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Can I steal my niece's middle name??

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Bizzle123 · 10/03/2015 15:14

Hi all. One year ago my brother chose my favourite name as the middle name for his baby girl. Now I'm pg I really want to use that name for the first name if we have a daughter. If it was my niece's first name I definitely wouldn't use it, but do you think it's ok as it's just her second name? I love the name so much!

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Blazing88 · 10/03/2015 15:16

No one owns a name.

Having said that, I'd be v annoyed if my brother or sister took my DD's middle name for their child!

Her middle name is part of her.

Of all the names that exist, you're telling me you can't find ONE other name you like???!

Theoldcauliflower · 10/03/2015 15:19

My step sister stole my dd's first name
I don't think I would be to bothered but I would speak to your brother first! Congratulations to you!

ApocalypseNowt · 10/03/2015 15:21

How do you think he'd react? If he's the reasonable sort just have a quick word along the "I was thinking..." type of line.

What's the name?

Blazing88 · 10/03/2015 15:21

Oh and given it's your brother, that means your mum and dad then have two grandchildren with the same name. (albeit one with it as a middle name, and one as a first name) > I'm just sat here thinking that would not work at all with my mum.

The brother might not mind, but I can guarantee the mother of said child will do!!!

Pick another name!

EeekNumber4 · 10/03/2015 15:23

Wouldn't bother me at all, would be strange if both had same first name but middle names...? Can't see any reason why not.

NerrSnerr · 10/03/2015 15:27

I can't get my head around why anyone would get upset about the. It's so precious, I have the same name as my cousin and no one ever mixed us up!

squoosh · 10/03/2015 15:32

Middle names are eminently pinchable. If I meet someone with my middle name I don't even feel any personal association with it.

AugustaGloop · 10/03/2015 15:33

fine with middle name. it is rarely used.

Breezy1985 · 10/03/2015 15:35

Wouldn't bother me at all, but my nephew has my DS first name as his middle name, my DS was born first though.

AugustaGloop · 10/03/2015 15:36

in fact, an ex of mine's name was his elder brother's middle name

CathFizz · 10/03/2015 15:39

We used unknowingly at the time the middle name of my DN albeit with a different spelling. DSIL was absolutely fine with it (I think!) and DN(16) loves having a little extra connection with our (DD3). I don't see the problem TBH. Is your brother the type that might? Do they use your DN's middle name often?

nuppet · 10/03/2015 15:46

My first name is my cousin's middle name. She is 6 months older than me. My mum 'nicked' the name because she loved it.

TinCanSally · 10/03/2015 15:49

I really don't see the problem here. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

If you love the name go for it otherwise you may end up regretting the name you do choose and in a year or so might be posting one of those 'I don't like DD's name' threads!

Penguinotterfoxbadger · 10/03/2015 15:59

Seems perfectly fine to me

TheRealMaryMillington · 10/03/2015 16:02

It's a middle name, so it's a great big "so what" from me. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery after all.

What it boils down to is whether your brother and SIL are reasonable people or ridiculously precious and like a scrap.

NadiaWadia · 10/03/2015 16:03

If it's only her middle name and basically not used much, as most people don't, then I would think it was fine, and your DB would be being precious to get upset over it. If it was the first name, that would obviously be different.

gallicgirl · 10/03/2015 16:03

It'll be fine. No one ever uses middle names except on official documents and when the child has been really naughty.

pinkyredrose · 10/03/2015 16:04

You can't 'steal' a name ffs. Use it if you want!

fattymcfatfat · 10/03/2015 16:04

im using part of one brothers name for DS2 first name and the other brothers middle name as his middle name...

cathyandclaire · 10/03/2015 16:07

When I was at school every third person had the middle name Jane. I don't think middle names are exclusive, would be weird to use the same first name but not middle name IMO

roastpots · 10/03/2015 16:17

I think this would be fine - but you could just check in case they are funny about it. I agree, though - middle names are very different to using the same first name...

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Bizzle123 · 10/03/2015 16:21

Thanks everyone! My hunch is that 'it's only a middle name' which seems to be general (if not unanimous) agreement. DB and SIL are pretty chilled so should be ok.

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Flywheel · 10/03/2015 16:27

Go for it. Don't give it another thought. My Db used my daughter's middle name for his dd. It's a family name, so I didn't even really notice. Certainly not bothered in the slightest.

jazzyjenbo · 10/03/2015 18:35

We have it the other way round.... My sil had a little girl and i was expecting a girl, we used our nieces first name as a middle name... It just seemed to flow nicely with our choice of first name.
It can be abit confusing when they are together as me do refer to our daughter as both names e.g ava may (not actual name) and niece is may so they both turn round but it doesnt really cause any issue, we didnt tell our family our chosen name before dd was born so if there was any gossip we didnt know about it.

Paintedpinksapphires · 10/03/2015 18:45

My DD would love to share a name with a cousin.

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