Wobbleing....My Father (ie: grandfather to be) is not happy with possible baby name!

[Highlandgirl]

Hi all,

Long story so my apologize in advanace.

DH and I really really love a 'certain' girls name. The name isn't important.

My father however has 'gotta' wind of this name and needless to say he's not best pleased, and has been slagging me and the name off to the whole sodding family. I've been told it's old fashioned and shouldn't be used as a first name. He said much worse when I spoke with him on the phone, but to be honest his rudeness isn't the problem. It's that I'm now starting to wobble over a name I've wanted since I'm been about 15.

I should also mention, the name in question is my middle name, my grandmothers middle name and my great-grandmother's first name. My father gave me this name so I don't understand the problem.

DH doesn't understand why I'm worried about what my father thinks, as 'you've never listened to your father, why start now'..

I'm now concerned about using this name...! Esp if baby arrives and it look nothing like 'the name'. First time Mum here and clearly over thinking things... However I don't wish to upset my father nor fall out with him as this is his first grandchild.

Any advance would be great.

Another one here who had my mum not liking DS's name (it certainly grew on her once she got used to it though!). She loved DD's name, but wasn't too keen on the middle name. The name was DP's grandmother's though, so we kept the name as it was. However, DP called his mother on the morning DD was born to tell her the news and announce the name and she flatly said "Oh. I don't like it." I am not sure what she expected him to do with that comment .

You are right to keep that name as your girl's choice. YOu might well find yourself always regretting it if you change it and your dad could very well get used to it quickly once he realises it's here to stay.

I hated my friend's choice of name for her DD, and I didn't hide it well when she told me (I did try to honest! I also didn't realise it was "the one" when she said it).

A few years later, I've got used to my friend's DD's name, and do you know what? It actually really suits her and I can't imagine her being called anything else now. I even like the name now!

I was breing ailly and so is your dad.

I loove the name Honor. It's classy yet trendy (thanks to Jessica Alba, haha.) It would be high on my list if I ever have a DD.

I think Honor Catherine is absolutely gorgeous. Don't you dare change it.

Or I will fall out with you. :o

When I was pregnant with the eldest I told him not to tell anyone. So he told his mum and nan! We got what was wrong with every name, what they'd be called at school and what horrible people they knew with those names. So we asked my nieces and nephews and his children. All came up with the same name (my favourite) which is what she's now called. It surprises me they said anything because they're pretty normal names, the one is more popular than I expected considering that his nieces and nephews have names that are either words or sound made up.

Next one we used the middle names as his grandfather and his great-grandmother (same line) so when we told his mum and nan (her husband and MIL) they were over the moon and we picked a Welsh first name which they loved as the family has a lot of connection with Wales.

The only person I am happy to discuss names with is my mum. He asked why when I said not his mum and the reason is she will only ever be positive about suggestions we make, if we asked her to think of a name she will say something silly like "Phyllis" ("Myfanwy" seems to be a popular choice with her) because she's aware that it's not up to her. His mum will give an opinion on why it's wrong.

Sorry hit post too soon.

Keep the name you want, don't worry about others they will come around.