Arr, agreed on the name Catherine

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but dh has said he will insist on the nn Kate/Katie. I hate both of those (neg connotations from people I've known). Would it be ridic to christen her Catherine, and only have her father (and her father's family obv) call her Kate/ie. Knowing my luck, that would stick and I don't like it.

We can't agree on any other names

Catherine is lovely.

Tbh we named dd2 with the proviso that she wouldn't be a particular nickname because I don't like it but as soon as she could talk she insisted that she was this nn. So whatever you plan may not work out anyway!

This was what happened with my niece - she was christened Catherine, became Katie as a little girl and now calls herself Kate as a grown up.

The Catherine i know, is called Kat

If you hate the name Kate/Katie, you cannot let your dh call her that, don't let him push you into choosing a name you hate.

Well you don't agree on this name either.

No way should you have a daughter with a name you hate at his insistence.

Take Catherine off the table until he stops being a dick about it.

How weird that your MN name includes Kate, but you hate it?!

If you hate Kate/Katie, and especially if her father will then use these as nicknames, then it wouldn't be overly sensible to name her Catherine.

If you husband is going to use nn Kate or Katie, there is no point in calling her Catherine. What a shame coz Catherine is a beautiful name.

We used Catherine as a middle name for DD1 because I love it, but am not that keen on any of the shortened forms.

We never talked about names in advance, but when DD2 was born, MIL said, 'I knew I wasn't going to get my Katie this time because you'd already used Catherine'.

I never knew she was hoping for a Katie - it felt like a lucky escape (no offence to Katies and Katieparents, just not my choice).

Hey, I'm a Katy (Louise) and I LOVE it!! I think it's a pretty name :) I used to hate that people presumed I was a Katherine, NO, just a Katy

I'm a Kathryn, my family called me Katie when I was little and now they call me Kate. My dad wanted to call me Katie but my mum said I should have a full name so I can decide what I want to be called.

You'll have to get used to spelling Catherine out to absolutely everybody!

i'm a katherine (obviously!) and have never been shortened.. But I like Kate too...!

I love Catherine and like Kate but don't like Katie. reminds me of a very poor man's Catherine. Sorry to all Katies!!!! I don't think Katie Price has helped tbh It is very childish and quite "topless waitressish" compared with the elegant Catherine and Kate. Sorry that sounds awful but names do conjure up images. So if you don't want your dh to call her Katie then you can either insist he uses Kate or Catherine or pick an entirely different name.

I have a Kathryn as OH wanted Catherine after his mum (who every one calls Kay and always has) but I wanted a more modern way of spelling it apparently its the Welsh way and liked it.
She just gets Kat from her friends but family still call her kathryn ....Katie was never an option strangely.

If you dont like it pick something else that you both love she will be stuck ith it a long time.

My family are all Catherines. If you call her Catherine, call her Catie or Cate. If you want to call her Katy, then call her Katherine!

I am Catherine and have never had katie or Kate. One or two people call me Cath and very occasionally I get Cathy (which I hate). Actually, I think I would have quite liked to be Kate...

Agree with purpleturtle - why would you have Kate in your own MN username if you hate it and it has negative connotations?

If you hate those nns, I think that it´s horrible of your husband to insist on using them tbh & I think I´d look for another name completely.

from the child's perspective, I've been called Katie since birth by my fathers family because that's what he wanted to call me. It's nearly impossible to get rid of a nickname once your family decides thats what they're going to call you. I'm now 27 and no matter how many times I've told them that I do not want to be Katie, I dislike the name, they refuse to call me anything else and I've long since given up. My father doesnt help by STILL introducing me as Katie about half the time because he 'forgets' i hate it. If you dont like Katie you'll resent it forever because it WILL stick.

I'm a Katherine but...

Katie to family and school friends
Kate to partner and uni friends
Kat at job 1
Katherine at (more professional) job 2
Dave at old job (long story)
Kay to college friends
Cashwin to neice
Cakey to godson
Due to godson Cakey seem to be developing swifly as a 'to friends'!

I think it's a great name in that it has so many variations, and IME it's pretty easy to introduce a name you like and have it stick.

I am a Catherine. My father and grandfather called me Kate, my mother never shortened it. I go by either - but never Cath or Cathy as I hate them. If you really loathe Kate/Katie I'd choose another name tbh.

Haha. Meant to say I absolutely hate being called Kath/Kathy too.

My DD is called Catherine. Before she was born I thought I didn't like Katie but I do call my DD it sometimes now and love it. It sounds so pretty when I call her it. When you call your child something, the previous connotations that go with the name go away.

Different school of thought, but why spell the full name with a C, but the short form with a K? That, I find confusing.

I would stick to Catherine as a middle name if you cannot agree on what you would ACTUALLY call her.

Finally, someone else talking sense!