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Am I going mad?

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newmum265 · 02/09/2010 12:45

Somebody please talk some sense into me! I feel that I have chosen the wrong name for my ds who is now 15 months. It totally suits him but the reason I am now annoyed is that is seems like the most common name in the world. Everywhere I turn at home there is a child with the same name! Am I being totally silly? I cant get this out of my head. To add insult to injuy, my sister has just had a ds and has called him the name we were going to call our ds but then decided against but which afterwards I really regretted! I need someone to talk some sense into me. Ps it took us three weeks to name ds and my mum didnt want he name we chose because shes a teacher and had taught too many! This also bugs me! Even though she loves the name now because she associates it with her gorgeous grandson. Even as I write his I feel silly, Maybe I'll get over it will I! Has anyone else regretted their name choice because it was so common?

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newmum265 · 02/09/2010 12:48

What if you dont like it and it makes me feel even worse...

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SirBoobAlot · 02/09/2010 12:50

Is it Jack?

SmellsLikeTeenSweat · 02/09/2010 12:52

It's called 'set thinking'. Like when you never notice spaniels, or green cars, until you get a spaniel and/or green car, and then you see them everywhere.

What about coming up with an unusual nickname for him?

BuntyPenfold · 02/09/2010 13:15

Is it Sam?

daisystone · 02/09/2010 13:18

Is it Alfie?

lowrib · 02/09/2010 13:23

If the name suits him that's great.

I agree with SmellsLikeTeenSweat, you need to come up with a nickname.

lowrib · 02/09/2010 13:23

If you tell us the name we'll help suggest some nicknames

rachel234 · 02/09/2010 13:27

I can understand your frustration. Our dd's is also very popular and, while I love her name, I do wish she wasn't one of 3 girls in her class (of 28).

Do you prefer your ds's middle name? Could you use this or a nickname version of it?

Spannaboo · 02/09/2010 13:44

I'm so sorry to hear you have been going through this. I've had a year of exactly the same thing. I've even posted about it on Mumsnet before. My MIL was rude about my DDs name and I've never been able to get it out of my head. I've also read so many posts about the name being way to popular and that has always bugged me too (some very rude comments which people would never say to the face - just on Mumsnet). In fact it became an obsession which I am starting to get over. I would often try out other names on her to see if I could easily switch to another less popular name.

Her name is Evie. I have a feeling it's going to be in the top 5 names but I'm trying not to care. It totally suits her and I'm hoping it's timeless - well Eve certainly is anyway.

I don't know what to suggest - if you really need to change it then do - only you can decide. But if it helps lots of other Mums are going through the same thing, I think it's quite common.

Good luck.

wigglesrock · 02/09/2010 13:54

My dd2 name is Olivia, apparently the most popular name ever in the whole entire universe!! I just picked it-I didn't know any!! then I started thinking of names again, pregnant with dc3 and realised how popular it is.

Agree with teen you keep hearing the name because you are now so attuned to it. Ps I love the name Jack and dh is pushing for Sam. I was one of 4 girls in my primary class with my name, don't know any one of the same name now!!

Spannaboo I love the name Eve, it was stolen by another relative before I could use it. God how "common" am I? Mumsnet name police will be calling to my house to accuse me of being chavvy, unoriginal and letting the side down

rubbersoul · 02/09/2010 15:13

What's his name newmum? We might be able to help rest your mind!

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newmum265 · 02/09/2010 15:37

Ok his name is Conor...... I dont want a nickname because its not that I dont want the name its just the common thing gets to me.
ps Spannaboo: I LOVE the name Evie - I think it is gorge and was in my favourite lists for girls.

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daisystone · 02/09/2010 15:44

Spanaboo - the name Eve is gorgeous. Evie is sweet for a little one but when she hits teenage years/adulthood, Eve will be beautiful. I always think it is a very chic and elegant name.

NoTeaForMe · 02/09/2010 16:11

Conor really isn't that popular where I am. I have worked in nurseries and schools for 10 years and have only ever known 1 Connor.

If that's the name you love I would stick with it, especially given the age of your son and that you say it suits him.

daisystone · 02/09/2010 16:13

I worked in a school two years ago and can't remember any Connor's!

Lots of Kyle's and Callum's etc but not Connor.

Spannaboo · 02/09/2010 16:18

I was also going to say Newmum265 that one thing I tried was to think of 5 names I love which are not so popular and then try calling her them. She didn't suit any of them - only suits Evie! Will keep the names for any future baby. I tried calling her by her middle name too but that wasn't right either.

Perhaps you could try doing the same? You will probably find that Conor is the only right name for him and you.

Spannaboo · 02/09/2010 16:20

... and I've never met a Conor!

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newmum265 · 02/09/2010 16:42

Thanks Spannaboo. Its Conor James and it really suits him. Our original choice was James (or Jamie) but it didnt suit at all- we tried it for the first 2 weeks and it would not work! Its probably not that popular anywhere else just seems to be here. Jack is not that popular where I am but seems to be veto'd on here constantly! I love it anyway but it didnt go with our surname. I agree its probably like a car- you get a particular make and all of a sudden see them everywhere!

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rubbersoul · 02/09/2010 18:16

I have worked in education for years and can honestly say I've only met one Conor! It's a really lovely name, really- I wouldn't even consider it to be over used at all!

rubbersoul · 02/09/2010 18:22

And spannaboo Evie is just beautiful- it is popular at the moment but it's the one name that I love for if/when I have a girl!

Also, my little brother is a Jack, and people say how it's too popular but he's only ever been the only one in his class, absolutely never been a problem for him and it really suits him

Bagpusstree · 02/09/2010 18:22

I don't know any Conors if that helps!

Lizzieloubee · 02/09/2010 18:25

I know lots of Connors. But thet are all teens, not small babies. You could call him CJ for a nickname, but Connor is a nice name :)

minipen · 02/09/2010 18:34

There are 2 Connors at my daughters high school, none at youngests primary, not too high a rate in over 1300 children, just asked them for you now they are looking at me strangely!

hester · 02/09/2010 18:40

Same thing happened to me, OP. I feel your pain. But I don't actually know any Connors.

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