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Baby name remorse

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Zaaaazoooo · 09/09/2011 13:23

My baby is going to be one soon and I'm still not happy with her name! :( I know I sound crazy but just can't get over it. I worry her name will give other kids a reason to make fun of her or bully her and she'll hate it. The name was chosen as a compromise to please her older brother and dad but thinking back they would've got used to any name if I'd insisted. The whole family esp big bro and sis and her dad are used to it, is it really possible to change? any one been through this? please help with advice and please be kind as I feel so bad and guilty about it already :( Thank you

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first1 · 09/09/2011 20:10

What about Mia as a nickname?

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Zaaaazoooo · 09/09/2011 20:55

I cannot thank you all enough for helping me through this, I have to be honest I'm quite surprised and reassured that all the comments are positive and like the name Mina. Through my obsessive searches online I found some horrible comments about the name which made me really miserable!

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Zaaaazoooo · 09/09/2011 21:06

First1; regarding nicknames, I call her mini alot and mimi, it's the name she has to go to school with that worries me, plus the blank faces and the "Oh" reactions I get from some people, but after this I hope they are a minority! Although I have my doubts and regrets about this, sometimes I do think it is right to give siblings a say and not give a name they really dislike, I just hope if we stick with the name that she only meets lovely people like you who like the name and never make her feel bad about it.

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lollystix · 09/09/2011 21:08

I also think it's pretty - the mean association didn't occur at all. The other poster who mentioned all the samey names going about is right. There are so many Lily's, Ellas, evas etc around at the moment she's blessed to have something different. It's fine.

notlettingthefearshow · 09/09/2011 21:46

I think it's a beautiful name. I don't think she will be teased for it.

blonderedhead · 10/09/2011 00:03

I came across it last year as a character name in a play I directed and just thought, what a beautiful name. Cute but it will work as an adult too. It sounds like you do like it but have lost faith in it, hopefully all the positive mn feedback will restore that a bit.

GetOrfMoiSamsungFridgeFreezer · 10/09/2011 00:11

I think it is a lovely name tbh.

If you did change it, yes you could call her Yasmina - I like that as well, or your other idea of Yasmin Mina, you could call her Yasmin and have that ahs her official name, and your son can still call her Mina, it could be her nickname. My dd is called Sophia however some of the family call her Jonny, some call her Fee.

You do sound very upset about it, so if you want to change her name talk to your dh about it. However don't worry about the bullying element, I don't think Mina lends itself to any particularly nasty comments tbh. I think it is very pretty, unusual without being wacky.

Just thinking of other names which ciuld have the diminutive Mina

Carmina
Minerva
Marina
Araminta

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 07:18

lollystix, I think its cause i have a very unusual name that i have to spell all the time that makes me worry if this is good for her or is it better to blend in with a name like Hana? blonderedhead, i did like it and was happy with it for a short period but a friend didn't hide her shock when she heard it and then i started to search online and found some nasty comments and then thought 'what have i done to her!!!' Plus in general i get blank faces when people hear her name and they'd say 'oh, what does that mean?'.

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 07:29

GetOrfMoiSamsungFridgeFreezer I did try to talk to dh months ago but he said she will always be Mina to him but I can register her what i liked, i never found the courage to talk about it again but as the deadline to change it is approching i'm getting more upset with myself for not sorting this out there and then. i don't want to register a name that her dad doesn't care about. I think I'm torturing my self!
If i keep it and add a middle name do you think mina amelie or mina hana sounds better?
MN is great, this is the only way i can talk about this to anyone :)

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weevilswobble · 10/09/2011 07:46

You're fretting over nothing! Mina is a lovely, pretty and original name. Kids will make all names into something if they want to. Dont give her a complex about it, feel confident and pass that confidence on to her.

fedupofnamechanging · 10/09/2011 07:53

I think Amelie goes better as a middle name, because it has more syllables and so balances out a shorter first name.

I much prefer Mina to Yasmina. Just googled it and Mina means love (which I'm sure you know) and I think that's a pretty cool name for a daughter.

Truthfully, I would leave it be. Agree with the poster who says it sounds like you have lost faith in it, rather than fallen out of love with it.

