Unisex name/NN for DD

[Beachedwh4le]

Looking for a nice unisex/boy-type name for a girl.

List at the minute:

James
Andrea - NN Andy
Adrian
Allison - NN Ally
Charlie
Alex

Also accepting things that don't begin with A

I've accidentally given my two unisex names and top of my list for dd 3 would have a boys nn.

Robyn
Meredith
Harriet (Harri)

"Looking for a nice unisex/boy-type name for a girl."

Why? What's wrong with girls?

Nothing wrong with "girls" names, just a personal preference

Harriet - Harri
Frances
Laurence- Laurie in France it's a girls name but seen as a boys in U.K.
Alexandra- Alex
Charlotte- Charlie
Olive- Oli
Henrietta- Henri
Paula- Paul
Theodora- Teddy/ Ted

I just think it's really sad not to give a girl a girl's name. What is that telling her about the way women and girls are valued? Particularly as nobody would ever post "Help me find a lovely girly name for my ds"

And naturally your opinion is valid bertandrussell but that's YOUR opinion and the OP has said she likes unisex/boy type names and wanted suggestions. Simple really. If everyone names their child the same life would be very dull indeed.

bertrand I think if I've raised her to think a persons name reflects their worth as a male or a female then I've done something very badly wrong.

Well, so long as you would cheerfully call a boy Emily..........

I once knew a woman who had been given a male name because she was the fourth daughter and the father had been desperate for a son. It screwed up her life.

Even though she subsequently changed her name, she had grown up believing she was never good enough, had very little self worth and that carried over into her adult relationships. She had a string of failed relationships with men who treated her very badly but she could never see that she was worth more. Her relationship with her parents was virtually non existent.

She committed suicide when she was 36.

I have no idea why you or your husband want to name a little girl James for example, when there are so many beautiful female names. Whether it's because one or both of you are disappointed not to be having a son or because you think its 'yoonique' or cool or any other stupid reason, please do think about the consequences.

rorty what an awful story :(

Our DD3 has a typically male name and it's most certainly NOT for that reason. And she knows it. She loves her name and she has choices.

I grew up with the most feminine name imaginable and hated it. Every double barrelled moment. Which is why I suggested the Op uses a more feminine first name.

Having choices is always good.

I've got a Roberta, we call her Bobbie. But Bertie works as well.

Rowan would be my choice, for a unisex name.

James/Dylan etc are just male names.

James would be a middle name, it's a girls name more than a boys name where my DH comes from, but we understand it's seen as a male name here so it won't be so visible as a middle name.

We will, having taken the collective advice on board, pick a more girly name for her first name.

I don't think having a "male" middle name is going to set her on a path to suicide. We just want a nice name for our DD - it's just a matter of preference, nothing else. I don't think Rowan or Ashley or Alex will do her any more or less damage than princess. It's just a name. It's not who she will be. I'm not going to call her Richard or Adam or Peter etc

Thanks for all the lovely suggestions, we have a much bigger list - and a slightly modified perspective

Sorry, I can see everyone has jumped on James a bit.

That was more of an aside in my post than the main point. Rowan is one of the few names I think is truly unisex, I've met/known of equal numbers of male/female Rowan's, enough so I wouldn't assume either way on paper.

Nico

I would have loved a girly name.. I'm quite girly. Shame we can't see into the future!

In the U.K. Though James is the same as Richard, Adam or Peter. A boys name. Not unisex.

Yea, we've realised people don't consider James to be a unisex name here, and that's why we won't give it as a first name. I don't think it will cause a problem as a middle name.

We like Olivia a lot, and gives us the option of ollie, Rowan with a Ro NN is really nice too.

Kim - I've worked with a few male Kims and female ones. Probably more male ones.

there is a human rights activist solicitor who changed her name to Gareth. It's a bloke's name IMO.

facebook founder has a daughter called Max and sting has a daughter called Mickey

Middle names really are a free for all, anything goes!

I'd say Gareth is definitely a male name

IF you are in the UK, then both James and Adrian are definitely boys names.

Personally I'm not keen on names that are unisex, but that's personal opinion, and totally respect different opinions on that, but I do think it's unkind to give a girl a clearly recognised boy's name (or a boy a name that is clearly recognised as a girl's name).

If you use a true unisex name you should use a feminine middle name, for example Kennedy Rose. Also keep in mind other children you may have like two sisters called Kennedy and Lucy might not go together. And if you have a boy then it might be hard to use names like Cameron or Luca. Just rambling here but not many people think that far ahead. Congratulations all the same!

Forgot to add, I once met a girl called Connell. I think it means 'little wolf', I thought it was seriously cool. Soft and fierce