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Can't stop thinking I have made wrong name choice for 20 week old DD

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LadyDowagerHatt · 04/11/2013 12:02

I can't get used to my DDs name and keep wondering about other names for her. It was a name both my DH and I liked, and had done for a while but really we had very few other choices as DH didn't suggest/like many others. I was always a little on the fence as it's not overly pretty but thought that was fine as I don't like frilly/fussy/cutesy type names. It also sounds quite similar to my own name and I worry that when called around the house it will be confusing - probably over thinking it! I don't think my mum likes the name either although she said it has really grown on her.

There is another name which I had discounted as it is the name of a friend of DS - I met the mum at a baby group and we see eachother fairly regularly. Now I am wondering if it really matters and I could have gone for this name.

I know I could change up to a year - how straightforward is this to do? My DH won't entertain the idea though, he thinks I am being ridiculous and have spent too long thinking about this.

Has anyone else been in this position? I don't have post natal depression which I know is often linked to this uncertainty but will I ever grow to really love the name and feel we have made the right choice. I remember having these doubts with my son's name (but not as bad as this) but now he is 3 I absolutely adore his name and couldn't imagine wanting to call him anything else.

Sorry for the long post, just helped to get it all written down - DH won't listen or discuss it with me.

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WhataSook · 06/11/2013 13:26

OP that is my DDs name but spelt differently. She is nearly 3 and I still think sometimes how did she end up with that name?! But I love it and I really think it suits her. So glad to have read this post to see others like the name also.

comewinewithmoi · 06/11/2013 13:31

I like Erin, very pretty. Charlotte , meh , fine for middle name. Imogen's nice.

Mumofthreeteens · 06/11/2013 13:32

Erin is a lovely name. Friend's daughter's name and she is beautiful.

ShoeWhore · 06/11/2013 13:35

I think Erin is a fabulous name - pretty and feminine but also sounds like she could be an enormously capable, intelligent, strong woman too. An Erin could do anything she set her mind to, I reckon!

miffybun73 · 06/11/2013 13:39

I love Erin, much nicer than Imogen in my opinion.

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LadyDowagerHatt · 07/11/2013 07:05

Thanks do much for all your lovely posts.

Allyfe - I agree, feeling quite emotional reading throug them all. So glad I posted, it has helped enormously.

ShoeWhore - LOVE your description of 'an Erin'!

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SavoyCabbage · 07/11/2013 07:10

I think it's nice. You could always change it to Katherine (even if that's your name) and nobody need ever know. Then you would have the classic name covered.

MokuMoku · 07/11/2013 07:13

Erin is on my list as well. I was worried as we aren't Irish but perhaps the meaning doesn't matter?

OnesieTwosie · 07/11/2013 22:38

Actually Moku, I wouldn't worry about not being Irish. Although it means Ireland, apparently nobody in Ireland would ever use it. I have Irish relatives and that's what put me off - I didn't want them thinking I was being a plastic paddy (as my granny would say!). I think of you have no Irish in you it's probably less cheesy.

That said, I love it. Talked myself out of it but do really like it.

Viviennemary · 08/11/2013 00:17

If you want to change it then you should. She's only small. If you don't then you'll only wish you had but make sure it's a name you like. But there is nothing wrong with the name Erin. I like it a lot better than Imogen.

WelshWereRabbit · 08/11/2013 00:51

I changed one of my son's middle names and then regretted it. I obsessed about his name not being "right" for ages, before submitting the form to the registrar - it was a really easy (too easy!) process and DP did not need to agree to or sign anything.

Once you have changed it once, you cannot change back so you need to be sure. I realised I shouldn't have changed it the moment I tried to explain out loud to a friend what I had done and why ... Suddenly it all seemed so silly. I think the fact that it was possible to change made me obsess over it, whereas now I wish I'd stuck to my first instincts. I even went back to the registrar to try and get the form back before they processed it, and then wrote to the central registrar's office to ask if I could change it back! I blame hormones - it is only a middle name so not a big deal in the scheme of things, and I am now used to the change.

You still have loads of time so why not try out Imogen at hoe and see if it feels right before taking the plunge. Also, just so you know, the new birth certificate will still have the original name and show the new name further down as a change.

WelshWereRabbit · 08/11/2013 00:55

That last bit should have said "at home". Also, although DP didn't have to sign or agree anything formally, he was ok with me changing it - I wouldn't have just gone off and done it without warning!

GrandstandingBlueTit · 08/11/2013 08:18

Erin is lovely. Outperforms Imogen by a country mile.

Imogen is 'having a moment' so Erin is a better choice for that reason alone. Let alone all the other reasons. :)

roweeena · 08/11/2013 09:04

Please don't change Erin is a great name for both child and adult. Also you seem undecided yourself and really DH needs to agree x

LGandPandnow3 · 08/11/2013 14:11

I don't usually post on here... But I really do think that Erin is exactly the name that you describe that you wanted! It's not common but isn't made-up! I would use it but it is a friend of mine's name .. Keep it I think!!! It is lovely!

OnesieTwosie · 08/11/2013 18:59

OP you must be feeling pretty good about your little Erin now are you? Hope so

Ilovekittyelise · 08/11/2013 21:06

only you know, and its such a personal thing but heres my two cents:

erin: pretty yet dignified and mature, really lovely name.

imogen: makes me think of spoilt little madam for some reason. dont know why but its just a name i cant warm to. feels a bit empty somehow. its one of those names thats trying to be posher than it is. sorry.

YesterdayI · 08/11/2013 21:25

I love the name Erin too. It's a great stong name but I still think it's very feminine.

Kowalski · 08/11/2013 21:39

I love the name Erin too! It was actually the name exp and I chose if we ever had a DD. FWIW I had doubts about DDs name for a while but it really suits her now (she's 3)

peanutbutterandbanana · 08/11/2013 21:45

Erin is a beautiful name and conjors up for me images of a barefoot, strawberry-blonde, tousle-headed beauty running barefoot through the forest doing magic and good deeds as she goes.

There are hundreds of Imogens....

Breezy1985 · 08/11/2013 21:53

Love Erin.

Was the name I had picked for DC2 but had DS, he would of been Erin Beth.

MrsOB · 08/11/2013 22:07

Erin is a beautiful name!!!

GrandstandingBlueTit · 09/11/2013 09:00

I sort of feel like Imogen has been ever so slightly thrown under the bus on this thread, and I apologise for my part in that.

It's not a bad name per se, I've just never got it. Which is fine because it would be a boring old world if we all liked the same names.

I hope no-one with an Imogen feels bad after reading this thread. There are loads of people out there who do like the name. :)

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