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Mother is Catherine, her dd is Kate. Odd or not?

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SunnyDays22 · 08/05/2014 05:35

Friend has done this. Her name is never abbreviated and she told me a long time ago how much she loves the name Kate. I don't see an issue but her sister does. My friend is now upset and doesn't know what to do.

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Pebbles0934 · 08/05/2014 07:04

I think it's quite a nice way of calling your child after yourself but not tarnishing the child with the same name! I know an Anna with an Annabel ??

Montsti · 08/05/2014 07:09

It seems to be fairly common for men to have sons named after them so why not mums and daughters? Personally I wouldn't as I don't love my name and I would also feel embarrassed as it seems a bit narcissistic, but each to their own.

Montsti · 08/05/2014 07:10

But in your friends case, if she isn't referred to as Kate and her daughter is Kate rather than Catherine then I don't think it matters..

CinnabarRed · 08/05/2014 07:12

Seems absolutely fine to me.

YussMinister · 08/05/2014 07:13

I don't readily connect the two names, especially with those spellings. Not that odd imo.

OwlCapone · 08/05/2014 07:14

My friend is now upset and doesn't know what to do.

She should tell her sister that her comments are hurtful and upsetting and that she should shut up and keep her opinions to herself. Which is easier to type on the internet than actually say to the person!

Endymion · 08/05/2014 07:14

Is fine. I have a friend called Katharine with a daughter called Katie.

Endymion · 08/05/2014 07:16

I also have in my family history mother called Helena with a daughter called Helen and a mother called Susan with a. daughter called Susanna.

buttercrumble · 08/05/2014 07:22

Seems fine to me, I'm a Catherine and dd has Kate as a middle name. Tbh we never saw the link when we chose Kate it just went nicely with the first name we chose. I don't think it's a big deal.

scrivette · 08/05/2014 07:24

I know Catherine and a Katie, I think it's a nice way of carrying on a name.

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SunnyDays22 · 08/05/2014 09:03

Thank you-this is what I think too. Yes she definitely doesn't want people to think she's narcissistic.

Oh and her sister has also said people will think it's due to Kate Middleton, which it's not-she told me about the name before then. I think the sister is saying that a) people might think she's a royalist when she's not and b) there will be loads of Kate's about as friend's dd grows up...argh!

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Montsti · 08/05/2014 09:09

I think Kate is a popular enough name that it wouldn't automatically be associated with Kate Middleton who is now, for the foremost referred to as Catherine anyway.

I think your friend has chosen a lovely name and she shouldn't feel embarrassed. Her sister is clearly jealous or has some other issues with your friend. If I were your friend I would tell her to mind her own business.

hatsybatsy · 08/05/2014 09:32

your friend should ignore her sister - they are different names.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 08/05/2014 13:57

I think this often happens with men and their sons' names, it isn't that unusual.

OP your friend should say sweetly in future and just say she liked her own name better than her DSis's.

evamummy · 08/05/2014 14:12

Personally I wouldn't give my dd a nickname (Kate) of my own name (Catherine) - there are so many lovely names to choose from.

But if your friend doesn't love any other name as much, then she should go for it. But its ok imo for her sister to feel differently. Thankfully we all have different views/tastes.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 08/05/2014 14:20

smile sweetly, that should have said. Yes it wouldn't do if we all liked the same but if the sister din't approve maybe voice it tactfully (or not comment at all).

FurCoatAndNaeKnickers · 08/05/2014 18:11

I know a mother and daughter called Liz (full name Elizabeth) and Libby ( just Libby on bc).

Obviously both names are nicknames for Elizabeth but it's never been an issue. She wasn't naming her daughter after herself, she just loved the name Libby!

Surf25 · 08/05/2014 19:26

I don't see why this is a problem! Plus, she is naming her child, so I can't really see why on earth her sister is so bothered unless the sister has a secret longing to call a daughter Kate. Your friend's choice, her child, she should be free to pick a name she loves. I know a family three generations daughter my age and granddaughter ages with my kids and all with the same name on BC and each goes by a different derivation, and why not?! Men do it all the time! And your friend isn't even using the same name!!

MuttonCadet · 08/05/2014 19:27

It's fine, her sisters being weird Sad

Bowlersarm · 08/05/2014 19:29

It's fine. Her sister is being very unkind.

stopitcaroline · 09/05/2014 03:12

If the men can do it, why can't we? I think it's fine. Lots of women do it in my part of the world.

I wouldn't mind having a daughter Caroline, but I might call her Carrie.

MooseBeTimeForSpring · 09/05/2014 04:01

My late mother was Joan Alice. I'm Joanne Allison

Yes, two l's

Mybellyisaneasteregg · 09/05/2014 09:34

I think it is fine. They are different enough to not be strange imo. I think the sister is being unkind in this situation and there must be history/issues with their relationship Hmm

HemlockStarglimmer · 09/05/2014 09:40

I know five Kates. One of them is me. It's been a popular name for years and years and years.

The sister is being very weird.

WolfMoon · 09/05/2014 16:58

I know a Catherine with a DD named Katherine, but the mother is Cathy and the daughter Katie. It's fine, and I've never known anyone think it odd.

Actually, thinking about it, the mother has a sister called Patricia who gets Trisha, and their mother is also Patricia but gets Pat!