Do we let our 3 year choose...

[kellyb220982]

Baby number 2 is due in September and we already have a DD who turned 3 in April. We waited until the 12 week scan to tell her and are trying to prepare and involve her as much as we can in the build up. She came to the 20 week scan and we'd explained for weeks before you didn't get to choose whether it was a boy/girl - she was still very definite she wanted a sister and it took some sinking in when we found out it was a boy. We are now over that hurdle and she's excited for a brother but is insisting we call him Jack. Whilst we don't mind Jack (I actually wanted Jaxon but DH said no way) our preference is Lewis and whenever we try to refer to him by this name she tells us he is called Jack. Shes actually telling everyone it is Jack (we also have no idea where that has come from). Part of me thinks we don't mind the name so let her pick it but DH says not...any advice??

Our daughter chose our sons name, thankfully we liked it. We didn't intend for her to chose she just decided and stuck to it! She's almost 8 now, and her stubborn streak continues !

My 3 yo DS wants to call DS2 "Captain Jack Sparrow". We listen to his and DD's ideas and tell them some suggestions ate on the list to consider but we will only know what his name is when he is born! It won't be Captain Jack Sparrow!

If it's a name you like, what's the problem?

Yes let her name him.

Jack is so much nicer than Jaxon or Lewis.

You cannot let a 3 year old rule such a decision, it's just not right, and will set her on the wrong path on getting "what she wants"

A compromise might be nice, if you want to involve your DD, and make her accept baby 2, maybe she could pick a teddy for baby and call him Jack?? Or maybe use as a middle name?

If jacks not the name for you, don't choose it Hun.

I know a woman called Jamie because her big sisters wanted a brother and went to school and told everyone they had a new baby called Jamie. It's a cute story and Jamie is unisex.

Jack is a name you like so it's fine to go with it if, and only if, you and DH agree to it. But if Lewis is your prefered name use Lewis.

Mine were 5 and3 when we had Ds2 and we gave them a choice between Samuel and Thomas, because we didn't mind either 😁 They chose Sam and it suits him fine

Btw, I have a Jack too, it's a top name

My brother named me. My parents selections were deemed dreadful, so in the hospital he told them what I was called and that was that.

I owe him much, I have a great name.

DD1 picked DD2s middle name, but only because she picked one we were thinking of anyway

We were down to 2 names with ds2, couldn't decide so we let ds1 make the decision. He was nearly 4 at the time and the name he didn't choose became incredibly popular in the next few years (when ds2 started school there were 5 with the same name in Reception).
So we'd obviously been happy with either name, but his chosen name, whilst quite popular but not ridiculous, made up or out there suited him well and he will never be asked to spell it

It's a good name but I have heard that it's a bad thing for a sibling to name a baby; something about potentially instilling some kind ownership or control over him/her. Could be bollocks of course.

Adagio I heard that too.

If we'd let DD choose,DS would have been called Britney Spears - poor lad!

Dd1 wanted to call her unborn brother Donnie(dc mcstuffins) or Dora(the explorer).
Obviously did not happen!

My 3yr old desperately wanted to call her sister Sarah. We let her down gently. She recently told us she doesn't like Sarah and Duck anymore and is glad we didn't listen to her. It was 2 years ago!

My old boss let his then 3 yo DD name his DS. The DS is now stuck with the name Mossy

Middle name? Lewis Jack or Jack Lewis would be nice.

I got to name my DS (I chose the most popular name in my primary school class, as is the wont of a 5 year old). My almost 3 year old wants to call the new baby 'Baby Boo', but needless to say we're not going with it...!

I'd be inclined to go with Jack, I think it's very sweet that she wants to name him :-)

Adagio I named my youngest sibling, that's a load of turd about ownership in our experience.

My DS1 named DD and DS2. He's good at picking names (dd was adamant DS2 was named "baby" until recently as there's only 19 months between them, that's why she didn't get to choose!)

Our 3yo DD named her baby brother. She isn't spoiled, doesn't feel ownership over him and doesn't expect to make decisions at any time.

She was part of a family of 3 and it was a lovely gift. Six years later she is a kind, patient, gentle sister and tells him with pride that she named him.

You don't have to do the same but you don't have to deride other people's choices or wildly generalise.

HoneyDragon that's such a sweet story :-) I wonder what your parents choices were!

Samantha or Bathsheba. . Seriously I owe him.