Wow, thank you everyone for taking the time to reply with your opinions....so nice of you all; I wasn't expecting there to be so many.
Great comments, many of them echoing my own niggles about some of my own choices.
I think my thoughts now are;
Elena - (this was my original fav) it still is really BUT I fell in love with the name when I first saw it and read its pronunciation as "E-LEN-A". It was like a feeling that you just know "that's the name I want to call my daughter one day". HOWEVER...I just don't really like the other ways of pronouncing the name (they are not "wrong"; just not the same name to me. I don't know if it's something I could get past as, from experience, it's annoying having to correct people when they pronounce your name. But I LOVE it......I don't know.....name stays on maybe list.
Emma - I really really really like it. Agreed, it's strong and classic and beautiful at the same time and suits all ages. My only hesitation is I'm a child of the early 80s so it was as common as my own name when at school (therefore is it a tad boring for a name choice?)
Elle - you are all to spot on with saying it's "sticky". I think it's so pretty BUT it's like the end E sound is hard to say if that makes any sense?!? Still do like it though as an alternative to the Elena dilemma (oh god, that kind of rhymes)....
Ella - I think it's super pretty but (at the risk of causing a mumsnet storm) I feel it might be a tad "common" as in not just popular. Not that these things really matter but...
Emmy - totally agree, it can't really be used as an actual name can it. Far too cute and childlike for a grown woman one day. That said, if I was on a deserted island and didn't have to worry about anyone else I'd use it as I think it's so sweet.
Thank you for all the other E name suggestions. LOVE "Etta", very cute...but love James as a boys name so maybe not lol!
Elodie is also lovely - where has this name come from? It's like Melody without the M....but do really like it.
Elise is in the consideration pot for a middle name :)
Thanks everyone....much food for thought.....now just have to actually make a baby....and figure out my boy list too of course!
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