Mother is Catherine, her dd is Kate. Odd or not?

[SunnyDays22]

Friend has done this. Her name is never abbreviated and she told me a long time ago how much she loves the name Kate. I don't see an issue but her sister does. My friend is now upset and doesn't know what to do.

If this was a man and his son everyone would think it was absolutely fine that they were 'carrying on the name'. Why is it any different for a woman? She should tell her sister she didn't ask for her opinion and it's too late to change now so she'll just have to deal with it. And I think both names are lovely actually (Catherine is a family name and so we have lots of variations in the family, perfectly normally as far as I'm concerned).

Does she have any other children? Or is she planning any? I would worry about how other children would feel if they didn't also share her name.

Donkeys, are you really suggesting that she tells her sister that she's choosing to name her daughter after herself because it's a nicer name than her sister's?

That can't be right. There are more than two names to choose from in this world, and there's no need to be nasty.

I've known a mother and daughter with this exact combination, it's not what I would choose but I don't think it's actually wrong. It annoys me more when two members of a family are known by exactly the same name, especially if one parent is namechecked and not the other. (We used to have neighbours where the mother and oldest daughter were both Teresa, but their son didn't have his dad's name, even though it was still perfectly common and not dated. I could never decided whether it was more unfair on dad - not to be honoured - or on Teresa Junior to be the only one without an original name.)

The Ops friend isn't naming her child after herself though.

The Catherine I know who is planning to do this is known by her nephew and niece and a few others as Katie. We may be thinking of the same person because the OP may not know this.

Kate is a perfectly valid stand alone name. I wouldn't actually make the connection with Catherine, necessarily.

I think it does come across as naming the DD after the mother given that Kate is a nn for Catherine.

But it's very rude for the friend's sister to say this to the friend.

Naming your daughter a nickname of your own name (which Kate is to Catherine) isn't something I would do personally but. But surely this is up to the mum (even if her sister disgrees).