Letting sibling choose name

[abbypumpkin]

I wanted to give DD (2) a list of potential middle names for bump so she could pick. That way she would be more involved with the process and the new baby's name would have some meaning.
DD has decided to give bump a nickname herself anyway which can be made into both a boy's and girl's name. OH and I don't dislike the names but they wouldn't have been on the list.
DD already is adamant that baby will be called this the full nickname) and doesn't understand why it will be changed when baby is born.
Should we just go with the proper name versions of her choice?
What do people think about allowing LO to choose baby name?

DSD more or less chose DD's name - it was on our long list, so I guess it was pre-approved. We'd picked another name as our favourite but it didn't fit when DD arrived. Now DD is a bit older (5), I think the sisters like the fact that the older one chose the name. It's rather sweet and quite special for them.

No, you're the parent, it's your choice, unless your older one chooses from your list.

I agree, the child choosing is lovely, but only within your limits.,

I think it's a crazy idea to allow a toddler to choose their future sibling's name. Why go along with the whims of a two year old?

If she was choosing a name that was on the list and you like them all then fine,but I certainly wouldn't allow her to choose a name that's not on the list,and go with it because she might get a bit upset.

I picked DSis's name when I was four. She absolutely hates it. Honestly, pick something you like, at least then it'll be your fault if your LO doesn't like it!

I think it's madness to let a two year old choose a sibling's name. If it was a 14 year old I'd listen to their suggestions but a toddler? Not.a.chance.

Buy a hamster and let them go to town on that.

My dad's siblings choose his full name and they were much older than the age of 2. He HATES it.

God no.
Name choice is a parents privilege!

Whatever happened to just involving the sibling in nappy changes and stuff??

NO NO NO if my boys had had any say in their siblings names they would have been awful! choosing a baby name is one of the joys of having a new baby! it takes a lot of deliberation and thought and names are often chosen for special meanings etc.

IF your dd actually has given the bump a nice nickname that can be a name i may consider it if it was a name i liked or else maybe a middle name? but NO i chose my kids names and my children didnt really have any say, tho ds3 is called Dylan, this is partly because ds2 insisted i was having a rabbit and NOT a baby! so there is a link with the rabbit from the magic roundabout, but we liked the name and it suited him, so its sort of a happy coincidence that there is also a rabbit of the same name :)

DD is two and barely even knows any names

If it was up to her, the baby would be named after one of her four or so friends, or Upsy Daisy. Or Bagpuss.

oh and i chose my sisters name when i was 5, i dont think she has every liked it much, it was heavily influeced by the area in which we lived when she was born.

When I was born my mum and dad decided on a name as I was born at home my dad told them sat at the top of the stairs. It was quite frankly a hideous name and the boys (8 and 6) at the time were horrified and said 'you are not calling our baby that!'. Anyway dad asked for their input 8 year old said one name, a historical reference to a birthday of a princess and the 6 year old said the name of a character in the book he was reading. The two names went well together so dad double-barrelled them and said ' right lets go and tell your mother'. I have never been more grateful to my big brothers as I am so pleased not to have hideous name parents had chosen for me.

One of my friends let her daughter choose her baby's name but she was 6 so did actually know some names, the baby ended up being called Rosie Rose and then her surname, the baby is now 10 and really likes her name. I think it's fine to let a child choose a name as long as it is a proper name not something that they choose because they like a certain character at that time, it would be very embarrassing for that child to have to grow up with a name like Barbie or cinderella. It should be a name that you approve. What is the name your child wants to call the baby????

We asked ds what he would suggest for our new baby, he came up with Fred or Wilma (just watched scooby) or frankie or Benny (guess where we went for dinner) unless you want a baby named peppa micky bob Sam, I would choose it yourself!

There's no reason she can't call the baby her nickname when it's born. I know a 3yo who calls her sister spud (she said the baby looked like a potato on the first scan) but no-one else does.

My dh used to joke at calling ds1 Ethelred and dss pronounced it Devil red and was convinced we were going to call him that. Personally I think the name of your child is a very important decision for you and the baby and wouldn't let a toddler choose.

My DD wanted to call the baby Arrow, Dumbo or Glitter. Needless to say we didn't let her choose!

I woudn't let a child choose.
My dd1 chose the name of our cat as I didn't like it for her unborn sister!

I have no problem with a sibling choosing the name, but certainly not a two year old! Sorry, I think it's madness.

My youngest son, Huxley Pig, wanted to name any younger siblings that may have come along.

Madness unless you love the name.

When DH & I were choosing names for DD2, DH coached DD1 in his (abominable) short list. So I had DD1 whining at me - can we call the baby xxxx?

I managed to say no and I don't think DD1 has suffered any lasting effects.

My DD was 8 when ds was born. She really disliked his first name and I was feeling very guilty because I'd just moved her hundreds of miles from friends and her school etc plus I was sad she would have to share me after 8 years. As a gesture I said she could pick his middle name. Her previous suggestions hadn't been bad and I was confidant she'd pick one of those...

She picked something I'd never heard her say before and I hated it! But my guilt one over and I used it. Still not keen really.

I'd give her a choice of a few you like and let her pick one if I were you!

I was allowed to choose my brothers name I was 4 and apparently took it very seriously! I hated the name my mum and dad chose so i chose Rory no idea why now ?! He loves it and is eternally grateful to me that he didn't end up saddled with my parents choice lol! It s always been something special between us and now my son is named for his uncle which pleases them both no end

Wow I'm really surprised by the negative comments as I thought it was a lovely thought. As I said in the post it's the middle name she's picking not the first and as we don't tend to use middle names too much I wasn't too bothered about it not being my absolute favourite.
DD has nn the baby willy so the name would be either William or willow from that. Clearly I wouldn't be considering yojojo or rastamouse!
I guess I'm just a little too sentimental and loved the idea.

I think it's a nice idea too. DSD was 12 when DD arrived, so we avoided the cbeebies name theme. DD is now 5 and would dearly love a younger sibling, but as the names she has already picked for the 3 girls she is going to have herself one day as Lovely, Sweetie and Petal, it's probably as well that we're not likely to be having another!