@Bringonthesunforthewashing hi lovely
There are some things I do have to avoid as they can cause blockages, for me it's nuts (I can still eat a few just not large quantities - peanuts are the worst) raw / not cooked well carrots. I have to really chew other foods like mushrooms or olives. There are probably things I shouldn't have, but I love food and after 3 years of being very restricted I'll take calculated risks now.
I had the surgery on a Monday and was home on the Friday. 8 weeks later I was on the fastest rollercoaster in Europe.
One of the main reasons for me pushing for surgery rather than trying other meds was that I was getting married and I didn't want to be worried about shitting myself as I said my vows.
My consultant said that I could try other meds but they couldn't say how long they would work for, so it would just be kicking the can down the road so to speak.
My stoma is very small and mostly sits flush to the skin, so I change my bag just before I go to bed. This usually lets me get a good 6 / 7 hours before it needs emptying. Before I was getting up 10 - 20 times a night to go to the loo.
I don't have to change every day but this works best for me as it helps avoid leaks. I know some people that can get 3-4 days.
I have to empty it 5/6 times a day at most; unless I've picked up a bug.
Since having it, I've learned to swim, I'm doing couch to 5k (for the 2nd time).
Getting a stoma wasn't the end of the world, it was a new beginning.