I need an opinion on a name

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My wife and I are expecting our first child and we're having a boy. We both want to call him Jasper but my mother hates the name (to the point of being cruel) as does my wife's grandfather. We are sticking to our guns as we do not think it is their right to decide what our child is called and are sure that they'll get over themselves once the little one is born.
My reason for writing is that I just want some people who don't know us to voice their opinion on the name. We are now worried that we're so determined not to be bullied (seeing as we are grown adults) that we might be making a mistake.
Thanks

Call your son what you want. My DF, when I announced DD1's name (first and middle), said, "wouldn't it be better the other way round?" I burst into tears as I was in the throes of baby blues at the time (4 days). Unfeeling git.

Can't see anything wrong with Jasper. I don't love it as it sounds like 'rasping' to me but it isn't a terrible name or anything!

I like it. It's not try hard, it's not common. It's lovely.

DC1 was Jasper till we found out she was dd... Its a nice name.

My mother and several other family members hated dds name which is not a very common name.

Mother tried her best to persuade me to call her a name that she really liked. I was even bribed with a top of the range pram if i obeyed!

Dd is now 2 years old and she still hates the name. I dont give a shit tbh i still love dds name.

It's fine - no strong feelings either way

Do they have alternative suggestions...?

I think it's more of a dog's name, or v v upper class. Call your son what you want thoug!

I like it. Go with what you want. I took to heart what a family member said about my fave name and didn't use it, and I regret it.

Your baby. Your choice. You can name him Jesus Christ all mighty if you so desire. StAnd firm on it. Your mother had her day naming babies when she had you as did your wife's grandfather when her mum or dad were born. He's going to be the baby's great grand father. To put it politely it's none of his business nor your mothers.

In fact if someone told me not use a name. I'd use it out of spite

I personally don't like it as when I hear the name I immediately think of Jasper Carrot and although funny he's not someone I would want to name my children after.

Having said that if you like the name you should go for it, it really is no one else's business. I only gave you my opinion because you asked for it

My mother doesn't really have an alternative, she just doesn't like it. My wife's grandfather wants us to call our son Geoffrey after him.

Your baby, your name! My MIL (who I love) didn't like DS1's name to the point of calling him by a name of her choosing . We're from different cultures and she was a bit shocked that she wasn't going to get her own way. She now calls DS by the name we gave him too bloody right. FWIW I really like Jasper: I agree with a pp who said it's not "try too hard" and it's not very common. I know loads of little boys but no Jaspers although a close friend would have used it if her DD had been a DS.

Seriously, it's YOUR choice, no one elses.

Geoffrey?

Jasper is a nice name. It's your child - you get to pick his name.

Sod your mother.

I don't like the name either but I wouldn't dream of passing comment though. My dd is Molly. You may not like that. Just a variAtion of opinions

It's a gorgeous name.

disclaimer: I have a Jasper and he loves his name

It's not about the name, though, is it? It's about the fact that your family seems to believe their preference is relevant and that you should defer to it for some reason.

Disabuse them of that notion and the problem is solved

It is your child and your decision, ignore nasty comments.

We kept our names secret until after the birth of our children, then it's too late for others to give opinions they have to accept your choice.

It's absolutely fine. Don't listen to your interfering relatives. It's your baby, you get to choose the name.

It's an uncommon name but nothing wrong with it...not my cuppa tea, but it's not my baby either!

I like it!
MIL didn't think much of ds1's name when we announced it, I think it's grown on her now. DH and I however love the name and that's really all that matters!

We had a name spoiled for us. But we had a boy in the end so poppy was not going to work.

Jasper is a nice name. They can suck it up.

My mum never liked my nephews name but now she does and nobody could imagine him being anything else.

tolive exactly. If someone asks me what names we are thinking of for our baby I might tell them. But I'm certainly not inviting nor interested in their opinion of them. If my baby is a dc I want to use my deceased aunt's name as a middle name - I asked my cousins (her children) if they were ok with that which they were, more than actually. But other than that, sod it. Our baby, our name choice. The end.