Changing how a name is spelt.

[ditzymare]

There a couple of threads running at the moment that have really made me start to question my dds name.
DD is adopted. I asked folk on here what they thought of her name last year and the reaction, it is safe to say one of .

I don't want to say what her name is but it is rarely heard. I think the main problem is that the first C has been changed to a K. Making it according to MN wisdom very chavvy. We have actually got used to the name and dh and I couldn't imagine her being called anything else. We are forever having to correct people on the spelling though.

What I need to ask is would changing the spelling back to the accepted way cause any problems now. She is only 3.6 but her passport, birth certificate, bank account are all in the K spelling.

Anybody had experience of this.

I know a Kris with a K not a Ch - when I first heard it I thought (snobbily) that it was really chavvy, then he told me he'd been named after his German grandmother whose name was Kristal. I think it's rather lovely now - and I feel ashamed for ever being snobby about it. Names are part of identity and family history - I think your DD comes with a K and will feel it's part of who she is :)

Missing the point a bit there, BibiThree - keeping the K is the only link the OP's daughter has to her birth family; surely that should override any thing else, like the adopted mother's family names.

Thank you everyone. Obviously the people who hated the name last time I posted have wisely not commented on this post .

We are keeping her name as it is. We already changed the middle names her birth mother gave her. As we have grown to love her, the name has grown on us to. I can't imagine her name being any differant now it really suits her.

It was only the comments on here that made me have a wobble. I shall ignore in future.

Tia Maria

I don't think you should change it. I would think everyone on here has had their child's name slated, at some point.

I would agree with deleting posts too

If it really bothers you, then change it now, before she's old enough to notice. She is part of your family now, and the way you feel about the name is much more important than her birth mother's spelling.

I think its a lovely name and the spelling isn't chavvy - it sounds more European.

It's lovely be proud to be different we have a pop pie (all one word but iPad won't accept that spelling""!!!!! I kid you not) ds3 zak and ds1maxx other children have normal spellings but add that to our unusual surname and most people struggle to spell name right!!!!!!!but hey we like them......kids and names obviously!!

I think Klarise is absolutely fine. I would stay with it. There are plenty far more unusually spelt names kicking about. The lady in the bed next to me in hospital named her daughter Sienna except she decided it would be spelt Ceenah. Which to me looks as if it sounds like See-Na. I can only assume it will be spelt CeeNah!! Clarice/Clarise is a classic name and with a K is just a variation rather like Cathleen/Kathleen.