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DSs sharing a name?

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rihannaray · 31/01/2011 03:19

When i was pg with DS we couldn't decide wether to call him Samuel (DH's choice) or Xavier (my choice.) We thought ok, we'll call him Samuel and keep Xavier incase we have another one in the future.

After a very difficult birth the docs said it looked like I'd never be able to carry another baby. So, still desperate to use my name choice, we named him Samuel Xavier Lastname.

Just found out, 4 years later, that I was pg again and it's another DS. I still really want to use Xavier and don't think it really matters that they'll share the name, it's no different than dads and sons having the same name, is it? DH thinks it's too weird, ILs agree with him and I'm starting to question myself now. Is it weird?

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BelligerentGhoul · 22/02/2011 15:13

I don't know if it's weird but I wouldn't do it. I think the name will have come to partly define your ds1, so to use it again is akin to 'stealing' a bit of him, whether or not he seems to mind or not.

Baffledandbewildered · 22/02/2011 15:47

Why not call him sacked Samuel and tell the boys these are your two perfect names and as they are your two perfect boys it had to be?????? Just an idea

Baffledandbewildered · 22/02/2011 15:47

Not sacked xavier !!!!!!!bloody predictive text

NotjustaMummy · 22/02/2011 22:30

My husband has a first name that is the same as is older brothers middle name. He is absolutely fine with it. His mum was just so delighted and yes, a little surprised, to have a third boy that she wanted to use a name she really loved. Go ahead and use Xavier again, it rocks!

nooka · 23/02/2011 06:21

Xavier is a great name and I don't think it is a problem. I don't know anyone who is that attached to their middle name (I share one of mine with my brother and the other with all my aunts, and I know lots of people whose middle names are from parents, aunts/uncles etc). But if your dh isn't keen then you will need to think of somethign else.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 23/02/2011 06:44

Hmm, I disagree. I use my middle as my first, as does my mother, my aunt and at least one dear friend. All of us chose to do so off our own bat, it's not a family tradition (the aunt isn't a blood relation), but I've always thought of a middle name as sort of a backup choice for that reason; if your child doesn't like its first name it can go by its second.

Your eldest wouldn't be able to do that. Your youngest might feel he wasn't given "his own" name later.

I think it's odd, and I wouldn't do it.

HopeCalvary · 25/02/2011 13:02

I don't think it matters. But then again, I am half Colombian where most of my family are either called Juan, Carlos, or Maria! lol

KAEKAE · 27/02/2011 16:11

I have the same issue....I like one of my DDs middle names so much I wished I had kept it for the dd2 we are expecting. I think it might be sweet that they share a name, but not sure how THEY will feel about it when they are older, so I am really trying to find a name I like just as equally.

emmanumber3 · 04/03/2011 20:42

I have a similar dilemma (very similar in fact!). My DS1 is named Jack Michael - Michael being my Dad's first name. Now, 14 years later, I am expecting baby number 3 and, if it is another boy, I would like to name him Michael as his first name as my Dad passed away 8 years ago and it breaks my heart that he will never meet the new baby. Also, baby is due on the anniversary of my Dad's death.

DH thinks that it's a bad idea but I still like the idea. We also have DS2 who doesn't have the name Michael anywhere :-)

littleducks · 04/03/2011 20:52

It could work, i wouldnt worry about the not having a back up name problem too much as lots of people have no middle name

I know lots of siblings who share middle names or first names but use their middle names day to day

pranma · 05/03/2011 22:03

This might sound silly but I'd call ds2 Xavier Samuel then you can tell both boys that they were the two names you loved best of all so you gave both of them to the two boys you love best.....dont have a third one though :)

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nappyaddict · 09/03/2011 00:24

I think it's fine as long as they don't share the same first name!

diddl · 09/03/2011 08:44

I wouldn´t.
TBH I´m surprised that you didn´t use it on your first.

And I think that your first would be upset that he didn´t get the name that you prefer but his brother did.

How about Xander?

exoticfruits · 09/03/2011 08:58

I wouldn't do it. It seems to make DS2 second best in that he doesn't get a name just to himself but has to borrow his brother's name.

jellybeans · 09/03/2011 09:08

Don't do it! I thought about it too but went for something else as it didn't seem right and what if you have another one after that? They may all have the same names or be left out etc. What about Xander instead?

Jux · 09/03/2011 15:19

I think it's perfectly OK.

I was at school with a family of boys who were called John, Sean and Ewan.

Call your new babe Xavier Samuel. It's not like they're going to get mixed up.

Underachieving · 09/03/2011 15:32

My first thought was don't do it, it's bordering on comedy naming. Then I thought, oooh but Samuel Xavier and Xavier Samuel would be really cute. Then I thought no it wouldn't, it'd be comedy naming. I have settled on don't do it.

SandStorm · 09/03/2011 15:33

I wouldn't do it. DS1 might feel that something is being taken away from him and DS2 might feel that he was worth the effort of thinking of an individual name for him.

SandStorm · 09/03/2011 15:33

wasn't

MarineIguana · 09/03/2011 15:39

Or Xavion?

Underachieving · 09/03/2011 15:42

I always think of Fabian and Xavier as having a very similar sound.

SteelMagnolia · 11/03/2011 20:22

I think both Xander and Xan are quite cool as an alternative to Xavier. But if your heart is set on Xavier (which IS a great name), I say go for it!! Agree with the others that say it's all a part of your family story.

I really like the idea that they would share Xavier as a middle name and DS2 goes by that. I personally don't think they'll feel less individual--they'll take cues from you in the way that you explain it.

rirismummy · 12/03/2011 13:08

When I was born my mum had chosen a name and my dad had chosen one - they wanted to see me first before choosing which one suited best.

They went with my dads choice and my mum was gutted - she gave me her choice as my middle name as she said if they didn't have another child or if she had a boy, she'd never get to use it.

Then my sister was born and my mum named her my middle name. To be honest, we've never had any problems with it - It's never really come up and on the one or two occassions it has, it's easily explained.

I think you should go with xavier as the first name

rirismummy · 12/03/2011 13:14

And i certainly don't feel any less loved or appreciated because of it!! rolls eyes

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