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Changing how a name is spelt.

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ditzymare · 22/01/2011 22:51

There a couple of threads running at the moment that have really made me start to question my dds name.
DD is adopted. I asked folk on here what they thought of her name last year and the reaction, it is safe to say one of .

I don't want to say what her name is but it is rarely heard. I think the main problem is that the first C has been changed to a K. Making it according to MN wisdom very chavvy. We have actually got used to the name and dh and I couldn't imagine her being called anything else. We are forever having to correct people on the spelling though.

What I need to ask is would changing the spelling back to the accepted way cause any problems now. She is only 3.6 but her passport, birth certificate, bank account are all in the K spelling.

Anybody had experience of this.

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MrsShrekTheThird · 22/01/2011 22:57

why not leave it a little bit longer until she is old enough to decide or have a say for herself.... I've no experience, and someone I know has just called their gorgeous little newborn girl Mavis.

If you like it, bugger the rest of em

SecretNutellaFix · 22/01/2011 23:03

I would keep the K spelling.

CharlieBoo · 22/01/2011 23:12

This forum is a nightmare for this!! When people slag off your childrens names on here it really sucks!!

Difficult to know without knowing the name, but why not wait and see...doing it now or in a years time won't make much difference.

TheSecondComing · 22/01/2011 23:13

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babybear5 · 22/01/2011 23:18

I too adopted my dd and changed the spelling of her name..funnily enough to a 'k'. I have also changed my other dd name from the popular version..to begin with K
Why don't you leave it and see how it sits with you in a little while.
I am forever saying....with a 'k' when spelling a very simple name.
Sod what anyone else thinks...if you happy with it that all that matters.
Nosey me would really love to know what her name is now?

MrsvWoolf · 22/01/2011 23:18

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ditzymare · 22/01/2011 23:23

Hope I don't regret this. It's Klarise.

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MrsShrekTheThird · 22/01/2011 23:26

It's lovely!!!

babybear5 · 22/01/2011 23:32

ditzymare that is lovely I really like it with a 'k'. Beautiful and not chavvy at all.
My dd's are Karla and Kayla both normally with a c.
Beautiful..don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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ditzymare · 22/01/2011 23:46

Thanks shrek and babybear.

It really can make you feel insecure when you are always reading about how people perceive more unusual names. I actually really hated her name to begin with. We didn't think changing it was right. It's still not something I would choose but it is so her.

babybear yours are lovely as well. They sound really nice together.

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eviscerateyourmemory · 22/01/2011 23:53

If you like it then dont change it because of Mumsnet. To people who know her the association of the name will be with her personality, not thinking 'Its spelt with a K how chavvy'

babybear5 · 23/01/2011 00:03

gets really confusing tho
I to hated my adopted dd name but as you said changing it didn't feel right because it was who she was and actually we so used to it now and cant see her as anything else.
We just named these two littlies with a k so it all fits together and they all k Actually i have 5 dc and 4 girls start with a k, as i do. so really confusing sometimes

crystalglasses · 23/01/2011 00:18

Klarise is lovely. We are becoming such a cosmopolitan nation - people from all over the world are settling here and bringing with them all sorts of strange (to our ears) names.

tammytoby · 23/01/2011 10:33

Please do not change your dd's name because of some mumsnetters' comments!

People on here can get 'judgey' and it can be quite hurtful if your childs' name gets slagged off. I've lived abroad (US and Germany) and I have not come across this degree of judgementalism about names there. Lets all become a bit more open minden .

tammytoby · 23/01/2011 10:34

sorry, minded.

Anonymousbird · 23/01/2011 10:43

Often the use of K instead of C is fairly grim, trying too hard and all that, however, in this case, I must agree that it is very pretty, not at all chavvy.

Stick with it OP!!!

stripeybumpsmum · 23/01/2011 10:59

I am adopted and my name is unually spelt. It is a longer version of my bm's name. I was adopted at a time when it was a) expected you would change the name and b)not necessarily expected that the child would be told they were adopted. My parents could not agree on a name and in the end, my dad suggested I just 'look like' a Stripey. I've always known I'm adopted.

The momentary inconvenience of having to correct the spelling is more than outweighed by knowing the origins of my name and the connection with both bm and adoptive parents.

At 3.6, your DD's name and the spelling is definitely part of her identity. PLEASE don't change the spelling. Think about it, in years to come when she asks you about her name, are you going to say 'I changed it because of anonymous judgmental internet forums'?

(Stripey scuttles off realising she is both anonymous and opinionated...)

stripeybumpsmum · 23/01/2011 11:00

unusually

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ditzymare · 23/01/2011 15:59

stripey thankyou. It is part of her and the only thing her birth mum was ever really able to give her. We wont change it. I don't really mind people on here commenting, after all everyone is entitled to their opinion. Very annoying in RL though. I made her a doctors appointment last week and as usual had to spell the name. The receptionist snorted "well I thought I'd heard them all but that's a new one" in a very huffy what is the world coming to kind of voice. Rude cow.

As a foster carer I do sometimes think we got away lightly with dd as we have heard some horrors.

Siblings - Chardonnay, Tia Maria, and Bailey.
Cartier
Twins - Ronnie and Roxie

I would never judge though

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planetalice · 23/01/2011 16:10

Stripey - very well put :)

Klarise is lovely and doctors receptionists are paid to be like that its to put us off ringing to make appointments :)

Are you actually legally allowed to change the name now?? my friend addopted and im sure it was part of the rules now that the name must remain the same?? Not sure though :)

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ditzymare · 23/01/2011 17:23

Yes planetlice we could change it. Once the final adoption order has been granted you can make whatever choices you want. However, it is strongly discouraged by social services and quite rightly I think.

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NotAnotherNewNappy · 23/01/2011 23:13

Klarise is lovely, not chavvy at all. I would have expected it to be with a C but when I saw it with a K I presuemed it was a European spelling.

I think it's too late to change it now as presumably she can recognise the first letter of her name and feels as though it's part of her?

DD is Eliza and doctor's receptionists have trouble spelling and pronouncing that. You can't win really.

auntyfash · 23/01/2011 23:16

I don't think it's khavvy at all.

BibiThree · 23/01/2011 23:18

Personally, I love the name but would be tempted to change it to a C. It's a family name for me and one of dds has it as a middle name. Think it's beautiful.

BuntyPenfold · 25/01/2011 09:37

Leave it as it is, it's a lovely name.

I quitelike Ronnie and Roxy too.

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