Help me be strong after rude comments

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DH and I have just found out our pfb will be a little girl! We're over the moon and all the family is very excited especially as she will be first grandchild also.

The problem is when family members ask about names. DH and I have pretty much been set on the girls name Aria Dawn since before ttc. But so far we've had nothing but negative comments

• can't you pick a different name? How about Ava that's much nicer?
• where did you pick that name from?

In hindsight I'd have kept quiet but the negative comments have affected me and now I'm wavering on a name I adore?

What do you guys think? Are we scarring our child for life or should I tell people to butt out?

Sorry meant to say Aria is a very pretty name and your family are being very silly and unkind.

Don't tell anyone your names

This is the first rule

The second rule of Baby Names Club, is:

YOU DO NOT TELL ANYONE YOUR NAMES.

Hipho

I like it OP ,. Its pretty and unusual

It's not really my kind of name but who cares if random people on the internet or family don't like it, as long as you and your husband are happy with the name nothing else matters.

No-one In GOT is called Aria.

She is called Arya (pronounced Arrr-Ya), it's quite different IMO

I like your chosen name, ignore other people. It's none of their business!

Aria is lovely. Too many Avas out there.

Congratulations
It's a beautiful name tell the naysayers to mind their own business. I too expected to see an outrageous name when I opened the thread

This is exactly why I'm refusing to discuss baby names with anyone other that DH.

If you love it, and he loves it, then stick with it. For what it's worth, I think it's quite pretty.

Thanks everyone. Your comments are exactly what I needed. Sorry to disappoint by choosing a "normal" name .

Will definitely keep the name to ourselves from now on and tell everyone she's going to be called "Dave or Hepzibah"

Dave 👍

Seriously though, I don't get the issue with Aria.

Ava's on the other hand are ten-a-frickin' penny where I live. Just say no.

I know an Aria. She gets confused with Harriet sometimes but I think Aria is a lovely name.

Aria is lovely, tell anyone who doesn't like it that it's not their child, so not their business!

Aria is up to you but older relatives will remember Dawn as a common name in the 70s and 80s. With apologies to all Dawns who read this post it became seen as a bit common (whatever that means).

I told everyone different names (all of them the most awful ones I could think of). There were some mixed reactions.
When DD was born we gave her a name which was nothing like any of them.

Thinking about it, it does sound a bit GoT

Aria Dawn
Arya Dorne

Lovely name.

If anybody brings up names, change the subject. It's hard to keep a name secret because you are so excited but it's better to be revealed as 'job done' when the baby is born.

It's out of the bag now, so just veer off the subject to avoid any opinions/negativity.

Cheeky fuckers chose their own kids names, so you are entitled to choose what you like for your own.

It's a lovely name OP.
Also, It's nobody else's business. I had this with all of my kids. Everyone tried to change my mind on every name. And they all got told to kindly take their opinions and shove them where the sun doesn't shine!

How rude of people! I'm due on two weeks and my little girl is going to be called Isla Grace. I've had a few people comment that's it's unusual, imo it isn't. It's unusual for the area i live in but on MN etc I've read it's pretty common.

Sod what people think, call your DD whatever you please and congratulations :)

We chose unusual names which no one liked and yes it hurt a bit when people commented but now the children totally own their names. They are also names that are now becoming quite popular 10 years on. You've chosen a beautiful name - go with it 🙂

Ignore family it's a beautiful name and they will grow to love it as much as you do once they meet your DD.
We kept ds name quiet until he was born, we still got the comments where did you find that name, our Grandparents where a bit oh followed by that's nice and the best comment goes to my DF work mate who declared it sounds like an American porn stars name!

Tell them to knob off and mind their own business.

Aria Dawn is a great name. However, even if it wasn't, the only reasonable response to a parent telling you their child's name is to enthuse about how much of a great name it is, even if it's Hepzibah-Dave

You made a mistake by telling people before she arrives. Your baby, your choice of name!

Aria is lovely, by the way. Congrats!

Aria is GORGEOUS. Ignore, ignore, ignore! This is YOUR baby. If the haters don't like it, they can have their own baby to name. Actually, this experience might be good for you. Learning to ignore all the busy bodies is crucial when you become a parent. Everyone is ALWAYS trying to tell you how you "should" be doing things.