I also think that some people make bitchy remarks out of jealousy that they didn't think of it themselves. Even if their taste is just different, it doesn't mean that theirs is better than yours.

MN would have told you if it thought you'd made the wrong choice and it seems unanimous here that Mina is liked.

sleepevader · 10/09/2011 08:07

I would change it to Yasmina on birth cert. You can call it that and others mina. As she gets older one will naturally stick and if it's mina you can still call her Yasmina

It's a bit like Tasha and Natasha

MissHonkover · 10/09/2011 08:17

Mina is lovely, for me it's the nicest of the names you've talked about. Personally I'm not a fan of middle names, so I wouldn't add one, particularly if you're not going to change the first one, which is what everyone is using at the moment.

There are always going to be people who don't like the name you've chosen, and as new vulnerable mums we can only hope we don't find out! It seems that you like the name, but the opinions you've read and your friend's reaction have shaken your confidence.

I changed DD's name, so I know how upsetting it is.

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 08:28

MissHonkover, may i ask how old was your dd when you changed her name and why? are you happy you did?

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 08:55

karmabeliever and weevilswobble , i know you are right, i need to remind myself that we chose the name as an option cause its international and means love but the deamons in my head keep reminding me of the bad comments. Am i right in wanting to keep dad and siblings happy and away from my thoughts or just do what i want? after this it seems its not such a bad name and as you said i should pass on the confidence and not give her a complex. i know if i change to yasmina they will never use it which is not good for her i think. my dh hates changing things and would find changing her name incredibly hard to deal with.

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/09/2011 09:05

If it would make you feel better then put Yasmina on the birth certificate and let dh and ds continue to call her Mina. I think that is probably the best solution to make you both happy - they don't have to change, but you have an 'official' name that you are happier with.

peasandlove · 10/09/2011 09:08

I know twin girls called Amelie and Yasmin. ;-)

AitchTwoOh · 10/09/2011 09:11

yasmina is the perfect solution, i think. (although i do think mina is a nice name but if you don't like it...) my dd2's nickname is longer than her real name, but it's nice for cooing.

largeginandtonic · 10/09/2011 09:23

I changed my dd name. Well moved her first to a middle name. Called her an entirely different first name. I liked her first name just not as much as the new one.

I got a few comments but not many tbh. People chuckle a bit now and say 'Oh remember when..'.

She is unaffacted.

I think you should just call her Yasmina and then the others can call her Mina if they chose (i like Mina btw) and you can call her Yasmina. Perfect.

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 09:27

After the lovely comments about the name Mina, I feel I should stick with it maybe and save big sis and bro from my doubts. When I said dh doesn't like change I meant change opinion with something big like this cause he feels she is her name now and it would be too upsetting and confusing for all to change. I can't blame him cause he was happy to go with whatever I wanted on the day she was born, even with Hana though he said he didn't like it before.

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AitchTwoOh · 10/09/2011 09:33

no, don't. she's your child, you really have to feel comfortable with her name. change it to yasmina, she will think it's her 'mummy name' if it's only you using it, and that will be lovely.

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 09:38

largeginandtonic, may I ask how old was you dd when you changed it? was your dh happy to change? are you happy you did?

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AitchTwoOh · 10/09/2011 09:40

JUST DOOOO IT.

tak1ngchances · 10/09/2011 09:41

For HEAVENS SAKE. Mina is a perfectly lovely name. Everyone thinks so except you ZZ and that's only because you have become completely worked up over it.
You need to stop obsessing about it and move your thoughts on. It will only become a problem for your daughter if you imbue the name with your own negativity and somehow make her feel that it's not nice.

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Zaaaazoooo · 10/09/2011 09:43

If I go back to the day she was born I'd call her Hana not yasmina.

I know that yasmina sounds like the perfect solution but I would be going for another compromise to protect her from teasing and bullying, judging by the comments here this hopefuly will not be an issue and it seems most people think Mina is a better name.

I think if I change it now it should be completely different and have mina as a middle name or keep it and add a middle name just in case she hates me for it in the future. I don't even know if I'm making sense any more!

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