Help me be strong after rude comments

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DH and I have just found out our pfb will be a little girl! We're over the moon and all the family is very excited especially as she will be first grandchild also.

The problem is when family members ask about names. DH and I have pretty much been set on the girls name Aria Dawn since before ttc. But so far we've had nothing but negative comments

• can't you pick a different name? How about Ava that's much nicer?
• where did you pick that name from?

In hindsight I'd have kept quiet but the negative comments have affected me and now I'm wavering on a name I adore?

What do you guys think? Are we scarring our child for life or should I tell people to butt out?

I have to comment on this ....
We have an Aria , she is a wonderful child, bright, funny, caring mischievous, she is an absolute joy to have around ... you will not regret having an Aria in your life, I would not be without our Aria :)

Your child ... your choice and its a good one!

Good Luck!

Poor you. Stay schtum until arrival, it's your choice, and that's the end of it. I refuse to tell anyone the gender as well. Interfering mugglewumps.

I know an Aria and a Hepzibah - it's all good .

The only thing I wonder about with any name is waiting 'til until you meet them to see if it suits?

Dear God, Hepzibah is not good. At all.

She rocks it. What's your angle Molly?

My daughter is Mackenzie (which actually is historically a girl's FIRST name - loooooong time ago) and the responses I got were:

• "But that's a boy's name?" No, 'McKenzie' is a boy's name!
• "Eugh how chavvy!"

But I stuck with it because it was the name I kept springing back to! And now I couldn't imagine her being called anything else!

I like it! :) Tell them it's staying and that you weren't asking for suggestions. They really should be more polite!

We had Aria on our list for DD and made the mistake of telling our in-laws, who said they hated it. I think it's just because it sounds quite modern to their ear so they decided it wasn't a 'proper' name. We realised that we should never have mentioned any potential names in the first place! We didn't go with it in the end but I still really like it!

I would go ahead otherwise you will regret it afterwards. I can guarantee once she's here they will say nothing!

Lovely name avas, Ella's Lillies ect have been done to death

It's an unusual but lovely name.

My dd is called Evie Maisie and we had people commenting on that, someone even begged us not to call her it and she's not even a family member!

There is always going to be someone who has something to say whether it's before or after she's born. If anyone says it sounds like GoT, I don't see any issue with that either cause GoT is amazing!

It's awful. Presumably you're both good singers and are hoping DD will be, too?

I personally don't like it. If you and your dh do then don't worry. Just don't expect anyone else to think it's as great as you do and you'll be fine.

Is it ah-ria or a-ria?

I was also wondering about the pronunciation if it isn't the same as Arya.

A rear?

You've let the cat out of the bag, unfortunately, but the trick is not to tell people when they ask.

Arya . Ha Rhea or Ar rhy a

Aria - Arr rhea

IMO

The name is beautiful. Just don't tell anyone else what name you're using as people will often turn their nose up for some reason.

Going back to school days, kids can be cruel - they will make fun of any name they can - so it's worth giving a thought to naming your child something that avoids this. Initials spelling out rude words, for example. Your choice makes me think of 'di-aria', which could be unpleasant when some bright vindictive spark thinks of it.

Our families are going to hate our names
Couldn't care less and they won't find out what they are until the birth.

Why does that amuse you, oyster?

Aria is beautiful and very popular.

Aria Dawn is a lovely name.

(I prefer Aria, song, to Arya, character in a trendy but misogynistic and violent story. Much as I liked that character.)

Because our families have very conventional tastes that are very different from ours. All the other kids in the family have top 10 names, we'll be the black sheep as usual and we don't care.

My advice is to choose the name you both like. It's rude and meddling of your family members to proffer such negative comments unless asked.

In saying that, it's better to hear the negativity now beforehand rather than afterwards.

Aria rocks, obviously (check my NN😂)

Do YOU like the name Op? (The one you've chosen, not my NN)

Yes?

Then who gives a blue fuck what anyone else thinks?

I love it btw.