Would it bother you....

[curiousgeorgie]

If someone used your child's very unique middle name as a first name for their child who was only a few weeks apart in age?

With lots of friends and family in common.

It would be slightly irritating, yes. Though they do say that copying is the highest form of flattery

No, but if I used the unique name as a second name because I didn't have the nerve to use it as a first name, I'd be raging at myself not the other people.

Yes I think it would be slightly annoying - though there is not really much you can do (apart from change your DC's middle name?!) and as said above, see it as a compliment - you obviously have good taste!

I'd be bloody annoyed. I really want to know the name now.

We need to know the name

Maybe they hadnt thought about it til you said it and realised it was the perfect name for them? Id be more likely to use a MN of a friends dc than their first name.

Wpuld have been nice if they mentioned in advance tho.

Similarly, they might start a thread "AIBU to be annoyed at friend who has stolen pur unique name to give as a middle name?"

We also used a very unique first name... It wasn't about nerve. It was just that I chose one and DH chose one and we just put them together.

I think I'm going to out myself if I say the name

And they weren't thinking if it before... They got it from us. Her DH said to mine, we love your DD's name, we're going to use the middle name for our baby.

And DH just mentioned this to me later casually because he couldn't care less and doesn't see my problem.

I would think you were very brave or very boring, depending on which DC's name you used Both my DC have family names as their middle names, so neither are names I would ever have picked as first names!

Sorry, didn't really answer your question. No, it wouldn't bother me at all, or if you used the first names, I would be flattered, tbh!

How can something be very unique? It either is or it isn't.

Yabu.

It's fine. They've found inspiration from your child's middle name. People will (if they haven't already) forget what your baby's middle name is. Be gracious and take it as a compliment.

It depends who it was. If it was my sister id think it was a cute thing to do.. If it was a friend is think it was a bit weird and not like it but keep it to myself and silently stew haha

It would annoy me. But in a "I know I can't say anything without sounding a bit bonkers" way.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest! No one owns the names they give their children!

Hmm well if you came up with the name first I would say go for it - they obviously know they "copied" it from you just shame their baby was born first.

Please share the name

It would annoy me but I'd know I was being a bit irrational.

Reminds me of the SATC episode where Charlotte's baby name gets stolen

I would think "Oh they share our taste in names" and congratulate them on their taste.
^This.

I suspect your very unique middle name isn't really that unique at all.

I used my nieghbours cats name for my son but I don't think she minded. It was a bit confusing when she called the cat in from the garden though
I would be flattered if someone used my DCs middle name. Middle names are not usually used.

Middle names are rarely used apart from occasionally on official forms. I don't remember the middle names of my friends and relatives children (though I suspect I was told at some point!)

If they had copied a very unusual first name I would see your point, because that's the name that's used constantly. Particularly as it sounds as though its a made up name by you and your DH. But a middle name- no, I can't see the problem, though if it is an 'invented' name it does seem a little odd - though I'm not a fan of made up names anyway

If its not a made up name, just a very unusual one, then you have even less reason to be miffed. No one owns a name

I think it's fine as they've mentioned to your DH that the inspiration has come from you.

You can tell your dd her little friend/relative was named after her because her parents loved her name so much.

Being completely honest, I think it would depend on how much I liked them and if they asked me how I'd feel about it.

Unless the name was actually made up by you, it isn't unique. It may be a name that's not commonly used, but it would only be unique if it were invented by you and your child is the only one in the world with that name.