Need name in two hours time!!!!

[Funkycherry]

We have an appointment to register our daughters birth at 3pm.
Still can't decide on a name.

Trouble is, you just can't MAKE yourself like a name if you don't.

So far have:
Sophie Elizabeth
Emily Grace
Katie Elizabeth
but I don't LOVE any of them.

There are plenty of other names I like, but DH doesn't.

Daughter is just over 3wks old and DH and I just can't seem to agree on anything.

I sat crying about it last night as I know I'll just give in and agree to something I don't really like which makes me so sad.

Funkycherry, just read your post properly and this is exactly what happened to me. My x had very conservative taste and Elizabeth was one of his four names. The name was a compromise name.

I'd hold out. Tell us the names you love. Tell him that in the same way he has rejected the names you love, you are rejecting this list. You have another three weeks, and then you can extend again I think. NOTHING happens if you're a bit late registering! they won't slap you!!

Dont be pushed into a compromise name.

I wish I'd been more assertive.

crossed posts - will he not agree to Elizabeth then?

You do like popular but traditional names. Try the top 100 to see if you can find something you both love.

Ava
I love Lily too - maybe a variant of it would be OK to him...hmm...thinking

I like Freya and Megan from your list.

Is it that he likes conservative names?

WOuld he agree to Margaret with nn Megan?

Libby is actually similar to LIly.

Could you call her Elizabeth/Libby? (I love that by the way).

Cancel the appt and make one just before the 6 week deadline.

We didn't decide up until last minute (the night before and in the car on the way for DDs middle name)and DH suddenly decided he'd liked one that he'd ignored all along.

You can always change a name within the first year (i think) but it would be a shame and slightly weird.

Delay the appointment. Please. you and your DH will regret this if you're not happy.

Also, can you talk to your DH about different nicknames/long versions of the names you love?

does he like Jess? Or Lilith? Meg? etc. that way you might find there's a name he'd be more prepared to call her and you can get the long version of what ever it is registered. (actually, there are loads of names that Lily can be the nick name for, would you compromise on one of those and you can always call her Lily)

Agree - cancel the appointment! You've got three more weeks.

Try calling her by one of the names you have on your list for a day. See how you feel. We did that with DS2. Then I decided I didn't want that name and we were back to square one.

In the end DH printed out the top 100 names for the last 5 years. He asked me to pick a number between 1 and 100. Then he read me the name at that number of popularity for the five years. For four of them the name was one of the other ones we had been discussing. We took it as a sign. Job done.

My other advice is to try one of the following arguments (friends have used these):

• I went through the agony of giving birth so I get to have the final say although your views will be taken into account and ignored
• I have the final say over girls' names and you have the final say over boys' names although your views will be taken into account and ignored

I know hormones are playing a part, but seriously, I can't believe how pathetic I'm being.
Crying and sat here dreading him coming home to take me to appointment.

I'll feel awful if I make him cancel as
1> he's taken the afternoon off work so we can do it.
2> I'm sick of people asking us (esp' in-laws who seem to think we need help and come up with daft suggestions
3> Really not sure more time would help.

You can register 'baby' and change it up to aged 12 months, so don't panic!

Cecily Margot is my contribution.
Congratulations on her birth

Isabelle Grace

Mary Elizabeth

Penelope Grace

Charlotte Niamh

Sophia Grace

Eliza Rose

Chloe Isabelle

Isla May

Lila Rose

cancel the appointment and spend the afternoon off doing something nice together instead - take your lovely little daughter out for a walk in the park or go out for coffee and cake. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be upset and this is one of the most important decisions you can make!

Other suggestions -

Isabel- similar to Elizabeth and very pretty.
Rebecca - a classic, not too popular anymore and lots of NN potential.

Is it any help to say that I have never been all that bothered about names for our DCs because I know that once they have got them I think that's the most wonderful name EVER and feel sorry for any other child not called that? I more or less let DH decide the first two, with a few you-must-be-jokings (Dolores, anyone? )

My DD has a very ordinary, classic name and I love it so much. Because it's hers. And I automatically like anyone called the same thing because they have such a wonderful name. A name I was - meh - about for 37 years before she was born.

I love Cecily Margot CaptainNancy

Can you phone him to see if he can re-arrange his time off? Does he need to be there - I know it's nice to both go, but as you're married I believe either of you can do it.

I realise more time might not make a difference in terms of the name you decide on, but it might mean you feel less panicked about it.

I think Elizabeth is lovely - what about Elizabeth Freya? That way, you both have an input.

Look, I went with dh's suggestion for our ds's name because I really couldn't think of anything at all I liked despite all the names out there and all the baby naming books in the world. Said ds is now 6 and suits his name. I will never be "in love" with the name but I like it and it is ds iyswim. More time for more would not have achieved anything. I am never likely to be pg again but I would still have the same predicament boy or girl as there is nothing that jumps out at me.

Good luck with naming your little girl. I will throw in a couple of suggestions though:-

Lara Elaine

Talia Louise

Imogen Luisa

You seem to like a first name with nn potential so maybe:

Imogen (Immy, Genny)
Annabel (Anna, Annie, Bella)
Olivia (Oli, Liv)
Isobel (Izzy, Bella)
Eleanor (Ellie, Lenni)
Theresa (Tess, Terry)

Middle names:
Hope
Alice
Grace

If you really can't decide though yet, just put it off, a couple of weeks doesn't matter

Oh, another tip is to get your dd's photo and place it above each of the individual names, written out.
When it looks right, that's the one

Eva Catherine

balloonslayer, I know what you mean, I went to school with children with the same names as my children, and if you'd told me as a teenager, see that boy? see that girl? one day you'll have children with those names, I'd have been

I think all the names you suggest are beautiful (and I am very picky!). I know it is a serious decision, but the bigger you make it, the more the chance that you will never agree.

Any little girl would be fine with any of those lovely names - god compared to some of the names you hear on here!!!!! If it was me I would go with the Elizabeth Grace combination!

BTW for future reference I recommend coming up with a shortlist prior to baby arriving, and then play the old 'I've just given birth' card and make as decision as soon as the baby arrives. I did this with both mine!

pls cancel your appointment and make another. I did exactly this as could not decide on name for dd2. I always post on name regret threads as my ds has a name which I have never loved and I regret this. therefore there was no way I was allowing dd2 to have a name I didn't love.
In the end I struggled with her middle name and wrote both names on a piece of paper. I loved both names for different reasons and the one I pulled out of the "hat" was not the one I wanted iykwim.
Am really happy with her names.

my mil was texting and ringing every day for dd2 middle name. I either ignored her or told her we had not deciced (which we hadn't) in the end, dh told her to back off as I was getting cross with her.

Incidentally, am changing ds middle name by deed poll to alleviate my feelings towards his name.

So after that epic post, I would just take your time. Am sure you have looked in books, but what about meanings, or family connections etc.

good luck!!

Cancel the appointment and give yourself some time. Your hormones will still be all over the place and this is an important decision so don't be hard on yourself.

I had the same thing with DD - felt under pressure to announce a name along with the birth and then agonised over choice right up until registering and even after that I still kept trying different names on her for the first 12 months. I'm still not entirely sure about it even now if I'm perfectly honest (which is probably why I am always lurking on here!)

FWIW Elizabeth is a lovely name and with so many potential nicknames she would almost certainly suit one or could change as she grew older. Or what about Anna? Pretty, strong and timeless.

Good luck!