decides.

IMO if the family / child's surname is the man's name then the final say on first name has to lie with the mother to try and equalise things a bit

Anna is lovely

DH chose all our dcs names! I am weird though as I don't really get the interest in names, they are what they are.

I think I just had a bit of a wobble as don’t like any other names as much as Anna, Emma or Grace. My DH isn’t too keen on Grace which is why I was thinking of using it as a middle name which he is happy about. So that leaves Emma and Anna.

I did speak to DH last night based on the advice from all you ladies. He didn’t realise that I was having a wobble and genuinely thought that it was something that we had agreed on.

He said that if I preferred Emma then he would be ok with that. To be honest though I think I prefer Anna over Emma anyway! Although I’ve not told him this yet given that he is at least open to considering other names now before the final decision is made.

So.....any suggestions for short, classic names.....DH other suggestion last night was Kate?

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I like Kate a lot but would go for Katherine on the birth certificate.

Katherine Anna or Anna Katherine would work well. Or indeed Emma Katherine or Katherine Emma!

Also like Rose or Rosa as a first name. Or Mary or Maria.

You don't have to consider and dismiss all the options. Really. If you have a name that you are both happy with it doesn't matter how you got there.

@bridgetreilly. That’s so true. I’m probably over thinking as it’s my first.

Thanks to all who have replied. I’m only 16 weeks so plenty of time before final decision has to be made. Although Anna Grace is our favourite at the moment 😀 x

I don’t like it. I think it’s possibly clouded by the fact every Anna I have ever met has been an absolute bitch though!

My DP was the same and tried to push Geoffrey on me (after his Dad) I pointblank refused and we found another name we both like. You have to both agree or it doesn’t happen.

There is loads of time to decide. And I agree the woman should have the final say. I would be tempted to tell him you are going off the name because of his attitude.

Is DH 'getting' the last name? Probably. So why does he feel he gets to choose the first name too?

DH (I don't use his name) got to have DD's last name as his. I got her first name.

OP - I love Anna and Emma but for me I don't like a grrrr in a name so Grace, although beautiful not my cup of tea.

However!! You are growing this baby and will have to squeeze it out, you get veto powers over DH.

Oi!! Stop with the Anna bashing!! Guess what my name is....

@MollysMummy2010 Same here!

For what it’s worth, I like my name. Hannah was the fad name when I was small so it was nice to be a bit different but not too outlandish. I can count the number of Emmas I know into double digits.

But yes, this is a joint decision!

I think all the names are lovely, Anna Grace goes well together.
If you can't agree each write a list of names, toss and the loser picks a name off the winners list. Though if you can't agree mum gets the last say. Maybe let him pick the last name.

Aw give him Anna. You can pick the next one

He has picked this name for his little girl and it sounds like he loves this name more than the names you have picked.

Congratulations to you both.

PS it is a really lovely name.

** sounds like he loves this name more than you love the names you have picked.

I think Anna is a lovely name but if you are not sure, why not wait until your daughter is born and discuss it then? You could always incorporate Anna, eg a second name, if you prefer something else for a first.

Husband shouldn't be insisting but it may be because he is excited and feels as though he knows her already! Better than calling her, "Bump"!

If you compromise on the first name, make sure it’s your family name as the middle name and your surname .

Or if it’s his surname, it’s only fair that you get to choose the first and middle name.

Yes I think you are right @notangelinajolie. He can’t see our daughter being called anything else as loves the name so much whilst I am still on the fence even with my own suggestions!

I agree that it is mainly excitement @Rebecca36. First time Daddy and I think he just got carried away!

Thanks to all others that have replied! We do still have time to decide. We are just super organised and wanted another tick off our list. Although I don’t think that this is something that you can decide overnight!

Just thought it might be worth mentioning that the name ‘Anna’ means grace in Hebrew...so if you use Anna grace both names will have the same root meaning. Which you may or may not like!

I love Anna but why don’t you ask him to stop calling the bump it and agree to decide when she is here from your shortlist.