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Can we use DD's middle name for baby #3 (if it's a girl!)?

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KatyJ26 · 01/04/2012 21:50

As above really, we are really struggling for a girls name and both LOVE dd's middle name. Can we use it, or is it a bit weird?

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 01/04/2012 21:52

Nah, go for it. Maybe a little bit odd these days but nice in a way too if you ask me

I have heard of a family with 16 DCs (wartime era) and the oldest and the youngest were both called George.

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 01/04/2012 21:54

A lot weird, IMveryhonestO.

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KatyJ26 · 01/04/2012 21:57

Just to add.... we have come up with other ideas, but it feels like they are compromises i.e. names that we both 'quite like' or think are 'ok' whereas we both really love dd's middle name - I'm not actually sure that helps at all!

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DorisIsWaiting · 01/04/2012 21:58

I wouldn't.

How will your (maybe) DD3 feel in years to come you didn't like her name enough to use it as dd2's first name, but couldn't think of anything different to give her something that is hers and unique.

Can't resist tho' what IS the name?

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KatyJ26 · 01/04/2012 22:02

Oh nothing weird or unusual ... Charlotte.
Hmmmm, I think this is what we were thinking, just needed to hear it from someone else!

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jaffacakehips · 01/04/2012 22:08

How old is your DD? Can you ask her what she thinks? Maybe your DD can pick her middle name?

My DD's middle name is Elizabeth, i'd love to have an Eliza..so in the same boat as you

Northernlurker · 01/04/2012 22:14

Can you use something similar? Carlotta? Sharlie? Lotte/ie?

I wouldn't use the middle name. it belongs to your older dd. But I speak as someone who is bloody annoyed today to hear that my cousin and his partner have called their dd 'First Name MY Dd3's name Surname'. They've pinched my precious dd's name and now my grandmother has two great grandaughters with a name in common. I am bloody annoyed. It doesn't even sound right with the first name or the surname.

DorisIsWaiting · 01/04/2012 22:38

It is a nice name (was one of my 2 choices for dd2 when I went into labour!)

Do you like it for nn potential or the flow/ style of the name?

TheFarSide · 01/04/2012 23:24

Go ahead and use it.

How often do we even think about our middle names? I don't identify with mine at all.

Alligatorpie · 02/04/2012 06:13

I wouldn't.

But what about Scarlett or Collette? They are both very similar to Charlotte.

heliumballoon · 02/04/2012 06:46

We tried to do this but our eldest DD protested very loudly that it was her name. Yours may do the same, if she is old enough... We backed down and in retrospect that was probably the right decision.

I love the story about two Georges!!

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KatyJ26 · 02/04/2012 06:48

Thanks for suggestions and opinions, feel a bit torn! Don't want to use names that are similar as they sound too modern and my other 2 children have very solid traditional English names, so I'd like to name the 3rd to follow suit and Charlotte goes very well ... My DD is nearly 5, so will ask her how she feels about it.

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curiousparent · 02/04/2012 07:10

Personally I don't see a problem with it at all - I think go for it!

Charlotte is a lovely name btw :)

Nospringflower · 02/04/2012 07:15

I think it's fine as long as your daughter is happy with it and you can always present it in a (truthful) way that makes her likely to be flattered

DorisIsWaiting · 02/04/2012 07:59

I would be more worried about what dd2 thinks than dd1 ( and you can't ask her yet!).

We had Beatrice, Florence, Lydia, Harriet, Emily, Alice, Grace, Bethan, also on our short lists

welovesausagedogs · 02/04/2012 09:46

Could you not just adapt it like called her Lottie or something, I know a family where the daughter are called Poppy Holly, and Holly Rosie, which i guess is similar to what you are thinking about doing, i think it's alright - who ever uses their middle name anyway - you want to give your daughter a name you really like. Lots of families give all their children the same middle names, i know a family where all 4 children have the middle name Alex.

seeker · 02/04/2012 09:47

Definitely weird. And not fair on either of them.

justhayley · 02/04/2012 10:08

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it's lovely in fact. if ur DD is old enough tell her DD3 loves her so much and wants to be like her big sister - kids love that!

Kayzr · 02/04/2012 10:09

I wouldn't. I'd worry that she'd think you didn't care enough to find her a name of her own.

albertswearengen · 02/04/2012 10:11

Don't do it. I could imagine my sister spending the rest of my life taunting me with - they couldn't even be bothered to think of a name for you so they gave you one of mine.

seeker · 02/04/2012 10:30

I agree. And I speak as a littl sister.........!

squoosh · 02/04/2012 10:43

Definitely not. Shows no imagination.

zxcv123 · 02/04/2012 10:59

I always think that middle names are there as an option for people to use if they happen not to like their first names as they grow up. So I would not give the same name / similar name for that reason.

My elder brother has always disliked his first name and when he was 10 or so wanted to swap to his middle name instead (John). However, he couldn't because our younger brother is called Jonathan, which is too similar. He has struggled on with his given name, but doesn't like it.

Names which I think of as being similar to Charlotte include Lucy, Henrietta, Georgina, Caroline, Susannah (nn Susie), Catherine, Phillipa, Jemima, Jessica. Any of those any good?

insancerre · 02/04/2012 11:04

it seems a bit weird to me. Names to me are very much about one's identity. I hated that my parents gave me the same middle name as my mother's middle name.
I would have felt very strange if they had given my sister my middle name as her first name.

zxcv123 · 02/04/2012 11:06

PS Just to add that both my DCs use their second names. DC1 also went through a period of about six months of wanting to be called by his third name. So I would say that names "belong" to the child who was given them and shouldn't also be given to a subsequent child.

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