Moral dilema: my or DH's name choice for our 2 week old baby?

[homelyperson]

Hi, our baby son is almost 2 weeks old and yet we haven't decided on the name. The problem is apparently in me, because few months ago The Perfect Name came into my head (Gregory) and I haven't considered any others names ever since. DH is not happy about Gregory though (not overly unhappy, but not happy), and I asked him to give his shortlist. He gave me a list of eight names, seven from which I completely dislike, and only one (Oscar) is so-so to me. He said to me "if you not happy with any of my names, then choose your own". I am tempted between choosing Gregory but feel guilty at the same time in front of DH.
Admittedly, I haven't been in the best relationship with my DH lately, I am angry with him for number of reasons (have a right to be), but could I selfishly choose my own name - I don't know...
Our DS1 is Dominic, the name we were both happy about...
Time is ticking, what to do?

ooo- nn Grey as smilingserenely suggests solves your Greg problem, homelyperson! I definitely think Gregory is the best name and id your husband approves now then you've no need to feel guilty at all. Nothing wrong with Oscar - I quite like it- but it really is a now name whereas Gregory is more unusual and cool. Grey could be v sweet as a baby nickname.

I like to know the meaning behind names. Does any of this help ...

Oscar is the warrior son of Oisin and the fairy Niamh, and the grandson of the hero Fionn mac Cumhail in Celtic mythology. His name mean's deer-lover. His father Oisin's name means little deer, as his mum was turned into a deer by a rival sorceress. Keeping up? Good ]

Gregory is classical Greek (brought to the UK via Latin) and means watchful. St. Gregory is the patron saint of singers and students.

So, one way to choose it might be - do you feel more affinity with Latin / Christian stories or Celtic pre-Christian ones?

Good luck

Come morning, I am thinking Gregory David, as I feel exhausted from sleepless nights and thinking of the names. I defo like the meaning of Gregory better, most of friends prefer it, most of MNetters seem to prefer it, and I just don't care anymore. Registration appointment is in 4 hours..

Hope it goes well :)

i just came back from the registrars. Registered Gregory David... Actually feeling a bit sick and wondering if I have made a mistake. Suddenly felt an urge to check how can I change the name... but remember having this feeling with DS1 name too, so maybe it will pass... Ughrr.. I never thought I will be almost in an agony of choosing the name.

Ah, well done! Its the name you woke up thinking you'de choose, and its one you've registered without changing it at the lat minute. I hope, as you say, the urge to change it will pass, and that you can relax now and proudly tell everyone his name. All the best.

Ah, well done. Gregory is a lovely name, so glad you went with your favourite.

I must be too exhausted, I think. I hear so many compliments about the name and yet I still cannot acknowledge that this is the name I liked and have chosen for me son. I panicked this morning and called the registration office, asking whether is possible to change to David Gregory, ha ha. Or to Gregor David (?) to make it less pretentious. The officer said yes, come next week if you really have to. I hate being so confused, that is just not me. At least I can be sure that 1 year ahead from this point, this name headache will be forgotten.

Stay away from that registry office homelyperson!!

You've chosen a beautiful, not too popular but classic name. Don't pissing around with it now!

You've chosen a fabulous name :) Yes, I think you are exhausted, and if you change the name you may well just have the same feelings again for the new name. I'm guessing the feeling went away with your DS1 name and it probably will this time too. If not then you always have time to consider it in several months when you're less tired. You could even write it in your diary to think about it in 6 months time, so that you can forget about it for the time being! Don't wear yourself out even more by worring.

Step away from the registry office! Gregory is just a great name. Imagine yourself sitting on the sofa watching Gregory's girl with him in 12 years time.:)

maryz, no, my DH is not back yet, not until coming Friday. My baby is 4.5 weeks, and I have got up for him every single night so far. Gregory soundr very... British? And I must admit I am not even a British native. Now I am thinking that Gregor would have sounded more international. But you all are probably right. I need to chill out at least for few days. I hope that the name will grow on me.. Just cannot believe that I am the one who loved only Gregory and the one who insisted it!

Gregor sounds unfinished to me. Gregory is much nicer and has a more flowing sound to it :)

David is lovely. I would have liked it for ds2, but it's my Dad's name and since we weren't having any more, we couldn't really ignore dh's Dad, so we couldn't have it .

Pick David, pick David!

Oscar is quite common these days. Gregory...hmmm...not sold, prefer to Oscar, but...

David. Classy.

Ooops. Just saw you picked Gregory!

You chose right. You will be pleased in years to come that you chose something classic and not too popular. I really like the name.

(mmm Greg House ... Mmmm)

Hi, I wouldn't come back to this thread, but.... I have eventually changed the name to Oscar David. When my DH came back, it turned out that we both not comfortable with Gregory and we both avoid using it, despite of me liking the name (on paper) very much. We discussed and decided to go for Oscar instead. I went to the council and filled in the application. The minute I left, I felt a huge relief. Like everything has fallen into places. Maybe it is not the prettiest name (and was never on my shortlist), but eventually I think it suits our baby the best. Before, for some reason, I felt sort of embarrased of calling the baby Gregory. Now Oscar comes out of my mouth so easily. That is the right feeling. I finally feel happy and settled.
I feel a bit sorry though that I went against the advice of most of mumsnetters. But this is a lesson for me - always think with your own head!

I was following your thread with sympathy - its a really stressful decision choosing a name. I'm so glad you feel happy with his name. FWIW I much prefer Oscar...
Don't feel sorry you went against MNers advice either!

Just go with your choice. Gregory is lovely and Greg is cool for a nickname. Whenever I hear Oscar I think of the Sesame Street monster who lived in a rubbish bin.

Will your DH still beat you over the head or even rembember in a little while? He'll just be Gregory who is part of the family and it wont matter.

Shit... I posted without reading the whole thread. Forget the above, Oscar is lovely

homely do not feel bad for going against people's opinions on here

if we all thought the same, the world would be a much less interesting place!

Oscar is such a cute name, but the most important thing is that you're happy with it! After all, you're likely to be the one who says / hears it the most in the coming months / years!

And your son with either love it or hate it, whatever he's called. That's a child's perogative!