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What's worst response from people about LO name??

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lisad123 · 26/06/2011 00:12

When we told my fil (arse) what we had called dd1 he told me " you can't call her that it's a black girls name" Shock
and another " and how am I meant to spell that!!

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purpleplump · 01/07/2011 14:40

I originally planned to call my (unborn) dd Isabelle. Was sat in a room with in laws told them the name and mentioned that i was trying to think of a middle name.
DP's brother pipes up 'end' (I'm sure you can guess why!)

I was so upset I nearly cried, everyone else was howling with laughter and I did not find it funny at all, I stuck with having the name at first but all I heard when I said Isabelle, was the comment that his bro made, dp loved that name as well, he wanted to smack him one!
Going to call her Amelia instead!

Strawberrysmum · 01/07/2011 14:42

PelvicFloor0fSteel sorry.... my bad! I just felt bad for being one of those twunts :D

I'm now guilt free Wink

Strawberrysmum · 01/07/2011 14:44

But I do have one to share...

My husband's cousin said if we called our child Dylan it would always remind her of a dog, the magic roundabout, or someone "dull"... nice!

mrjellykeepskidsquiet · 01/07/2011 14:47

Loudlass...thanks! its a great name.
Even MIL likes it now

BumpPlus2 · 01/07/2011 14:59

I am with clam - my own mother said 'well I like the 'middle name' when we introduced DS2...obviously by ommission she feckin hated the first name! 3 months off DC3's birth and expecting another corker from her! May just text her the announcement instead of bothering with a phone call!! Hmm

Lanabug · 01/07/2011 15:16

Great thread, but seriously, why is having a "black person's name" a bad thing??? Absolutely outrageous.

On telling my mum we were thinking of Jesse or Judah for a boy, she (a devout Catholic, and therefore a hypothetical reader of the Bible) replied "so he'll either be gay or a traitor then? Not sure which is the lesser evil". Er, Jesse as in the father of King David, not Elton John, and JudaH, not JUDAS.

If a member of our family refused to call our dcs by their chosen names then I'd refuse to let them see them until they could be civil. Although I like the idea of changing their name to something they'd hate...like getting my DS to call my mil by a derivative of her christian name - she'd be horrified!

mrjellykeepskidsquiet · 01/07/2011 15:37

Alot of DH's family said that they thought DS1's name was a black name, I have no idea why they thought that was a bad thing, tbh I'm not really sure what they meant....far as I know names don't have a colour.
I am reliably informed by BIL's ex that FIL hated the name when he heard it and went on about it for weeks.
It's Cole by the way

Jacksmania · 01/07/2011 15:46

"...Plaxico Burress.
He is an NFL star and his name is african and means peace. It still makes me think of a big plastics corporation though."

Not to pick on the NFL too much, but DH once told me there was a player called D'Brickashaw Ferguson. Apparently it's a completely made-up name, the player's mum just liked how the syllables flowed together. Holy shit, I say - but, well, you do get to name your child whatever you like and it's none of anyone else's business.

I have had a lifetime (well, after age 12) of comments about my Slavic-sounding name first name. I was born in Germany and it has the letters "schk" in it, which is no problem for Germans to pronounce, but a nightmare for English-speakers after we emigrated to North America. To this day I get comments when I introduce myself, stupid, mean-spirited, ignorant ones.

So when we had DS, we picked a name that was very Anglo. However... just like I doubt my parents anticipated emigrating to North America when I was born, you never know where life will take you and we/he may end up somewhere where they can't pronounce his name!

swingingcat · 01/07/2011 16:08

I have a Matilda known as Tilly, Charlotte known as Lottie and Eloise known as Ells

My mother hates all 3names which pleases me no end Grin

parques · 01/07/2011 16:22

When I told my (now deceased) Grandma that DS was to be called 'Cosmo' she replied "What sort of a name is that?"..... until her vicar informed her that a couple of archbishops had shared the name.... then it was ok!!! Hmm

JanMorrow · 01/07/2011 16:31

I had a few choice comments after telling people our daughter's name. Our parents were great but a couple of people have raised their eyebrows and been a bit "oh.. that's... nice." and apparantly my SIL said, "bloody hippies" when she heard (but that makes me laugh).

The worst was a woman I worked with. I came back into the office to see the boss about my maternity leave and bought her with me and this woman asked what her name was and said "oh.. she'll grow up to be an alcky then!".

I just said, well I hope not.. and walked off. Her name is Juniper.. I'm assuming she made some sort of gin connection!

FriggFRIGG · 01/07/2011 17:03

Strawberrysmumour friends DD's NN is Bean/Beaner.it is NOT on her birth cert,nor did they mean for the name to become her 'known by' name,but her big brother kept calling her baby bean,and it stuck.

i also often refer to my DD as skyebug Bugalugs or just Bug.
no reason really,just sort of stuck.

so take off your judgypants,it was probably just a Nick name.

FriggFRIGG · 01/07/2011 17:08

a lot of people ask "why?" when we tell them DS's name.
i think its a really weird question.
and makes me wonder what other reasons people have for naming DC?Confused

his name is Arlo

oddly we had no such comments when we named our fist DC,skye.

Strawberrysmum · 01/07/2011 17:15

I know lol, I totally sound like a judgypants, but this name bean IS on the birth certificate!

