Would you consider using dc middle name as a first name with a later child

[Soontobemummyto5]

We have 4dc- 2dd and 2ds and are expecting again and have found out it's a girl, I really struggled naming dd2 and she was nameless until the day before our appointment at the registry office. I'm panicking already as find girls names so difficult and already have an Annabell Mia and Maddison Tilly and really love the name Tilly and would love to use it as dd3 first name but don't want her to grow up thinking I didn't care about her having her own name. Does it sound really inappropriate to even consider using Tilly or Matilda and Tilly as nn?

I woulndt do it

I regret not doing it, so I'd say yes.

I'd go with Matilda though, so there is a difference.

I think it's ok, especially if it was Matilda. Nobody really uses middle names so outside of your family nobody is likely to realise. I actually have a friend whose middle name is his younger brother's first name, his mum had wanted to use it but his dad vetoed, then changed his mind by the time little brother was born. As far as I know neither of them harbours any resentment!

I know someone that did this.. DD2 was unexpected and she loved the middle name she had given DD1 so used it. It makes no difference really, they are only known by their first names.

That said, maddison and Matilda could end up being quite similar if they decide when older that they want to shorten to maddy and matty...

That's what puts me of Matilda,it being quite close to Maddison and lots of names are out which I like that have 'bell' in them like Arabella etc. I've been trying to think of other names Tilly could be nn for and couldn't think of any although that could be baby brain

I say go with tilly then, hardly anyone will know it's her sister's middle name.

If you're not sure, what other names do you like? Maybe we can find something which fits.

These are the names I like but dh doesn't like any, he likes angelica
Tabitha
Trixie
Ellsie
Willow

I would, my mil did, her youngest sons first name is her eldest sons middle name.

I knew a Talitha (shortened to Tally) or Tansy is pretty.

Ottilie ?

I don't have any other suggestions for you but wanted to say I don't think it would be a big issue to use Matilda/Tilly for your DD3. Most people rarely use their middle names in any case. Also it used to be tradition to name sons after fathers in which case both would have the same first name (not that I think that's a good idea!) so I don't think it's a big deal.

We are thinking about this with Abigail..
Its annoying me a big fat lot!

A friend of mine called ds 2 ds1's middle name. I thought it was quite strange when I first found out but I don't think about it now.

I have friends. I will change names, but say dad is John David. First son was David John. Second son was John David. So all three males have only two names between them! Never any confusion or problems. I find it very odd though, when you have thousands of names to choose from.

My first name is my sisters middle name. I wouldnt pick tilly though, go with matilda and shorten it to tilly.

Tallula / Tilly?

I don't have a problem with it. We had two boys names, blew them on DS1 and reused them on DS2. We don't use middle names often

Following this thread, I'm in the same predicament. With ds, I'm 18wks don't know what sex this baby this is though. If ds we are really stuck with names, so really considering ds's middle name.

I say go for it, if you don't find another name you love

That's true springtime.

It's nice to know I'm not crazy and other people are thinking about middle names as first names too. We had a boys name but always worried about picking a girls name this time after taking so long to name dd2. Not sure what I will do if she doesn't look like a Tilly it might have to be poor baby no name

Not sure - I see what others are saying and people wouldn't know but the children would know.

As a parent of slightly older children their name is now more about an identity for them than something particularly relevant to me so on that basis I would go with a new name for DD3 even if you don't like it quite as much as DD2's middle name.

My DC are quite proud of their names and talk about their middle names, cousins middle names etc and how they link to each other, but I think all of my DC feel a value and identity associated with their own name. I only have 3DC but the more I've had and the older they get the more they each seem to need their "own" things and struggle with feeling valued as themselves. If I'd shared one of my older DCs name with a younger DC I think they would find that a bit hard to take to be honest... Different with naming them after a known and loved adult in the family in my view.

Ottillie is a great shout. Goes well with the other girls - Annabell, Maddison and Ottillie, and would be perfect to shorten to Tilly.