Letting sibling choose name

[abbypumpkin]

I wanted to give DD (2) a list of potential middle names for bump so she could pick. That way she would be more involved with the process and the new baby's name would have some meaning.
DD has decided to give bump a nickname herself anyway which can be made into both a boy's and girl's name. OH and I don't dislike the names but they wouldn't have been on the list.
DD already is adamant that baby will be called this the full nickname) and doesn't understand why it will be changed when baby is born.
Should we just go with the proper name versions of her choice?
What do people think about allowing LO to choose baby name?

My DD picked a middle name for DS2 when we formally adopted him. I did ask DS1 but he could only come up with Legolas and I am afraid I had to draw the line somewhere.

I am so glad I let her choose. She died a year later but he has something very special that she gave him.

She chose Ashton because she liked Ashton Kutcher

My DD was 3 when DD2 came along.

DD1 wanted to call her Sunshine

We didn't give her that name but we all used it as a NN for months, because it suited her.

If you like the name your DD has chosen then use it. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks tbh.

We let 4 year ols ds1 chose a middle name for ds2. He stuck with it for months so we agreed to it as it was clear he really knew that he wanted it. Now the boys are 6 and 10 I think it is a lovely bonding thing. The day ds2 was born we discovered it was a relative's middle name and I wouldn't have chosen it because of that but wasn't going to go back on our deal.

I think it can be a good thing but the child has to be a reasonable age. A 2 year old may well pick the name of the latest character on cbeebies!

OP, to be fair you didn't ask people if they agreed it was a lovely idea, you asked what people thought! And you have had a variety of opinions, but all of them polite. I recommend you don't ask the same question in AIBU unless you want some very honest answers!

Do what you like, anyway! It's not a bad name she's chosen but it's up to you and your DH.

DD picked 6mo ds's name. She was adamant throughout the pregnancy and it just stuck.

I think it's lovely op.

Dd chose ds middle name but we gave only gave her a choice of two :)

You did start the ball rolling by letting her think she could choose! How did you think it would turn out?

My neighbour let her ds (4)choose his little sisters name. She is called princess Leia .

I think willow or william are both nice middle names, i would stick with her choice as it's a proper name and she has chosen it, i think it would give them some special that they will always share together. Middle names are hardly ever used so it's likely that only the family will be aware of what it is, makes it more secretive and special.

My friend wrote a list of names her and her DH liked and let her DS pick from it. That way everyone's happy :)

If i let ds pick, dd would be Bob, Thomas or Sam. Like Sam actually!

I wanted to call my cousin Sparkle, Star, Jubilee, Littlepony or Sheila...

DD wants to call the baby Dylan, but only if its a girl , TBH it's growing on me

If I let my boy choose his younger sibling's name, it'd end up being called "Chewbacca The Warrior Baby of Doom."

The suggestion I got from DD1 about DS's name was Whoopi. For DD2, she suggested Harlem. DS and DD2 then came up with PomPom for DD4, though DD1's suggestion for her was Samantha.

I really think you should not take the suggestions of a 2 year old seriously. You wouldn't ask her advice on any other matter (tell me you wouldn't, please). As you can see, you have created a problem here when she would have been perfectly happy to have her sibling introduced to her as Ptolemy Algernon Marmaduke, no questions asked, because she is only 2 and probably has the attention span of a gnat and the memory of a goldfish. The fact that she is so young means it is possible that this will bow over and she will not remember any of it once the baby arrives and is named by you.

Otoh, it is quite possible, since your DD missed the point about choosing a middle name from a list, chose a name that wasn't on the list, and is now using this name for the bbaby, that she thinks this will be the name and she might turn out to be the sort of 2 yo who keeps a spreadsheet. I think you may have let this one get away from you.

The lesson is not to give a 2 year old the idea that she is in charge.

blow = blow
bbaby = baby

I would say it might cause problems if your newest child doesn't like the name.

My two older children gave our third child a name when he was a bump. They used that name constantly and maintained they would go on using it after he was born -- until they actually met him. At that point, the children switched over immediately to the name we had chosen, with no protest. It was almost as though the real baby had a different identity to the baby-bump.

I think it's an odd idea for a very small child to be so involved in something so important and so very permanent. But then when we named our children we didn't discuss the names with anyone else at all. If you'd usually chat about names with your friends or let your family have a say you probably have a very different mindset.

I'd also only use names I loved for my child. Plus to be honest if your two year old is referring to the baby as 'willy' then I don't really think that's something you want to preserve (even as William or Willow). I can't believe it will encourage much love between siblings!

Just let your older DC pick from 3 or 4 names you and DH have agreed on as a shortlist. Everyone's a winner! Baby gets one of the names you were going to go with anyway but DC is made to feel important as they chose it!

DS is adamant that the baby will be called "Ticky" so no, i don't think a toddler should pick their sibling's name!

DS1 was confident dc2 should be called 'Bonjour', and when we gently suggested otherwise, he put forward 'Mr Slooby'