Friend called their daughter what we want to call our son!

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I'm due in less than 2 weeks and DH and I were pretty much decided on our son's name, Avery. We really like it and we're planning to go with it.

However, a few weeks ago I met a friend of a friend who had a baby girl 7 weeks ago. We have become really close in the last few weeks and she ha just moved to the same area of us. Problem is, she and her DH named their daughter Avery

My DH is still keen to call our boy Avery, but it feels kind of weird now. What would you do?

I'd go Rowan, Ruben or Ronan.
Deacon is cool too

Roan as opposed to Rowen us much more masculine!

Aaron? (Definitely not a dog's name!).

Does it have to be a name from Nashville then? Sorry but I don't like Deacon much at all. Should be a title, but has been misused by Americans and turned into a first name. Bit like Dean, Earl, or Duke and so gives a similar dated feel as well.

Still like Avery for a boy though.

I know a male Madison. It is now nearly always used as a female name. He ended up in a relationship with a female Madison. It was odd.

Arlo is great.

Bertie
Cuthbert
Seth
Rupert
Robin
Harold
Linus
Mason
Cooper
Kit
Rudy

DS1 is Rowan and I love it. There are no others locally that we know of, which I do like, rather than the heaps of Georges, Daniels, Josephs and Noahs there seem to be.

To me Rohan is a waterproof jacket.

Avery is ok but what about Aidan? that's kinda similar maybe and defiantly more masculine. I don't think you should use Avery. It sounds similar to Ovary and Aviary (birds cage).

Here's my two cents worth, my brother called his daughter a name that I always had in my heart that I would use one day. He had no idea I loved that name so much and I had no idea that that was the name they had picked out until after they announced the birth. I was happy for them but a bit gutted, but I didn't let it show and I called my daughter something else.

My daughter is 2 now and the name we did pick in the end is just her, it's perfect and it really captures her spirit and personality. I can't imagine her with the name that I gave up on, I really can't.

However, that's my brother and my niece, this couple might not even stick around in your life and if you still really want that name go for it. Personally I'd only give a name up if it was close family like my brother who used the name, because friends come and go and what matters now with them having that same name probably won't matter by the time the two kids are in school.

I work in office supplies. To me Avery is a supplier of labels and desktop products, so Avery is a no-no from me regardless of sex.

It would be like calling a child Tippex or Papermate.

I like Kit for a boy.

FWIW, I'd settled on "Minilurcio" for mine from early on in the pregnancy, and about a month before he was born, a friend had her son and called him "Minilurcio". I was freaked out by this for a bit, then figured it would be unusual for him not to meet quite a few other Minilurcios in his life, so I went ahead anyway. 8 years later it does not matter - we refer to them in conversation as "my Minilurcio" and "your Minilurcio". And weirdly, post birth I have become really good friends with someone else (to the extent that we go on holiday together), who also has a Minilurcio.

Admittedly Avery is a rather more unusual name, but I'd say just go for it. A few years down the line it won't matter. (And don't worry about the other child being a girl - my DS's real name is also one which can be used for girls and boys).

Conrad
Vaughn
Alban
Archer

How about Bodie?

What about Amory/Amorey ?
I like Rowan/Rohan a lot though and know a boy and a girl so named.
Personally, I wouldn't name my child the same as someone I was likely to be in close contact with in the future but if I really liked a name I might use it as a second name.

Roan ? - really - not "rowan" in pronunciation but "rown" - it's a horse colour I seem to remember

I like Ellis or West

I had both Rowan and Rohan on the shortlist for DS (who we named Reuben) but I hear them as very different names, Rohan is not just a different spelling to Rowan but pronounced differently too.

Rowan = Roe-uhn (same end sound as melon in my accent, equal emphasis on two syllables)
Rohan = Roe-han (same end sound as man, emphasis on second syllable)

Although I have never come across the name Roan before I would think that to be another name again, a single syllable name to rhyme with groan.

Rohan is a very traditional Hindi name btw from India - pronounced Row- Hun. It's the favourite name of many Indian families settled in the west.

When I was in North India the Rohan's I met pronounced it Row-Han rather than Hun but perhaps pronounciation depends on the region.

I also met several boys called Roshan (Row-Shan) which I also think is a lovely name with a similar feel.

rohan pronounced in any Indian dialect as "Han" instead of "Hun" - especially in North India - enormously surprises me. None of the north indian languages would accommodate that. Punjabi/Urdu/Hindi and their variations for example. Will ask my friends back home who still live in India and maybe they can shed light on this!

Row-Shun - is also a lovely Indian word meaning light. (Roshan). Had 3 roshans growing up in my street. Oh, India - now I am homesick :(

avery sounds too much like aviary for me. i would imagine the girl will be called ava which works for a girl. Ds could be shirtened to Ave which i quite like.

Rowan is great

Sorry to say, but IMO, way better than Avery

Given your taste,

Can I suggest:

Asa
Asher
Evan
Kester nn Kit
Levi

Aiden