Sharing with grandparents - no audio

[pj220]

Hey everyone,

Looking for some advice on baby monitors! We want to share access with the grandparents so they can check in on the baby, but we’d like to be able to turn off or control the audio feed when we want to (since the monitor will be in our bedroom).

Has anyone found a good option that lets you share video but disable audio as needed? Failing that, is there a camera solution that provides a nightly ‘highlights’ package so we could share that instead?

Would love to hear your recommendations or how you manage this with your own setup!

Thanks!

It's not hatred, it's because the idea is totally bizarre and unnecessary. The baby is in its parents' room, the parents take care of the baby, there's absolutely no need for grandparents to have their own video of it.
Good god, when I had babies monitors hadn't even been invented, you just listened to hear them cry.

What is a highlights package? This is all quite weird, sorry OP!

If you live in a multi generational household, I would imagine the privacy of your bedroom is even more important. I assume the grandparents have asked for this facility but I really would think twice about it OP.

Do you mean you are still living at home, with your parents?

Do they really need access to a camera in your bedroom?!

If you live with parents you don't need a fancy monitor- just one that you pass between you. It's actually not helpful to have several people looking at a monitor as defusion of responsibility means everyone will assume someone else is checking on the baby.

So wouldn't one with a monitor that you can just have with you in the living room work just as well? Then they can see it, and you don't need to faff around with sharing anything.

OK so if you are in the bedroom you don't need the camera to be on. You are literally there, not necessary, so turn it off. If baby is sleeping in the room alone then why does audio need to be turned off? Surely hearing them is the actual point? Wanting grandparents to watch but not hear makes no sense, that's why people are finding the situation so odd.

This is a bonkers place sometimes

Hilarious!!

NO.

a wise person once said to me that the best thing she ever did for her parents relationship with her babies was to make it very clear from day one that they were not, in fact, parents AT ALL in that scenario!

Its not hatred. Speaking as a grandparent level person who is very familiar with multigenerational households I think this is inappropriate and intrusive. Both baby and parents have a right to privacy. This is a totally unnecessary level of intrusion and surveillance.

There’s no hatred, it’s a completely unnecessary and bonkers idea.

If you’re looking after the baby then they don’t need access to the monitor. They are not the babies parents. They don’t need to be “checking in” unless there’s a very specific reason that you live with them because you’re not allowed to look after your baby unsupervised.

If you’re going out, give them the monitor.

job done.

It's not hatred. It's borderline creepy. You may want to sit and watch your child sleep but I can assure you no one else is especially arsed.

Well for a start OP you left the big chunk of information about it being a multi-generational household out of your original post, but even with that information, why on earth would they need to be able to see the baby in bed while you are actually in the room with the baby?

You have a baby monitor. You monitor it. If you're going out and they're babysitting, they monitor it. It's that simple.

Grandparents peering in at the baby while you're in the same room as the baby is downright bizarre, unless the next drip feed is that you and your partner are both visually or hearing impaired (in which case they probably would want the audio feature enabled anyway).

We have that. We have the Owlet camera. It's app based and can we can share access with my parents. It's great but pricey. Grand parents love checking in on their grandbaby before bed. It takes some getting used to remembering that once the camera is on, they might be able to hear us... but not much. My parents have seen me in my pjs before, it's not a big deal that they might accidentally see us 🤷‍♀️ I rate it.

But if you want to check in before bed just face time. That's less weird.

Try CuboAI. We have it and the audio is disabled as standard, you have to select to share the audio. It also takes photos and has a highlight section if you want.

our family have access for when they babysit, although I suppose they could technically log in when at home.

Good God put your foot down and say absolutely hell no to this.

Why would anyone need a “highlights package” of a baby sleeping through the night.

If it’s for people living in the same house as you, they’re living with the baby and get to see them every day. If it’s for people not living in the same house as you, send them photos of your baby awake like a normal person.

Sharing a night time video feed is totally intrusive and unnecessary.

This idea is batshit crazy!