Dh's parents have named new cat the name we were considering for child

[wildpoppy]

Am 5 months pg and we are in the midst of name discussions hence my many threads here. Dh's parents told us yesterday they have got a new cat. Which came from cat's home with a cat name. But they have renamed it one of our frontrunners (without knowing - we don't discuss names with people).

Dh says we can use it anyway as it's just a cat. We go to their house about once a month. But I am a bit grrrr. What do you think?

Can't you tell them that you want to use the name and see if they will pick something else for their cat?

Stick with the name, assuming it remains front runner for another 4 months. At least you know his parents like it.

You really can't use the name now that would be odd. But you shouldve told them as soon as they said it 'that's on our baby name shortlist'

Can you imagine calling your toddler over to you on a visit and the cat runs over too?

I think it's actually a good idea. My parents tend to use my DD's name and their dog's name interchangeably ....having the same name would make things much easier & less confusing

Assuming you still like the name once your baby is here, just use it, cannot for the life of me see what the problem is .

:o at cat running over too !!!sorry

I dont see a problem really cats are well loved members of the family it's not an Insult to share nanes. Especially as kids often dont even answer to their own names and u spend all day calling the buzz lightfast or princess sparkle etc:)

Lightyear

My parents had a cat with the name they gave me. they changed to cat's name to Tigger .

No idea how the cat reacted to them calling me as i have no
memory of that cat....

Dp's parents discussed naming their cat something we liked (can't actually remember what it was now!). We weren't pregnant nor ttc but we said 'oh, we might use that for a baby!' so they called the cat Jasper instead. I would just say something.

Oh well, it's not exactly a big problem. Choose one of the others if it bothers you.

You don't have first dibs on a name once you've fixed on it. But well done for keeping schtum about names. There are a lot of people on this board who could learn from you

Thanks all. I am just a bit peed off. But won't stop us using it if we want to I guess.

If you are 100% set on that name, tell them. They may change the cats name, they may not......

If they only named the cat today and it's a name you want to use, ask them to choose something else. They can then be very smug about having picked out a name for their grandchild and call the cat Fluffy. Unless the name you picked for your child was Fluffy, in which case YABU! The cat won't answer to anything unless it suits it at that particular moment anyway.

But if I do that then we have to use the name. And it is one of three on our shortlist and we may have a boy anyway.

Just tell them it's on your short list then. At the moment you are cross with them and they have no idea they have "pinched" one of your names. If you give them an opportunity to reconsider they'll probably choose something else for the cat.

I don't think it's a problem to keep the name - my uncle had a dog when I was little with the same name as me, but a differently shortened version of my name, and I never thought anything of it.

Also, we never ever call our cat by her actual name! If I'm talking to her she's pushkin, moo-moo, wow-wow, you get the picture. I assume this is normal...? In which case you should be fine!

Can we know the name?

I used to live with a family where the dog had the same name as me. One night at dinner the mum said "beaver has been very naughty today". Everyone looked at me shocked, I was like its your bloody dog not me!

Use the name if you like it.

Annabel

Dont let it put you off. Its a lovely name and more suited to a person that a cat. i think i would tell them too.

I don't feel able to tell them in case we don't use it, or have a bit. I think i'll just be grumpy and totally ignore the issue if we end up using it.

In my experience cats end up with new names after a while anyway. Swine for instance. And stop that. Or cuddles...

No advice really - would just just like to sympathise as my Mum once had a cat called our chosen boy's name - years ago and it died very young but now our neighbours have named their dog said name with baby imminent! Still don't know if it will influence us when it comes to it - prob not as it's a family name, but can share your frustration!
At least in your case you can tell the in-laws and they'll prob do something about it - I can't do that with my neighbours!!!

We have given our new DS the same name as my parent's last cat (who died a few years ago). I don't think it should matter if you like the name enough.

My parents have done this with their dog. After I commented something like, "Oh well, guess we're not using that after all if we have boy," my mum thought about it for a while and then replied, "Yes, but it is a dog's name, isn't it?" Apparently so. We're steering clear of using it if our baby's a boy; it'll be too associated with the bloody dog.