Fallen out of love with my DC's name

[Tootsings]

I don't like it at all now, really.

DH does

I loved it when pregnant.

But did think when he was born that he didn't suit it much/I didn't like the sound of it.

But couldn't change it because DH and I had bonded over the name.

Anyone else feel the same way?

I love the name OP. Your DS has a full name and there are lots of shortenings, so he can choose depending on what he wants when he's older.

Alternatively you could use or add another middle name

I knew a super Italian-Armenian V. who went by the nn pronounced as Chento (guess spelling might have been Cento as Italian, but who knows). It always sounded uplifting, and not at all like V. Maybe try that and see if it fits?

harriet (great name ) OMG I am so dense!!! Great name OP but I agree with the others, change it now rather than later if you're going to!

Makes me think of the Vega character from Pulp fiction. This is not a bad thing.

Kids grow in to their names - by the time he’s 6 months you won’t be able to imagine him being anything else!

Agree, it’s such a great name! If you definitely can’t change it I’m sure your son will grow into it and eventually you won’t be able to imagine him suiting anything else.

It was on my list for DS2 and I love it. Everyone we told about it loved it too. It is a bit marmite though to be fair, as a pp mentioned so I can see why you are doubting it. It's also hard for a baby to pull off a very adult name - my DS1 is Magnus and it seemed a very 'big' name when he was 6lb, but now he's nearly three he wears it really well.

I think it's a great name and it has a cute nickname anyway! Imagine him at 20 rather than at 14 weeks - he will be an adult way longer than he's a child and the name will feel different then.

It's a fab name but not really a cute small baby name so I can see why you are struggling. Give it another few months and his personality will be shining through more and he will suit the name much better.

Well user, Chento sounds bloody gorgeous as a nickname! Going to have to look that one up and find out proper pronunciation

And thank you all for the reassuring comments. I'm sure Vincent will suit a strapping lad of 16+ onwards

I know a V whose parents called him Inchworm as a child (???!). He used the first syllable only as a teen and was a seriously cool guy, but not in a deliberate way, iyswim. He now uses his full name as an adult (except when people call him Inchworm)

Is he called Vermeer, Van Dyck, Velazquez or should I keep guessing?
If it is what I think it is, it's fine, quite popular with a cute nn (and a not so cute one). It's ok to have doubts. You'll probably love it again soon.

hadn't RTFT. He'll grow into it.

I never lived my son’s name, didn’t hate it, but simply felt detached from it. DH adored it, and I didn’t have a deep love for another, so agreed.

DS changed it in his 20s

OP it's my DP's name!

Very very cool! Great artist and a lovely song to sing to him (with some modifications).

I could have told you Vincent
This world was always meant
For one as beautiful as you...

Toss I thought the lyrics were "this world was never made for one as beautiful as you"

You are right op, it is never meant.

Actually you are both wrong

I had exactly the same with DD's name (also begins with V!). I fought really hard for it and absolutely loved it. Then she was born and I spent a couple of months thinking I'd made a big mistake.

She is 9 yrs old now and we can't imagine her being called anything else.

I loved my dd's name before she was born but I spent nearly the whole first two years of her life thinking I'd made a terrible mistake. Reading your post has made me realise I don't worry about it anymore. I think it was actually a form of anxiety in my case and in my head I'd decided that I'd given her a bad name and ruined her life (bit dramatic). But I really tormented myself over it during those first two years. I think it's just become her name now, I think everyone kind of becomes their name. I also think it helped when she started talking and she would say "I'm Ddname" when asked what her name is.

Ask Mr Jones. If you dare.

Vinny for short?

It’s a beautiful name, I wouldn’t even shorten it or use a nn, it’s great as it is.

OP - I was modifying it to make it a bit less depressing

1. Vincent is an amazing name!
2. Don’t wake up a 14 week old who is sleeping through the night to feed.

It's a good name!

Fwiw, we named DS an old-fashioned family name from DP's family. I kind of gave up when pregnant as we couldn't agree on anything and thought we may as well have a name at least one of us loved. 16 months in I do occasionally sit there and think, how the fuck did I end up with a son with that name?

But it's his now, and it suits him, so I tend to forget about if after a while