I stupidly told dm what I planned to call ds2

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I just can't keep secrets! She frowned and suggested a load of other names and now I'm doubting my choice. Argh!

Ds1 has a slightly unusual name (often either praised on mn or slated for being too 'aspirational'), so wanted something slightly more run of the mill for ds2. I love Rupert but considering my very northern, wc pil can barely bring themselves to say ds1's name we decided to compromise and choose Rowan.

Having stupidly told dm the name I'm now doubting myself. It's alright isn't it? And wouldn't sound too odd with a sibling with a slightly unusual name?

It's a beautiful name. Don't doubt your decision. If you love it, then it's the right name for your DS. If however, you really prefer Rupert, go with that. Every name we considered and discussed with parents, mine suggested alternatives such as John or Mary. I didn't share the actual names we came up with and everyone loves them.

Rowan is a lovely name, ignore the comments.

My DM tried her hardest to talk me out of my son's name. It's a dog's name apparently. I loved it though and no other comments were made once it was official.

Don't listen!!!! Ignore, go with what you want. My whole family persuaded me out of DC1s first choice name and I regret it big time. My dad and Fil actually try to call DC2 by his middle name they were so disappointed by my choice. However it's no ones fucking business as as long as your not going for Fangomuckspunkpants I'd go ahead.

It's a lovely name and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Rowan is a lovely name. Well done.

DS was very nearly a Rowan, it's a lovely name :)

Love rowan but it rhymes with my surname so couldn't have it!
Is your older ds called Tarquin?

Rowan is lovely.d

Is she religious at all? If so, bring I to conversation, Rowan Williamson, the archbishop.

All four grandparents were united in their (unexpressed but visible) horror at DS's name (at the unusual end of Biblical). It was a fait accompli, however, as he'd already been born at that point. And given the utterly ghastly names they'd given several of their children, it wasn't that I gave two hoots.

I love Rowan!

That's a really lovely name. Don't listen to her, she probably wants you to call him Phil or Derek.

Personally I don't like the name Rowan but that's not the point... If it's the name you've chosen then stick to it. She won't think twice about it once your DC arrives. Just don't tell anyone else what you've chosen until baby is here!

What on earth did you call ds1??? I'm so curious now haha!

Rowan is lovely. Not sure about Rupert tbh. The only ones I've met in real life were public school wa*ers

I always thought Rowan was a girls name?

If you and your DP/H love the name Rupert, then name your DS2 Rupert! Your PILs might think it's a bit 'posh southern' at first, but then it'll just be their gorgeous Grandson's name - or Roo for short.

However, if you and your DH/P prefer Rowan, go with that. Your mum might not have picked it, but would you pick your name/your siblings' names/s? She'd had her go! Again, your mum will get used to it.

Both Rupert and Rowan are lovely names. if you go for Rupert, you'll get lots of yellow scarves

Rowan is both a boys' and girls' name. It's lovely. Rupert is nice too. Call your baby what you want!

I love Rowan (although I do prefer it for a girl).

Not keen on Rupert.

Is DS1 Ptolemy?

I worked with a Rowan once. Lovely person, always thought it was a nice name. Unusual but not one of those 'what is it, how are you spelling that, is there an l in that? ' sort of names (like one of my dts! ). If you like it, keep it. And I am from up North. X

Is Rowan a girls name? That was one of dm's reason for not liking it but I just think Rowan Atkinson and Williamson. Another reason for her dislike was that it sounded 'common' compared to ds1's name, said it would be like shouting 'Ptolemy and Dave' accross the park (ds1's name not quite that posh!)

Thanks for talking some sense into me, I think having a gp on each side hting one of our ds's name each evens things up a bit.

I'm with your DM it isn't a nice name I'm really fussy about boy's names though. There are not msny I do like, but our opinions (mine especially a stranger on the internet) matter not one wit. This is your baby. You can call him what you like. Your DM has had her day choosing names when she had you and any siblings you might have.
I'm telling you now, If someone told me not use a name. I would damn well use the name out of spite.
Rowan can be used for either gender.

I like it, nearly had it myself!

He's your child call him what you like.