Baby due in 8 weeks - husband and I at loggerheads

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We have agreed a boy's name, it's the girls name we're not in agreement with.

We both had a girl's name each we loved, but the other didn't. Since then, I can't find a single name I like. DH is going through lists but it's fair to say our name preferences are light years apart. I also don't understand how we managed to agree so easily on a boy's name but are finding it so hard to agree on a girl's name.

Any tips or advice? We don't know the sex, but I really want the girl's name we pick to be something we both love.
Thanks!

We were just the same - dead set and in agreement on boys names and couldn’t agree on girls at all!

Thankfully we had 2 boys!

Robyn Adela is nice but Adela Robyn would be nicer in my mind!

Our mum's names are Janice and Christina. Not fussed on either names, but they have so much meaning to Dh and I. If baby is a girl and I had it my way she'd be Adela Janice Christina, or at least, Adelena Janice Christina.

Some lovely suggestions on this post but nothing is reaching my levels of love as Adela.
I've been through tons of websites, gone through lists of thousands and thousands of names. I've gone through our baby name book with a fine tooth comb and I can't find anything.
I just don't know what to do. I've tried and tried to let go of this name, but I just can't. It's so special and important to me. Even after DH said he wasn't keen, the name has just grown and grown on me.

And on the other hand, he's just scrolling through lists on his phone in between episodes on Facebook/Tumblr etc just picking random names he kind of likes. When he showed me his list last night there were several joke names he was laughing about. I gave the list straight back to him and asked him to take out the joke names, four or five came off and he was left with a few names. He'd only got to the L names on his baby name app. He's had months and months to take this seriously. Nothing on his list had any meaning (I admit, they don't really have to), but when I've put so much effort into finding meaningful names, I'm starting to resent him being so blasé about the task!

Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant! I'm a tad frustrated!!

My DH and I couldn't agree on a name for our second. I had one that I absolutely loved and he just kept saying he didn't like it and saying random names to me. I refused to discuss it from about 30 weeks pregnant. When the baby was born the midwife asked if she had a name and I told her the name that I'd loved all along. DH just laughed and said if I wanted her to be called it that much then we'd go with it. I just asked him and he can't imagine her being called anything else now.
Not necessarily saying that's the way to get your own way mind you, just my story.

@MrKaplansGlasses, I don't think that would fly with my dh! He's far too stubborn. And most importantly, I want him to love whatever we pick too, I want us both to.

Dare I say it, but I'm starting to question Robin now. We picked it out when I was about 12 weeks pregnant and haven't revisited boy's name since. I'm a hot preggo mess at the mo!

I can see this baby having no name for a while. 😢

You say you like (a) ending names but don't like any of your husbands choices, the examples of his choices all end in (a) !

Honestly, your heart is obviously set on Adela, for very valid reasons. I think your husband just needs to suck it up and get his choice of middle name :-)

Helena? (Huntress in Batman)

Diana? (Wonder Woman!)

@MyNameIsAlexDrake If I liked every name ending in 'a', I'd have a very long list on my hands!!

Honestly, some of the names on his list aren't terrible, they're nice. But just nice. Not all of them end in 'a' either.

And as a curve ball, I had Imogen and Jasmine on my list for a while.... I took them off eventually.

I have joked that if he can't find any serious contenders to put on the table, I'll just name the baby myself if it's a girl. He's flat out told me there's no way that is going to happen.

I'm painting dh in a bad light. He's just a very last minute person. Definitely a trait in my mind, but his qualities far, far outweigh his traits.

There's always something that needs doing that will be done tomorrow... It never gets done tomorrow!!

I like Callista, I think it goes well with Thea too.

I think your DH is being a bit mean, given the significance of the name Adela to you.

Antonia ?
Emilia?
Robyn for a middle name?

He’s not being mean @TossDaily he isn’t keen so he shouldn’t have to agree.
Personally I wouldn’t want my child to have three family names and ‘none of their own’ but thats just me. Clearly the OP feels differently.

OP I know it can be difficult to let go of a name you love. I had one that I thought was perfect if our DD was a DS, my boyfriend really wasn’t keen.
I couldn’t believe it, how could he not love it 😵😳😡
But he didn’t so I had to let it go, eventually we settled on a name we both liked but it took ages (right up to just a week before the birth). In the mean time we’d been so focused on a boys name, I’d hardky thought about our girls choice and started to doubt it.

You will get there and I think Callista is a great choice and one I would consider for a 2nd DD as our first also has a Greek name.

Greek you say...

Ariana
Electra
Pheadra
Helena

Lyra
Cressida
Ophelia

Thanks everyone. I really do appreciate you all taking the time to reply, giving me some name options or opinions on the situation.

I know I need to let the name go. Head and heart working against each other unfortunately. I just wish dh would bring some serious names to the table.

Re the family name thing: it's quite a common Greek thing to recycle names within a family. I'm not necessarily saying it's right or wrong. My other three children don't have first names which have been taken from family members, this is the first time I've considered it. Aunt Adela passed away when I was a little girl. As she was my great aunt and lived in Germany, I never met her, and her name isn't well known throughout the family. Adela is five generations apart from my children. I doubt any of my kids know who she was!
Anyway, that is all irrelevant now.

Thanks again all. Back to the drawing board. As I said, I like Callista but I don't love it like I love Adela.

Seraphina
Valentina
Elisabetta

Alicia? Now that Alicia Vikander is Lara Croft, it might pass his threshold?

Artemis?

I have to say, although I think Adela is nice, it's the kind of name that would be quite hard to get used to if you don't love it. Tbh I would abandon the idea of using your mothers' names as middle names and set Adela as 'the' middle name. Then keep going until you have a compromise.

Callista Adela Cara is lovely (just hope your surname doesn't begin with K...). .

Anya
Luna
Ariana
all have similar feel to me OP

Have you considered parking the whole search for a while, and having a rest?

You talk about liking but not loving names, but as soon as they are attached to your new arrival you will love them. Rather than looking for a name you both love, how about one you both like but neither love? Seems fairest to me, and you will love your dc anyway?

(One of my ex colleagues disagreed with her then DP so much about one of their dd's names that they had a screaming row in the register office and had to leave and make a new appointment to register once they had agreed.)

Adelpha
Arista
Appollonia
Adelia
Elena
(and I always have to suggest Sofia and Klara and Stefanie as they were names I loved and I never had a dd)

Out of interest, did you not give your first daughter either of your mother/MIL's names? It seems curious to me that one DD might have neither and the other, both! If neither mum knows about your plan, would it not be easier to have Adela as the middle name instead?

Also, I would read Adela as A-Dell-A, like Adele. If it was her first name would your DD find herself correcting pronunciations? Especially given singer Adele is so well known.

Just a thought - it is a pretty name and I can totally see where you're coming from!

@AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight
Artemis? For a girl?! Are you on glue?!?!! 😂

Can't park the mum's middle names thing. It's a dead cert for the both of us I'm afraid. Our mums mean the world to us. We both adore both of them. I'm very lucky and have a great DM and MIL.

As for other name options, he has sodding Adeline on his list and Adelaide, but doesn't fecking like Adela!!!!
Sorry, should have mention that! Guilty of drip feeding, hashtag oops

I’m friends with a woman called Robina - I really like her name.