Urgent help- registering tomorrow

[Homepride1]

Dd is 11 days old now and due to be registered tomorrow! We agree on her first name "Lucy" which we both love and have agreed that she will have my surname as we are not married/living together and in fairness the first 6 months of the pregnancy were stressful and we spilt up as he didn't want baby!

Now I want Ellen as middle name (my nans name) and he wants May (his mums name and he will not budge or compromise that we have both! He says because I'm getting the surname he should choose middle and refuses point blank to have Ellen included at all!

He now is refusing to even discuss and telling me to do what I want as it's all about me!

I'm wondering if I should just not have either and come up with another middle name

Any suggestions ?

If it's all about you - then do what you want. You agreed the 1st name so he's had input and your baby could have both other names.

Do what you want to do Homepride or you will regret it.

I'd take him at his word. Do what you want.
Go and register her as Lucy Ellen. Add May as a 'nod' towards his mother and because you are able to be an adult. He's being childish.

What's his problem with the name Ellen? Does he dislike your mum?

My dd has May as one of her middle names but you have to be very careful with it or it will sound a bit erm.. Rough.

Not sure if Lucy Ellen works either. What are your mum's and his mum's middle names? Or your grandmother's names?

Oh and he is being an idiot.

Normally I would say let him choose, however as he wasnt supportive in pregnancy and didn't want the baby - what's to say he will stick around now? My dh chose our baby's full name but in fairness he deserved to I think. Every other man I went out with let me down and dh has been great.

If I wasnt with someone who fully supported and loved me and baby then no way would I have them choose. Maybe I am harsh though !!!

Lucy Ellen May sounds lovely to me, he's being an arse and will get over it. Just use them all.

I would use Lucy Ellen May, it sounds lovely.

Lucy Ellen May Homepride is lovely. Go along and register her as that. Am I right in thinking that the mother can decline to put the father on the birth certificate if she is not married to him? So if it comes to it, you could simply stand there and repeat that she will be called that and no father on the certificate, or that and father on the certificate, it is up to him.

If he really does argue for an hour in front of the registrar then perhaps you might agree to the compromise of calling her Lucy May Ellen?

Agree with other poster, Lucy Ellen May is lovely.

Forgot to say congrats on your DD.

Agree with Lucy Ellen May.

Do what you like. If he's this much of a dick now how long will he be around for?

I don't mean to sound harsh but you have to live with your DD's name forever and there may well come a time when you regret not having just done your own thing I did

I agree with longest. He said 'do as you please' and I would. I would go and register her, on my own, with the name I chose and no 'father' on the certificate. I think the less legal rights he has over her and you the better.

Lucy Ellen YourSurname.

I don't even really like May seems everyone is a lily May or Ellie May etc but I'm happy to have it along with Ellen but I do really want Ellen which I love and was my grandmothers name!

He actually isn't coming to get her registered do won't be able to be on birth certificate! We arrange appointment at a time/date to suit him and work so he could come but he then arranged to keep his son for a extra night meaning he has to leave first thing in the morning to get his son to school 50 miles away

Ok, in that case Lucy Ellen Hompride

Assuming he is keeping his son longer through choice, and not due to some emergency with his mum, then I say that gives you completely free rein as he obviously isn't that bothered and won't even be registered as her father! I love Lucy Ellen. Lucy Ellen May is also nice but only do that if you are feeling particularly charitable towards him!

Just have Lucy Ellen which is lovely. If he were that bothered he would be going with you to register.

Congratulations

He's arranged things so he can't even be there?

Give it a year and this guy will probably no longer be in touch. I would put money on it, sadly.

Call her the name you want.

Sorry he's such a flake.

Yes, just name her what you want then. Doesn't sound like it's worth asking or considering his opinion.

I like Lucy Ellen May. Or just Lucy Ellen. But I definitely agree with everyone else. Do what YOU want to do. This guy can't even be bothered to be there to register his daughter..? Well, I would call her what you want to call her, and try to forget about that fool. If you happen to like his mum (if you knew her) maybe keep the May for her.

Lucy is so lovely, DS would have been called that had he been a girl. How about Caitlin, that would have been his middle name. As I am never having another one you can have it

for what it's worth I don't think kids think much about their middle names.My son is 9 and obviously had to write his somewhere recently and couldn't even spell it as we hadn't really talked about it much.We all got weird family surnames as our middle names so I would go for all 3 as they sound pretty together and keep everyone happy.

Seriously Lucy Ellen, you will always resent the May if things do go belly up. Get the name you really want

jesus wept. That just confirms what a total tool he is, he doesn't even care about being on her BC.

Lucy Ellen YourSurname

He will quite probably leave over it, best thing that could happen and if he does, he was just looking for a flimsy reason. You and DD are worth so much more than this shit legs.

Love Lucy Ellen, May is nice to seen as he's been so unsupportive I would do what you want to. I don't see the problem if your willing to include both xx

He's a joker! He couldn't make the time so he could appear on the birth certificate? It's entirely your choice and Lucy Ellen May is a beautiful name. Congrats on your dd