Would you give your child your first name as a middle name?

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Giving your child your middle name seems quite common, or another relatives first name as a middle name. But I never seem to hear of parents giving a child their first name as a middle name?

My ILs did this with their children and my SIL did it with her first child too (despite not actually liking the first name in question ). It gets scuppered though when you have subsequent children of the same sex - what middle name do they get? I loathe my name in any case so there was no chance of doing that here.

Nothing arrogant about it imo! Each to their own..
I get that it can be seen as unimaginative, my grandad, uncle and cousin all have the same first and middle and obviously last names! But it was a tradition in my family and they get called big and little X (no idea if cousin will carry on tradition)
My first name was my dgmothers who passed away and my father named, that wasn't unimaginative either I don't think DD now has my first name as one of her middle names (wasn't my idea, DP thought it would be nice and was also a nod to Dgmother)
DP also has his fathers name as his middle name and so does his nephew so it is definitely common!! I see it as a little mark of respect and not weird at all but I get how it can be for some.

DD's middle name is my first name. It is traditional that the eldest girl of every generation has this name.

Even I think that all 3 names being the same is too much though it's so confusing when the post comes!

Ds2 has ds's first name as a middle name, mainly because we were all out of ideas

Ds has DH's name as his middle name.

And my GF's name as his first name and DH's father's name as other middle name.

I love(d) all three people so loved the names.

I wouldn't - mainly because I don't like it when families continue the same names over and over again. I think it's nice to have something new and different.

Saying that, my middle name is my mother's maiden surname (which used to be quite a tradition here) and it's also a boy's christian name.

I spent my whole childhood having kids asking me why I had a boy's middle name and pretending the initial stood for something else

It is very interesting to see how traditions are used and names passed on. Tbh this thread has made our choice a lot more now- as I essentially have no family this is the only thing from me she's getting in terms of names. My name isn't taken from a relative either, so I guess that puts a nice twist on it that we're not re-using a name for the sake of it but that if she wants to, she has something she could pass on to future generations from me

Out of interest for those who do give their children names from family members does it ever create problems in terms of one side of the family feeling left out? My parents strongly urged me not to use a family name for this very reason and as far as I am aware my DS is the first person in either family to have the names that he has.

Probably not. My name is ok I guess, I've always had a vague feeling it sort of doesn't sound like 'me' when it's used. I'd never have chosen it, but hey ho, my name and I have sort of got used to each other now,. I dont love it so much to want to pass it on though .
Family traditions like that seem a bit restrictive to me. I think brand new person, brand new name.

nightandthelight - we were lucky - DS's middle name AND DD1's middle name crop up in both families! We were able to kill several birds with one stone.

Mil was most put out when we gave ds1 my dad's name as a middle name, despite the fact that it's also her father's first name and dh's middle name. We thought we'd come up with something that would please everyone but just goes to show that's not actually possible

That was lucky Cointreau :)

People can get very funny about names open although in your case it's strange as it was a name from both sides!

It's funny though my ds's middle name happens to be his great grandfathers name and dd's name is the female version of other great grandfathers name.

Neither name rang any connection for me when we chose them in any way, but my parents were delighted and quick to point it out. They seemed to think it was all thought out and deliberate. I was oh err yes, um maybe.

Tbh my own family unit with Dh is really all I feel connected with. People who came years before in the family are of interest of course but I feel no great connection to them to the point that I would think of naming dc after them.

I lot of people I know do this. A lot. My ds1 has a middle name that is both his grandfathers first name. Ds2 has my db's name as his middle name, dd has her aunt's name as her middle name and ds3 has a shortened version of dp's name as his middle name. All perfectly normal and tributes to lovely family members. Oh, and ds2 also has the same first name as his grandad's nick name, grandad called John but known as Jack, ds2 named Jack.

Dd has a random middle name, ds1 has dh's name as his middle name as they go well together and ds2 has my late father's name as his middle name. I like it.

I think it's a little odd. I like the idea of giving a child a family name as a middle name but more so along the lines of a grandparent or great grandparent. DD actually has my cousin's name as her middle name as my cousin died shortly before she was born. But I think it would be odd to have given her my name as a middle name.

My middle name is my mother's Christian name. I've no idea why but I love that I have it because she died when I was very young. DD now has the same name as one of her middle names.

DH has his Dad's name as a middle name and DS has DH's name as a middle name.
His full name is quite traditional, scans nicely and TBH we couldn't think of that many boys names we liked. I like but don't love DS name, I'm glad I picked it.
I don't think DS will be embarrassed about his name when older.

Dd3 has my first name as her middle name.
We found it difficult to agree on a name for her, and then it was tricky to find a middle name to go with her first name. Dh suggested my name and it went quite nicely.

DS has DH's first name as a middle name. It's also his DM's maiden name. Neither of DH's cousins who have this as a surname have children so it keeps the name going.
DS first name was deliberately chosen to have no family history behind it at all. It's a clasic, solid Scottish name though.

I have the same first name as my DM and both my DGM's first names as middle names. I love them all and would happily have been called any of them.

Both my girls have variations of my first name. Baby due in July will have my sisters name as a middle name. My sister died yesterday

DS is Evan Stephen John

Stephen is my DH and FIL name
John is my DF name

Evan is Welsh for John - and it was extremely important to me that DS had John as a middle name. But we couldn't call him John John

My dd has my name as her middle name.
I always wanted to do that and after 3 boys I fejt Id earned it she loves it and I feel ill live on.

Jw. I'm so sorry