I really don't have anything against it... Totally parent's choice, and if people don't like our baby names, then frankly- up their bum! 'twas just a bit of a shocker at the time Grin

Strawberrysmum · 01/07/2011 17:17

Also friggFRIGG my very good friend used to refer to her baby as bug... I love it, she still refers to her as bug now and she's nearly 2 and a half Smile

notcitrus · 01/07/2011 17:18

parques - my parents still call my ds Cosmo. It's not his name but my mum thought a boy called Cosmo would be nice and sedate and enjoy going round art galleries with her!

I've been trying for months to teach him to say "My name's not Cosmo. My name is [name]. You're very silly Grandma." He hasn't managed it yet. (but is as lovely and sedate as a 2-year-old can be and in fact quite likes art galleries...)

emsies · 01/07/2011 17:22

SOme of the names on here really are giving me a little giggle :o

patagonia09 · 01/07/2011 17:26

Well, I don't have to name my baby for another 7 months but I remember at high school a girl laughing her head off when she heard my middle name and then going bright red and saying "You mean that's your REAL name?! I'm sorry I thought it was a joke". Grrr.

Tigerbomb · 01/07/2011 17:37

My XMil and XFil hated my daughters name and kept saying it was a boys name. This was 20 odd years ago and I had only ever heard of a Blues singer and a tennis player with the same name. It didnt help that they kept shortening it to Bill!

My DB had a habit of naming his children after the family pets he has a Troy and a Marley. My DM has threatened to call the next dog Adolf Grin

HappyWifeandMum · 01/07/2011 17:38

My first name is both Biblical and Hebrew. It is not common, but is not Hepzibah either. I have gotten every response from the delighted gasp of "OH that's LOVELY!!!" with the eager requests that I spell it so they can write it down and add it to their own baby name lists, (I have had at least one child named after me after her mother fell in love with my name!) to the utterly horrid "Oh. THAT'S weird." and my most favorite of all times the sour-faced, smug, VERY sarcastic: "Oh. I'm sorry." Really... REALLY, LADY?!?! I have never even laid eyes on you before, and this is how you respond to hearing my name????!

The absolute WORST response I have EVER had to any of my DC's names was upon the birth of our younger daughter last year. Early in my pregnancy, I had shared with my father that we were planning to name a girl Saoirse. He LOVED it!!! In fact, he went on and on about it for nearly an hour... Told me not to worry one little bit what people thought of the spelling ~ They'd get used to it! Told me over and over how much he loved it, and that it was the perfect name for our daughter!! He was delighted with our choice!

Apparently my step-mother did not share the same sentiment, and must have incessantly belittled it to him, because from that moment to her birth, his opinion changed drastically... and that with little warning whatsoever!! We had not found out what we were having before she was born, so upon giving birth, I rang them to let them know we had a girl.

My step-mother answered the phone and acted a bit disappointed that we had a girl and immediately asked what we named her... I happily responded with Saoirse, followed by her two middle names. My joyful announcement was met with stony silence followed by "Oh." BIG silent pause. "Sooo... What are you going to call her???" A bit taken aback, I replied (as though she hadn't heard me) "Saoirse!" Once again met with stony disapproval and a most dejected "Oh. I was hoping you were going to call her (middle name number one!!!) Right about this point, I heard my father walk by in the background and make a very snide, sneering sounding comment at which step-mother immediately began laughing at most amusedly. When I asked what he had said, she repeated with a tone of triumph that he had just commented that Saoirse "Sounds like a porn star name!!"!!!!!!!!! I was utterly appalled, and worst of all was totally not expecting this from him, particularly after all those lovely comments he had made when originally discussing it with him. He had literally told me to "Listen to your Daddy... THIS is the quintessential perfect name for that baby!!!" Wow. Big shift of heart there, and HORRIBLE manner of expressing it! I was in tears for hours solid, and then for days after that, whenever I would think about it. I am seriously contemplating not calling them at all after the birth of our next baby. Maybe a text. Maybe an e-mail. Maybe have my DH call them. But I do not need to have anymore experiences like that... It was AWFUL!!!

TryLikingClarity · 01/07/2011 17:43

HappyWifeandMum that is awful what your Ddad and stepmum did!

Saoirse is a lovely name! I'm in Belfast so I hear that name a fair bit. Do you live somewhere where that is unusual??

Also, you made me curious to know what your name.... please tell us!

brdgrl · 01/07/2011 17:47

Saoirse is a beautiful name, and with a beautiful meaning behind it.

My teenage SD (and following her lead, my SS) don't like baby DD's name (it is hyphenated, and second half of it is my mum's name). So they just don't use it - they only call her by the first half. It really hurts me - I love her name, and chose it for a reason - and it is my mother's name!!

HappyWifeandMum · 01/07/2011 17:50

Thank you, TryLikingClarity! Yes... We are in North America, so not so common here, but still just as lovely of a name as it ever was! :)

As far as my name, I am a bit hesitant to post it on the web, as it is unusual, but it is one of the names of the Queen Mothers of the Kings of Israel. (One of the good ones! Wink)

HappyWifeandMum · 01/07/2011 17:51

brdgrl Thanks to you too! Yes... the meaning is one of the things we love so much about it! My DH and I both served in the military, and hold freedom quite near and dear to our hearts!!

HappyWifeandMum · 01/07/2011 17:52

Not to mention our Irish heritage!