Sharing with grandparents - no audio

[pj220]

Hey everyone,

Looking for some advice on baby monitors! We want to share access with the grandparents so they can check in on the baby, but we’d like to be able to turn off or control the audio feed when we want to (since the monitor will be in our bedroom).

Has anyone found a good option that lets you share video but disable audio as needed? Failing that, is there a camera solution that provides a nightly ‘highlights’ package so we could share that instead?

Would love to hear your recommendations or how you manage this with your own setup!

Thanks!

You seriously want a monitor that gives grandparents access to watching you/your partner/your baby in your own personal bedroom? What if you forget to turn the camera off when you’re getting changed? What if you forget to tuck your boobs back into your top after feeding baby when leaning over to place baby back into the cot? What if you/your partner just wants to walk around in your pants? I can think of so many ways that this would go wrong.

We were thinking of one of the monitors that goes points down over the crib only.

This is insane. Why on EARTH would you want that? So weird

I think this is too much. Why do you want this? When do you envisage it stopping? I think it’s a terrible idea.

This isn’t a thing that anyone really wants. Trust me. Your baby’s grandparents will love your baby. They won’t want to watch it sleep. Nor will they want to accidentally hear / see you or your partner doing all the private things that happen in bedrooms.

I'm sorry OP, I've read some weird shit on Mumsnet but giving your parents and in-laws unfettered access to a live video feed into your bedroom is about the weirdest.

What on earth is the thinking behind this?!?

This doesn’t seem like a good idea. Is this something the grandparents have asked for? It sounds like the sort of thing my mum would suggest, tbh. You can absolutely say no, it’s such an invasion of your privacy. If they haven’t asked for it, would they even use it? It feels so intrusive.

Still find it really weird, sorry. Is this your first baby? Be wary of setting a precedent that you’ll be providing constant photos/updates, because there will be days when you don’t want people having constant insight into what you’re doing with baby and when you don’t want the pressure of having to provide ‘highlights’.

"Highlights" of a baby sleeping? What?

Just get one that records so you can save cute moments and pass on.

wtf?

Remember, you'll spend time dangling over the cot in whatever you sleep in.

I agree with pp that this is a very weird idea but it sounds like you want a webcam pointed at the cot?

For security reasons I wouldn’t go down that road and take photos /video instead.

One slip up and porn fed to all the elderlies....

You can take the occasional photo or video of your baby and send it directly to them.

Or are you asking about baby monitors for when they babysit? In which case, find whatever works for you and they will have roll with it. It doesn't need to be video

This is top level PFB batshittery that only MN delivers.

No op.

I mean this kindly , but no one , not even the GPs are as invested in your child as you are. It's a beautiful thing that you love your baby this much. But no.

You know the odds of your baby sleeping in a crib for more than 3 minutes a night are slim to none, right?

MN is batshit today

🤣🤣🤣 this is a wind up right?

When are they going to watch it? Your parents, his or both?

I'm a grandparent and cannot think of a single reason why I'd want to have a video of my grandchild in their cot, however much I loved them, in my child's bedroom in another house!!
It's absolutely mad, if the grandparents asked for it they're overstepping boundaries by miles, if you suggested it to them, then you need to realise they can love your child with all their hearts but do not need to see it in its cot on video.

Why can't people just give the advice that OP has asked for, without giving their own unasked for opinions?!
Sorry OP I cannot help you with your question .

Why would you want to do this OP? I find it creepy…

I guess you all live in the same home, and they feel they need to dash in and comfort baby if he is crying and you are in the shower etc.

We do live in a multigenerational household, and it was about support.

The hatred and horrid comments on here are incredible.

Because you asked about a highlights option I am guessing you don't need this functionality for any practical purposes. Therefore I would strongly suggest you don't do this.