Santa and luella

[Whitley83]

I really like the name Santa (Spanish name) and luella... I also like Tabitha james.

I can't decide! Please don't post to be negative. Just move on.

BTW - this is Luella...

Santa Montefiore seems to have coped ok (sister of Tara Palmer Tompkinson).

Tabitha is lovely.

All names can be unisex. You just have to have some caution when breaking the convention. James for a girl would get comments but hardly be disastrous for her.

But don't spend ages agonising about middle names. They are an irrelevance. Best used to give a kind nod to some relative who would appreciate it. Beyond that pointless.

"Santa Montefiore seems to have coped ok"

I'd hazard a guess that that has more to do with her seriously upper class, landed gentry with royal family connections family, her hugely elite education and the unimaginable amount of opportunities and money than her name...

I don't think that the doll is a problem. Anabelle is still used all the time.

It's cruel to use Santa in an English speaking country. I can imagine ho ho ho jokes etc turning her into hating Xmas.

Yeah well that didn't work out so well for her sister Tara did it?

And this is a baby name thread not a class analysis one.

Unless there is a don't ask about names if you're rich and connected as you can call your privileged infant any stupid thing you like and be OK rule, which I was unaware of??

So have an unnecessary passive aggressive right back at you.

I think Cool was just pointing out that people of a higher class or ‘celeb’ babies won’t suffer the same struggles as us ordinary folk ( not saying they won’t have issues-just different ones) for example Bear Payne won’t have to worry about employers seeing his CV and thinking it’s a joke...

Santina is lovely

Santa is a girl’s name in Europe - not just Italy/Spain also Latvia etc where it’s a dim for Aleksandra.

Weird tittering about Santa Claus is just ignorant. I don’t call Father Christmas Santa anyway.

Yes, the Santa I knew, her name was short for Alexandra/Aleksandra - I never knew her long-form name. For what it's worth, I think Santa is nicer than Luella.

I can't understand why people are being so nasty. I said on the first post if you were here to be nasty please done comment but I guess the majority of you didn't read that.

This is my child and if i want to call her Santa as it's a Spanish/Italian name as well as our heritage.

James can be used as a girl or boys name.. no im not copying a celeb, it has been used as a woman's name well before it was in OK magaZine.

Luella is a correct spelling.

I honestly wouldn't dream of commenting on someone's post to be nasty or degrading, I asked for an opinion and to move on if nothing nice was to be said.

Thank you to the people who didn't put down my name choice, degrade me or make fun of me. The rest of you are just vulgar.

People are trying to prevent your child getting teased and bullied for their name. By other children, who can be utterly cruel.

But sure, go ahead and name her something stupid. If you don’t give a shit about other opinions, why bother to post? You can just pretend we all agree with you and crack on. Hell, just name her Santa Rudolph Fir Tree for all we care.

@Whitley83 I just hope your child doesn't grow up resenting you for calling her a ridiculous name, as well as a boys name for added teasing! You ask for opinions, you will get opinions, not everyone will agree with everything you think. Good luck with the name choosing.

LOVE Luella, I think it's beautiful x

'Heartbroken'

Luella best not keen on Tabitha I think it's a mouthful

Whitley I'm a teacher. I have taught scores of young people with 'interesting' names. I've witnessed just how vicious children can be.

You can assume I'm being mean, you can call me vulgar, but believe me - I'm thinking of your child. Even if you aren't.

No, bullying should not happen. But it does. Frequently. I know exactly how a group of children could react to those names and it would be unpleasant at best, utterly brutal at worst.

But hey, as long as YOU like it, who cares what the impact on your child could be...

My DH works with a Santa and it makes me smile every time he mentions her name.

I like it, but don't think I'd be brave enough to use it.

Whitley I'm a teacher. I have taught scores of young people with 'interesting' names. I've witnessed just how vicious children can be.

You can assume I'm being mean, you can call me vulgar, but believe me - I'm thinking of your child. Even if you aren't.

This.

Also, James is a boys name. Because someone else has decided to land their poor dd with it, doe not make it any less of a boys' name, it just means there is some other poor girl out there having to explain her parents' thinking EVERY damn time she gives her name anywhere.

Obviously, it is completely up to you what you call your dc. However, you have asked, on an internet forum, what people think.
If you are determined to name your child whatever name you propose, then why ask ? . Strangers on the internet will give you the truth, as opposed to people close to you who will politely smile nicely and try to think of a nice comment. That is usually why, if you aren't sure, it can be a good idea to ask strangers on the internet.

James is a boy's name. It is not unisex in any way.

I like tabitha and James as a middle name.

I don't like Santa. I don't see how it's empowering to be given an unusual name. Particularly one people will find funny. Surely it's more empowering to be given a neutral name that causes the least opinions or judgement from other people.

What's the point of asking for opinions if you only want positive ones? That's not going to tell you anything.

I don’t think anyone on here gives a shit about the well-being of this child they will never meet. It’s merely a sanctimonious excuse for indulging passive aggressive digs.

Bottom line children are not bullied for their names, they’re bullied because they’re vulnerable. If you live in a big city with a good mix of races and nationalities people are really open-minded.

People on this forum tend to be very narrow - anything unusual, foreign, or that isn’t a celebrity kid’s name - is suspect and they get aggressive.