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Crisis! Name wobble-baby 11 days old. Please help!

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pipparoo · 26/07/2011 19:47

our daughter is now 11 days old and we're worried we may have chosen the wrong name. Don't know what to do!
I think We have two options:

  • change it and face short term embarrassment/criticism
  • keep the name as it is, have courage in our convictions and learn to live with the fact that we may have made the wrong decision

So we chose the name Madeleine instead of Miranda. I'm now worried that Madeleine is a bit popular and also it's caused so many problems spelling-wise and it's only been a week. My DH couldn't even remember how to spell it when telling the health visitor! We decided that Madeleine was better for a newborn but when I have my sensible hat on I realise that babies/children grow into their names.

Wwyd? I'm feeling very stressed about it as well as hormonal and exhausted! Please help!

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AstridandMagnusMama · 26/07/2011 22:15

Miranda and Madeleine are both lovely names- whichever you decide they're great!

JanMorrow · 27/07/2011 11:43

There is no problem/shame in changing it if you want to.

I prefer Miranda but it's totally up to you!

Whelk · 27/07/2011 14:25

I went through exactly the same with dd2. I even tried calling her several other names (quietly Blush) during nappy changes. I really decided that her name wasn't right.

Thankfully dh didn't share my wobbling.
Now however I am so thankful that I didn't change her name and I absolutely love it. I think it just isn't really a baby name.
Madeleine is a fantastic name btw. Great taste!!

WiiUnfit · 27/07/2011 17:59

If your feel your DD's name isn't right & prefer Miranda then change it, but I do love Madeleine! Don't beat yourself up about it.

spanky2 · 27/07/2011 18:05

My Mum said Ethan (ds1) was the name of a cowboy and everyone thinks we named ds2 after Milo the Tweenie. Don't worry about what people think, go with the name you like.

poppysweetie · 27/07/2011 18:11

I prefer Madeleine, really much prefer it. But I dont think thats what you are asking. If you really do prefer Miranda, change it now, its not too late. You can even change it if registered I think?
What is your partners view?

pranma · 27/07/2011 18:18

Add Miranda as a middle name and use that.Madeleine Miranda sounds lovely and you can use either.

scarlettlips · 27/07/2011 19:33

Madeleine, Madeleine and Madeleine again.....stunning name.

DH not able to spell it...blimey I couldn't' even remember my our name with a 2 weeks old baby, let alone spell it. Give yourself a brake. x

Congratulations, girls are the best!!! Grin

ps. haven't meant any Madeleine's under 5 at all.

eurycantha · 27/07/2011 19:55

If you both are worried about this you should change now, both lovely names but you don`t want to be parents who want to change when their DD is 9 months old

PlumPeridot · 14/03/2012 01:19

Madeleine is lovely.

mammaaintraisinnofool · 14/03/2012 08:50

Madeleine is SO much nicer than Miranda. Don't change it. Just get Dad to write it down a few times until he remembers how to spell it?

SoFarWeAreEqual · 14/03/2012 08:57

If you regret it (which it sounds like from your post), then change it.

Madeleine is an ok name and is quite popular, but Miranda has much more personality. I love it.

Methe · 14/03/2012 08:59

Miranda is much nicer :)

usingapseudonym · 14/03/2012 09:40

A week is nothing - go with what you and your husband would really like! I've posted on name threads as it took me a couple of months before I could articulate that I felt I had the wrong name and by then it was a bit too late - no 1 child already used to the name etc.

Definitely change now, people understand at a week, but less so later on!

(I like miranda, but really it needs to be what you and your husband are leaning towards!)

marshmallowpies · 14/03/2012 10:22

I think short-term embarrassment is worth the hassle if you really really prefer Miranda but on the other hand I don't think Madeleine is a bad name for a grown-up either, both are very pretty but elegant names, not twee or babyish.

Personally I prefer Miranda as it's our choice for DD1, but both names are lovely.

BelleStar · 14/03/2012 10:22

Madeleine is a beautiful name. I prefer it to Miranda, but it's your call! Spelling shmelling...that doesn't really matter - speaks someone who has always had to spell their name.

Also, don't worry about dh forgetting the spelling. My first outing with my dd someone asked me her name and I couldn't remember! Such a panic! Dh jumped to my rescue. I cried, obviously!

zumm · 14/03/2012 13:09

OP - I had wobbles too - I think they tend to be about issues other than the name - (such as the huge responsibility or something about worrying about others' opinions of you/the child).
Both names are equally delightful. FWIW, I'd stick with Madeleine. And Maddy is a cool nickname too - reminds me of a chic American (was this a character from Moonlighting perchance?)
Good luck to you.

MeconiumHappens · 14/03/2012 20:47

Change it. Loads of people do, and who cares what other people think. Just tell them you got to know her and she suits it better. Be happy in your long ter choice or regret it! xx

Badgerina · 14/03/2012 21:01

If the only thing holding you back from changing it is the embarrassment, I say CHANGE IT! I like both names, but agree that Miranda is more unusual. Can you be lighthearted about the name-change faff? I bet in a year or so, you'll just laugh about it Smile

SpangledPandemonium · 14/03/2012 21:17

It also depends where you are. Not loads of Madeleines around here. Could pick Miranda and find lots of them turning up! It seems to work out that way. Go for it if you want to change it though. Better now than regret it

LondonNadiy · 16/03/2012 16:38

I much prefer Madeleine to Miranda, its so much nicer a name! I'd say Miranda is much more used than Madeleine too - I know no little Madeleines but 3 Mirandas. Maddy is a lovely nn too. But your call.

I'd give it more than 11 days, you might just be a bit up in the air from the whole having a baby! I agree with zumm, often the issue isn't really the name. If its not right though, change it, screw what other people think! People will accept it, and if they don't, and are rude enough to comment, then their opinion is probably not worth much anyway!

If you're sure, change it definitely. You could also change it unofficially or just use it at home for a few weeks, and if you realise you didn;t want to change it, change it back and say 'No, we never changed her name, what are you talking about?'

My DP can't spell my name half the time, the poor dear has only had a week, give him a chance!

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zumm · 16/03/2012 18:48

Oh yeh, dur, I hope she comes back and lets us know!

nizlopi · 17/03/2012 09:11

Keep Madeleine in my opinion

Lillipuddlian · 18/04/2016 20:58

that is so sad.... I changed all of my baby's names, lol, I'm very indecisive. I don't care what people think, I pushed them out and I don't want to live with regret. Thank you for sharing. I get a lot of flak about my naming wobbles.