Wobbleing....My Father (ie: grandfather to be) is not happy with possible baby name!

[Highlandgirl]

Hi all,

Long story so my apologize in advanace.

DH and I really really love a 'certain' girls name. The name isn't important.

My father however has 'gotta' wind of this name and needless to say he's not best pleased, and has been slagging me and the name off to the whole sodding family. I've been told it's old fashioned and shouldn't be used as a first name. He said much worse when I spoke with him on the phone, but to be honest his rudeness isn't the problem. It's that I'm now starting to wobble over a name I've wanted since I'm been about 15.

I should also mention, the name in question is my middle name, my grandmothers middle name and my great-grandmother's first name. My father gave me this name so I don't understand the problem.

DH doesn't understand why I'm worried about what my father thinks, as 'you've never listened to your father, why start now'..

I'm now concerned about using this name...! Esp if baby arrives and it look nothing like 'the name'. First time Mum here and clearly over thinking things... However I don't wish to upset my father nor fall out with him as this is his first grandchild.

Any advance would be great.

he sounds like a childish attention seeker.

ignore

NEVER discuss names with anyone other than your DP/DH. This is the best policy IMHO.

But in the the OP s case I would continue to use the name I love.

Hi nextchapter sadly my Mum has passed away..

Attentin seeker...my old man, never!!!

it works though, eh... he's getting lots of your attention at a time you should be happy.

Oh i'm sorry to hear that. Maybe you should go out with your dad for tea or something, just the two of you, and explain how you feel and how its your baby etc. He may be feeling a little pushed out or lonely so this is his way of getting attention and feeling involved in this change in your life?

It's a lovely name. He should butt right out.

Honor's a beautiful name in it's own right, and perfect as a first name! Go for it! xox

Honor is a beautiful name. Ignore him.

ignore others esp family.thats a great tip as parent,will stand you in good stead

if you capitulate in name what next?

Honor Catherine is absolutely beautiful. Stick to your guns and call your DD the name you and your DH want.

Honor, lovely, actually makes me

lovely name - shame that your dad is behaving this way but he will come around.

don't listen to him if starts going on about it again.

then when you meet your little girl, if she looks like an honor, go for it - like everyone says, he will get used to it!!

I LOVE Honor! It's not old-fashioned (it's what Jessica Alba called her baby) and it's beautiful. Your dad will get used to it.

When you say it´s your middle name, is it from your Dad´s side or your Mum´s?

It certainly is odd behaviour from him-makes me wonder if he doesn´t like the name & felt he had to use it?

But, it´s up to you-I think it´s lovely btw.

Parents though-when I told my mum what my PFB was called she said "oh, I don´t like that" followed by an expectant pause-I think she was thinking that I would say oh, OK, what about XXX instead

Honor is a family name on my father's side....!! Go figure

It is your baby not your fathers, use any name you want to if he bullys you out of it you will only regret it

Fantastic name really beautiful,please don't change

Honor is a wonderful name - used to be very high on my list. And I associate it with Honor Blackman - got to be a good thing, surely?

The names you have chosen are beautiful, and it's yours and your dh's choice to make, nobody else's.

I have grandchildren, and once or twice I've thought to myself, hmmm, I'm not too keen on that name, but I would never in a million years have said that to my daughter or son. However, as someone else said, very soon you can see them with no other name, and you come to love it, just as you love the child.

Honor is lovely. It was on my list but got dropped off because (a) DH wasn't quite as keen, although he liked it (b) I'm not convinced it goes well with DH's surname and (c) I knew both you and someone else on a Feb 2011 due date group on Another Board were strongly considering it. I've since heard of another one born in the last couple of months, so I definitely don't think it's going to be seen as odd by anyone other than your father.

Old-fashioned names are very popular now, so if someone in our parents' generation thinks a name is old-fashioned then I tend to think that's a recommendation rather than the reverse...

If you don't use the name you are going to regret it, and you will always hold it against your father.

No doubt your Dad had a say in what you were named. Well, it's YOUR turn now to name YOUR child. God, if everyone always listened to their parents on this one it would be a world of Johns and Marys!
Do you definitely know it's a girl?

SkylineDrifter ' once or twice I've thought to myself, hmmm, I'm not too keen on that name, but I would never in a million years have said that to my daughter or son.'

You sound lovely - I wish you were my ILs! :)

Beautiful! I love it. Your dad is barmy.

Awww you guys.... thank you.

The sex of the baby is a surprise...! Don't really mind but do hope one day I might be lucky enough to have an Honor.

oh is the name Honor?

that's beautiful.

ignore your GF