We're TTC our first child so this is purely hypothetical, but it's bothering me and to be honest I'd like to figure it out before my hormones go haywire. If we have a son, DH wants his grandad's name as a middle name. Lovely idea, but I hate the name. It's quite old-fashioned, and I just think it's horrible, it's not a name I would ever choose.
DH wants this name so badly, he'll agree to a first name he dislikes in return. But I dislike it too much to use, end of.
I know some people will say it's selfish to refuse, just use it as a middle name, who cares about those. But I can't imagine giving my child any name if I don't like it.
I don't really like my first name (which isn't Jess, it's something far more ugly). I dropped a really awful middle name which came from a relative (let's just say it was the name of the witch in Willo the Wisp). I tried to keep that quiet to avoid merciless teasing but my dad used to randomly tell people about it.
Some people will think I'm horribly selfish, and should just let DH have it as a middle name. But names are a really big deal to me because I hate mine - I don't want to hate my child's name as well.
And obviously I'm not pregnant, and might never have a boy anyway, but it's just taking the fun and excitement out of the whole thing. I've always been excited about choosing my children's names one day, and figured we'd choose names we both liked.
I can live with the fact that DH has vetoed a lot of the names I like, as I've vetoed a lot of his suggestions too. But is it really horribly selfish if I refuse to agree to a middle name that has huge sentimental value - because I don't like it?
DH has said we can drop it if I really don't like it, but I know he badly wants it, and I know this will upset him, so maybe I'm being ridiculous? But I'll be upet if I have to spend years feeling ashamed to tell people my child's full name because I can't stand it. What would you do?