Colin?

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Pregnant with DS2.

My DFather passed away tragically just after we found out I was pg. V sudden. He did know about the pregnancy and was delighted though.

I'd really like to name DS2 after my dad. But my dad's name was Colin.

What do you think? He didn't have a middle name and we already double barrel (or I'd use his surname as a middle).

I can't think of any other names, whenever I try I keep coming back to Colin. But... it's what all the idiots on TV are called and nobody uses it now do they? I don't want DS2 to be mocked.

I do understand. I was clear from the day I got pg that I would be using my dad's name as part of my ds's. How long do you have to make this decision? My best advice would be to take the pressure off yourself right now and not dwell on it too deeply right now. Give yourself some space, a moment of calm and maybe leave the decision making til the time comes. You can always use Colin when the time comes but right now you're not able to make a clear decision so stop beating yourself up about it......Time, the old cliche, does give most things perspective.
And - so sorry to hear about your loss (I was such a daddy's girl and it gives me comfort now, not sadness, 29 years later). x

I like it too! Not one I would have thought of but while it's not been used popularly for a whle it's no "keith" or "Roger". It's a lovely name and an older one too. Classic and solid.

Problem is that DH has said that if we use Colin we should also use his father's name (Peter). Peter Colin? Colin Peter?

Two dead grandfather's names seems a bit of a burden on a little baby! I suppose we could try to think of something else so it's Something Colin Peter but then what about DS1?

Since seeing that link about Colin being related to Nicholas in the greek I'm thinking that that might work... Nicholas Colin? Doesn't sound right... How many syllables would go well with Colin as a mn?

Really don't want to use it as a mn BUT I can see that it makes the most sense to do so.

Thankyou so much for the kind words.

I'm 36 weeks so not long to make our minds up!

Two in my close family called Colin.

I'd like to name a boy (if we have one) after a close family member but personally couldn't cope with it as a first name. It would be too odd to call the name out, for me and other family, so for that reason I'd choose as a middle name.

I think Colin/Peter go together really well, in fact I love both.

Don't think of it as a burden to your DS2, think of it as a gift. My DD is nearly 3 and is just starting to ask questions about who is who within the family. I have explained that my mummy was lovely and her name was XXX and because I love my DD so much I gave her that name too to show her how much I love her. I think she understands.

I had a great Uncle Col. I think it's a cool name. Peter Colin is PC as initial, not great if he joins the police

I can totally understand your reasons as regard your Dad & it being his name, but don't, jut don't - I've never known anyone named Colin who wasn't odd in all the worst ways, & I've known a few, I even have an ex by that name & to this day, despite it been over a decade later, I still shudder at the thought of him ever knowing where i live - so okay i'm probably a bit biased but it is IME of the 6 or more Colins I've personally known a name to avoid - appologies to your Dads name, but its one I personally really dislike

can you not twist it about a bit a make it a bit more modern & less white van man/noncy (gawd I've known some awful Colins - Conil perhaps ??

Trofast that's lovely :) I suppose I worry that DS1 will feel left out or it's unbalanced - I wish we'd given him the m/n Peter rather than give DS2 both but then again DH actively didn't want to use Peter before.

Good to hear about other Colins, as I think my dad was the only one I ever met!

Vickety yes I think you make a good point about calling out the name. Might upset my mum and uncle too maybe.

Oh dear crosspost with rockinhippy - ok good to hear about MOST other Colins! My dad was lovely I promise :)

I'm sure he was wonder :) - I probably just met all the freaks by that name - lol

I LOVE Colin. Long overdue a revival, I think :-)

I would check with your Mum, but I think Colin Peter is a classic, strong name. (reading back I'm not the only one to use those adjectives!)

Did your dad have a middle name? could you use that? Or what about your dads dads name? Is there something else that links to your dad but indirectly? I am not keen on colin but I loved the Secret Garden and have just been happily reminded of it, alternatively is there another name in dh's family that could be used?

If you don't use the name, you will still be using him name in your surname and he will always still be a part of your dad through you

My DH names Colin I say go for it!!

What about variants eg Colm or Callum or is Colin what it has to be?

I think it's a little unfair of your husband to say it can only be your dad's name if it's his dad's name, and if not he hates Colin too much to use it at all. It can't be that bad if 'Peter' would make it okay, surely?

Is there a chance you might have another child one day who could take on his dad's name?

I think Colin will be fine for your little one. It makes me think of Colin Morgan from Merlin (excellent actor!)

My dad didn't have a middle name, no.

His dad's name was Kenneth which I am not keen on, plus he (dad's dad), passed away before I was born so we never had a relationship.

I think it has to be Colin, because a name which is 'like' Colin wouldn't be my dad's name, you know?

I sort of agree about DH but he has conflicted feelings about his own dad. I think what would be better would be if we could put Peter 'in' DS1's name but I'm not sure you can add middle names and it might be confusing for DS1. I don't think we'll have any more children.

Agree with Mysterious that your DH 'insisting' on both grandfathers names being used is a bit harsh, given the sad circumstances. Would his father be very offended if the child was given the name in memory of the other grandfather, or is he just being a bit silly about this?

Having said that, I think Peter Colin is a fine name as long as you are happy with Peter as a first name.

Unfortunately I know a Colin who is a real Colin Hunt type so it has put me off the name....but am sure there are some nice ones out there!

I love the name Colin

I'm in Scotland and Colin is well used up here and I have positive associations - lots of lovely colins at my work - haven't met any little ones yet but like a previous poster said I think it's due a revival.

I do admit that when I was younger and lived in England I thought it was a seventies name like Keith etc, but since moving to Scotland my perception has changed (and Keith's a good name up here too but not as nice as Colin IMHO).

Dh's dad died about 20 years ago so it's different - though the same in terms of commemorating a dead parent I suppose. In an ideal world we'd make Peter DS1's mn but I did suggest that at the time and DH said no, so...

I think the options will be Colin Peter or Something with Colin Peter as mn.

I think Colin Peter is great!

I don't have any bad impressions of Colin :)

Sorry but I think its such an 'old' name and not in a good way- a bit like the thread for Nigel.
I know 2 collins one is nearly 60 and the other is 35 both use there middle names instead and really really dont like it.
A middle name or did you dad have a nickname or what was his middle name - reverse them so colin would by you DS middle name and your dads middle name his first. not sure Im making any sense anymore

Sorry to hear about your DF.
DD2s middle name is that of DMIL for exactly the same reason.
Colin is a nice name, there's one in DDs class.

Firth. Enough said.

DS has a 'Dad' name, though is universally known by a diminutive. By the time he's in his 20s/30s, i.e. in his prime, the name will be back again.

That's what happened to my name.

I say go for it.