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DH set on girls name - no discussion

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Confuseddotcom01 · 29/08/2018 16:33

I thought I was initially expecting a boy - just a feeling - so had a few names in mind after first scan showed that everything looked ok. DH didn’t like my favourite boys name but we agreed on either Matthew or Aaron. He wasn’t that keen on Matthew either but was happy for me to choose if it was a boy.

We subsequently found out that we are having a girl. He liked the name Anna which I agreed was nice and could be added to our list. He now refers to bump as Anna and won’t even consider any other girls names. He says that we agreed on the name but I only recall agreeing to it being on the shortlist.

I feel like it is such a huge decision and we haven’t considered all options.

So just wanted to see what you guys think of Anna?

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MissWimpyDimple · 29/08/2018 19:07

I love Anna. One of my faves

EachPeachPearRum · 29/08/2018 19:08

Anna is gorgeous BUT this is more about the interaction between the two of you. Has he actually said he won't consider other names or is he just calling the bump Anna?

BakedBeans47 · 29/08/2018 19:09

Anna is fine but your DH is a douchebag

OrdinarySnowflake · 29/08/2018 19:09

If he won't consider other names, then I think it's time for a little white lie that you don't like the name Anna at all, and are there any other names he likes? Suggest Grace, Emma, ask if there's any others he likes.

You can always "come round" to the idea of Anna again later, but it seems as far as your DH is concerned you both like the name Anna so there's no point discussing other names. (That you will put it on a short list says you like the name too, so it's sorted in his head and further discussion is pointless)

JacNaylor · 29/08/2018 19:10

It's a great name but you both have to love it I think!

LonginesPrime · 29/08/2018 19:16

It's not whether we like Anna, but more that one of your first important JOINT parenting decisions has been decided by your OH....

This ^ is far more important IMO than whether Anna is a nice name.

PenelopeThePufferfish · 29/08/2018 19:21

Emma is lovely! I also love Anna, but it isn’t the point as said^^.

How about something longer with Anna as a shortening?

Annabel
Rosanna
Arianna
Anastasia (LOVE this name)
Annalise
Anita

Etc, etc

bubblybrit · 29/08/2018 19:25

@EachPeachPearRum. He is calling the bump Anna but also saying that in his opinion we picked the name together (as I said I liked it earlier) and that he sees no need to consider other names as we agreed in the beginning 😬!!

bubblybrit · 29/08/2018 19:27

@OrdinarySnowflake. That’s exactly it! He isn’t doing it to be nasty but doesn’t see the point as we both agreed that we liked it initially. I just thought we would also consider others but he is settled on Anna so thinks it’s a waste of time.

bubblybrit · 29/08/2018 19:30

@PenelopeThePufferfish. Annabel is actually where we got Anna for! Lol 😀

bubblybrit · 29/08/2018 19:31

Thanks to everyone who has replied. I just want to get the name right so I’m maybe being over sensitive given that we both like the name. Just frightened that we make a mistake for some reason!

ForeverJung · 29/08/2018 19:34

Anna is beautiful but he shouldnt be dictating to you. You have to give birth. Even if the baby were getting yr sur name, you have to give birth so i really believe final say on name should fall to the person who gives birth!

1busybee · 29/08/2018 19:34

My husband was a bit like that. I wanted to short list and discuss. He found a name we both liked and as we both liked it he thought that was decision made. It’s jusy disappointing. You need to be frank with him about how you feel!

bubblybrit · 29/08/2018 19:36

@1busybee. Did you end up choosing that name?

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 29/08/2018 19:37

Love Anna Grace OP. 💕

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 29/08/2018 20:12

What's to dislike or critic about Anna.
It's classy elegant pretty Grows with you.
and not faddy, Therefore it won't date.
However our opinion is neither here nor there. If you can't settle on it your dh is way out of line refusing to discuss other names.
I think both parties have to love and name or at least one not care.
I mean when I was born my dad just said to my mum
"Oh That's your department names". Grin

Aprilshowersinaugust · 29/08/2018 20:19

Imo until a df can push a baby out of his nether regions a dm should get the final say in the name!

Monday55 · 29/08/2018 20:25

Anna is great.
Are you disagreeing to get him back?
.
I like Annabelle, Annabella too

PeachyKeenJellymonster · 29/08/2018 20:30

Oh op we had the exact same name issue... we did agree eventually but it's a very similar name

Jackietheduck · 29/08/2018 20:39

It doesn’t matter whether WE like the name. It has to be a name you both like.

Anna is a fab name but if you feel pushed into using it, it won’t feel like lthe right name.

My DH repeatedly told me during my pregnancy how much he loved a particular name for a baby girl. It was an ok name but it was never a name I’d have chosen. I pretended to consider it and then told him it reminded me of someone and I couldn’t use it. He was disappointed but we moved on. Likewise I liked the girl’s name Alexandra and he discounted it. It has to be mutual unless one of you really doesn’t mind.

lolalotta · 29/08/2018 20:44

Not fussed on Anna, seems old fashioned to me, not in a cool way!

GenericHamster · 29/08/2018 20:49

It wouldn't matter even if you had previously agreed to it - you are allowed to discuss again before baby is here - even after!

GorgonLondon · 29/08/2018 20:52

The name itself is fine, but that's not the point. His bullying, overbearing and stonewalling is.

bubblybrit · 29/08/2018 21:02

@Monday55. No not at all. I haven’t disagreed as such as the name is still very much on my radar and I have stated that I like the name. I just wanted to have a few names on a short list which we could then decide the best name once she arrives.

banannabreadforme · 29/08/2018 21:14

My life long bf is called Anna so I think it's a gorgeous name.
If your not convinced could it be a middle name?